To the girl who places herself on the back burner,

Its time you stop putting everyone else's needs before your own. The world is a dark, ugly place. You have to learn to protect yourself before others. Sometimes, you have to put yourself first.

Its hard. You're used to being the fixer. Something is wrong with someone else so you put your needs to the side in order to help them. Your needs then begin to pile up. The piles then becomes to large for you to handle on your own, so you just throw them in the trash and start a new one.

But then you're left in grief, sadness. You never want to be alone or without a friend who needs you, because loneliness gives you time to think. Time to think about all you've been through. Time to think about "what could've been" and "what is to come."

It is heartbreaking that you would allow yourself push aside grieving over a lost loved one because someone else has tragic news as well.

It isn't okay to potentially fail an exam because instead of studying, you were on the phone with a classmate who can't find the answers to their study guide.

It isn't fair to loose sight of what is going on with your relationship(s) because you are trying so hard to find the right advice to give someone who is going through the same issues.

It's time you put your happiness first. Do the things you love. Stop worrying about everyone else.

It's time you stop stressing over everyone else problems. If you can't support your own weight, how will you support the burdens of others.

Its time you find peace in knowing not everyone is "fixable." You can be there for a friend in need every now and then. But you have to know when to draw the line.

It's time you learn to love yourself. It's time you start telling people that you have issues of your own to deal with. It's time to start cleaning up the piles and piles of "I'll think about it later's." After all, how can you truly help somewhen when you yourself are broken.