To The Girl Who Feels Unlovable

To The Girl Who Feels Unlovable

You deserve love.

First off, I know how you feel. I have been there and sometimes I still find myself there. You have a smile that brightens a room, but nobody would expect you of all people to feel so unloved. You disguise the self-doubt with jokes and laughter, but deep down in the pit of your stomach you feel defeated.

I don't know who made you feel this way, maybe it was an ex, or a friend, maybe even a family member, but it's simply not true. You are so loved and so lovable, and any person who makes you feel otherwise shouldn't have the privilege of being a part of your life.

Something I have learned throughout my life is that you can't make everyone like you, and you definitely can't make everyone love you. And that's okay. If someone dislikes you then so be it. If you love someone and they don't love you back then whatever. But don't ever, ever, EVER allow anyone to make you feel like you're hard to love.

The right people will love you for you. Unconditional and unwavering love comes from within. It's what we all deserve. Nobody is perfect, but every single person on this earth deserves to feel loved. Don't try to find your worth in a relationship or friends, first you need to find it in yourself. Love yourself and the right people will come along.

Remind yourself of what makes you so great and remind yourself of the awesome people already in your life that love you. I think of God's unconditional love. He loves me no matter what. That's the type of love we should mirror.

In any relationship you're going to make mistakes. You might unintentionally hurt someone you love, and they may hurt you, too. But a person that truly loves you will love you through the good and the bad. Don't beat yourself up because someone wasn't able to love you. That has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

Love yourself enough to know when you deserve better. If someone makes you feel unlovable or you feel like you constantly have to prove yourself worthy to be loved, then that person isn’t right for you. You need to hold your head high and know you can do better. Know that if someone isn't capable to love you that it doesn't mean you're not someone to be loved. Someday someone out there will love you for all that you are.

My sister once told me, "How can you truly appreciate happiness and love without having experienced sadness and heartbreak? Every feeling we have is based on comparison to something else. Good? By what measurement? Bad? Compared to what? At some point you will have people stand by you and you will appreciate them so much more because you know how it feels to be abandoned."

The feeling sucks. Someday because you have experienced the feelings of heartbreak, loss, and lack of love, you will be able to fully and wonderfully appreciate the right love when you finally find it. You are so loved and someday someone will show you what you've been missing out on. For now, love yourself. The rest will follow.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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'Taste The Rainbow' But Not Because Skittles Said To

The health benefits of eating a wide range of fruits and vegetables


Does everyone know that fruits and vegetables are good for you, but do you know why they are considered to be nutritious?

Some may believe the answer is because they have low caloric value, which isn't wrong but they provide so much more. They possess phytochemicals.

Phytochemicals are naturally occurring compounds found in plant foods that provide the fruit and vegetables their color, taste, and odor. More than that, each phytochemical comes with its health benefits.

There are seven mechanisms of action or ways that phytochemicals are beneficial to our health.

They can either act as antioxidants which help to prevent damage to healthy cells, anti-inflammatory, chemo-preventative, support our immune system, trigger apoptosis or programmed cell death, protect our DNA, regulate hormones and finally, some may have the ability for specific actions, such as inhibiting the growth of bad bacteria.

Below is a list of phytochemicals:

1. Carotene 

Alpha and beta carotene give fruits and vegetables an orange or yellow color. Some examples of foods that are high in beta carotene are sweet potatoes, carrots, and bell peppers of those colors.

Carotene, when ingested, is converted into Vitamin A that your body can easily absorb and utilize. Carotene has been scientifically proven to help eye and heart health as well as support our immune system by acting as an antioxidant, anti-inflammatory and possessing chemo-preventive factors.

2. Lycopene 

Think tomatoes. The phytochemical lycopene is responsible for the red color in whole plant foods. The health effects are acting as antioxidants, anti-inflammatory, chemo-preventative but also good for DNA and urinary tract health. What's cool about lycopene is that no matter how you prepare your food, you don't lose any of the nutrients.

3. Chlorophyll 

Eat your greens. Chlorophyll-rich foods appear green. Some excellent sources include dark leafy greens and broccoli. Chlorophyll, like the other phytochemicals are known to be antioxidants, anti-inflammatory and chemo-preventative. Choosing foods that have a rich and vibrant color indicate that is a good source of that phytochemical.

So, next time you're in the produce aisle, be sure to choose your colors wisely.

4. Anthocyanin

Anthocyanins are those foods that are red, blue and purple. Any type of berry is an excellent source of antioxidants. Antioxidants combat damage to cells by helping balance those that are unstable. Cells become unsteady when they have an uneven pairing of protons and electrons so antioxidants essentially give an electron to the cells that need it.

5. Reservatrol

The color purple. Just as every phytochemical mentioned, resveratrol contains antioxidants, anti-inflammatory and chemo-preventative agents. That's the beauty of phytochemicals. Reservartrol also takes it a step further to help brain and bone health. Studies have proven that eating foods rich in resevatrol also help to protect against age-related diseases.

If you want to learn more about the health benefits of phytochemicals, please check out this wonderful book!

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