To The Girl Who Feels Alone

To The Girl Who Feels Alone

You’ve been proven right, no matter how strongly you wish to be proven wrong.

To the girl who wakes up to a blank phone, no texts or notifications welcoming her back. Who leaves a party to sit in the hallway just to see if anyone would notice she’s left.

To the girl who’s surrounded by so many people — by colleagues and professors and strangers on the street — who still feels lost in that sea of people, forgotten, overlooked and ignored.

You may find yourself asking why you put faith in those who end up tossing you aside. “Don’t have such high expectations of people,” your mother says, “they’ll let you down.” You may find yourself thinking how sad it is that those words ring true, that you know deep down people will disappoint you. You may ask why you’re so cynical, why you doubt the friendships you’ve made and the motives of those around you.

Because you’ve been proven right, no matter how strongly you wish to be proven wrong.

To the girl who feels alone, sitting on her bed, her bare nails tapping on lit up keys. Who questions everything, who is skeptical of love, who thinks she will never know true happiness…

Stop. Stop typing. Stop questioning.


Yes, people may disappoint you, yes, you may feel unnoticed and unwanted. But there’s something quite extraordinary about you, the girl who feels alone. You have something no one else has.

You have yourself.

You have a heart that loves and a mind that cares, a hand that gives and arms that embrace.

And that is enough.

I am enough.

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An Open Letter To The Girl Trying To Get Healthy Again

"I see you eating whatever you want and not exercising" - Pants

Dear girl trying to get back in shape,

I know it's hard. I know the hardest thing you may do all day is walk into the gym. I know how easy it is to want to give up and go eat Chicken McNuggets, but don't do it. I know it feels like you work so hard and get no where. I know how frustrating it is to see that person across the table from you eat a Big Mac every day while you eat your carrots and still be half of your size. I know that awful feeling where you don't want to go to the gym because you know how out of shape you are. Trust me, I know.

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The important thing is you are doing something about it. I'm sure you get mad at yourself for letting your body get this out of shape, but life happens. You have made a huge accomplishment by not having a soda in over a month, and those small changes are huge. I understand how hard it is, I understand how frustrating it is to not see results and I understand why you want to give up. Being healthy and fit takes so much time. As much as I wish you could wake up the day after a good workout with the 6 pack of your dreams, that just isn't the reality. If being healthy was easy, everyone would do it, and it wouldn't feel so good when you got there.

Remember how last January your resolution was to get back in the gym and get healthy again? Think about how incredible you would look right now if you would have stuck with it. The great thing is that you can start any time, and you can prove yourself wrong.

Tired of starting over? Then don't give up.

You are only as strong as your mind. You will get there one day. Just be patient and keep working.

Nothing worth having comes easy. If you want abs more than anything, and one day you woke up with them, it wouldn't be nearly as satisfying as watching your body get stronger.

Mental toughness is half the battle. If you think you are strong, and believe you are strong, you will be strong. Soon, when you look back on the struggle and these hard days, you will be so thankful you didn't give up.

Don't forget that weight is just a number. What is really important is how you feel, and that you like how you look. But girl, shout out to you for working on loving your body, because that shit is hard.

To the girl trying to get healthy again, I am so proud of you. It won't be easy, it will take time. But keep working out, eating right, and just be patient. You will be amazed with what your body is capable of doing.

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3 Helpful Ways To Deal With Hate And Negativity When You're Receiving

It's your life, not theirs.

For the past several years of my life, I have had to learn how to deal with hate. Specifically, how to deal with hate that comes from those who are closest to you. Sure, it's easy most of the time to disregard the hate and negativity that comes from strangers, but when it's your friends, family, or romantic partner, it can be a lot harder. Absolutely nothing hurts more than having someone so close to you make you feel degraded, weak, or stupid. This can be a hard thing to overcome, but here are just a few things to keep in mind in dealing with hate from others around you.

1. It's Your Life.

At the end of the day, it is your life, not theirs, and you should live it how you want to. If your family and friends are truly concerned with your well being, that's one thing. But, if they are constantly telling you how to live, what to do, who to be, that is something you shouldn't let get to you. At the end of the day, you have to do what is going to be the best for you, and what is going to bring you the most happiness, and if someone doesn't approve, that's their problem. Don't mold your life to fit the expectations or desires of others about how you should be. Just be you. Just do your thing.

2. It is Okay to Shut Out the Haters.

This is a big lesson I've had to learn over the years. I used to be the type of person who would let people walk all over me without any consequence, and all that brought me was more pain. Today, I've learned that sometimes it can be okay to block people, or shut them out of your life. If an individual is truly dragging you down, whether it be friends or family, sometimes you have to just let them go and continue on your path of life. Whether it be mentally blocking them out, or actually barring their contact with you, blocking out the haters is okay.

3. Don't Let Past Hate Haunt You.

This is another big lesson I've had to learn over the years. In fact, every day I am still learning to implement this into my personal life. So many times we let things that people did or said to us in the past haunt us into the future. There have actually been instances where years later, I was still judging myself based on something that someone said to me ages ago. That is not okay. That is not healthy. There are always going to be people in your life who don't approve of every decision you make, and there are going to be people who voice those opinions louder than others. Let it roll off your shoulders. Don't carry the hate around with you, because that baggage can get really heavy, really fast. Forget about past hate. Focus on your present self and where you will be going in the future.

While it is almost impossible to escape hate altogether, it is possible to manage how it affects your life. Don't let negativity from other people dictate how you live your life, or how you think about yourself. It's your life, not theirs, so keep doing you and don't let anyone hold you back.

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