To the girl who lost her mother, I know you are going through a rough time in life and you are probably wondering what to do next. You do not know whether to be angry at the world, life, or even God. You think that your heart will be broken forever and you do not know how you are going to get through life without the woman who gave birth to you. You might think that you are alone in this world with your sadness and memories haunting you. However, I am here to tell you that you are not alone and people who love you surround you. You just have to open your eyes and your heart to see that.
No, your mother will not be there for your high school or college graduation, or your wedding, or the birth of your first child. This is sad, but, you have to remember who will be there and who is still in your life. Those people still matter and they need you. You may be wondering, “Who is she to try to understand and tell me how I am feeling?” I am a girl who was once walking around with the same broken heart that you have. I am a girl whose mother was not at her high school graduation, who knows her mother will not be at her college graduation, her wedding, or to see the birth of her first child. The hole in my heart was once a gigantic abyss, but now, it is a little bit better and it gets better every day.
I am not saying that losing someone like your mother is a good thing. However, great things can come out of it. After my mother passed away, my dad got remarried to a woman I love. I moved to the place where I met my closest friend, and, the road brought me to the love of my life. None of that would have happened if the unfortunate event of my mother had never taken place. While I wish for my mother every day, I would not change my life for anything. That may sound crazy but it really is not.
The whole point of this letter is to tell you that you will be okay. It does not seem like it now, but a few years down the road you will see the light at the end of the tunnel, I promise. Also, do not be angry at the world, life, or even God. This happened because, for whatever reason, it had to happen to you. Maybe it is so you can get stronger. Maybe it is to learn more about yourself. Or maybe, just maybe, it is to see the good that could come out of something so horrible. I am sorry that this happened to you but do not let yourself wallow in that abyss forever. I promise you can get through it.
