To The Girl Who Doesn’t Think She Is Anything Special

To The Girl Who Doesn’t Think She Is Anything Special

Moving On Isn't The Easiest

I see you. I see you sitting over there all heartbroken and upset. I see you sitting there wondering if you will ever be good enough for anyone. I also see you sitting over there upset over a guy that has made you feel like you aren't worth anything.

The male ego is a fragile thing, it can break at an instant but it will grow and inflate at the drop of a hat. Males having confidence is great and all but when they become so engrossed with themselves that tearing women down is the only thing that can make them feel good about themselves along with pulling at the insecurities of young girls just to stroke their ego... That's where it becomes a problem.

I know this first hand because it has personally happened to me. Let me just give you an example of my favorite one, “I didn’t actually like you anyway, you are just fat and lazy.” No, you did like me until I turned you down. Now you are just butthurt and this is the only way you can make yourself feel better about being rejected!

It’s honestly sad. It’s sad that they feel the need to completely humiliate you because they can’t take rejection. When they lash out at a woman like this, it is a result of their ego being cracked and bruised which by no means is okay. It is the farthest thing from okay. It is the worst thing you could do because eventually, the girl starts to think she is no good.

Life gets rough sometimes and there isn’t anything you can do about it. You just have to let this phase in your life pass by. Eventually, you will learn how much you really deserve and won’t settle for anything less than that.

The truth is, yes, you will be good enough for someone at some point in your life! It might not be right now but your time is coming! It’s hard to move on from someone when you start to develop a “crush” on them, and it kills you because there is no way to change the other person... Which makes you wonder; am I good enough? Am I that bad to talk to? Am I annoying? All these what ifs run through your head and it’s killing you.

I sometimes find myself in the same place you are, lost and confused as to what’s wrong with me... Always asking if there is something wrong with me. Then I realize that I live in a small town and talk to the same people I grew up with. I need to get out of here and start a new life.

Just know that you are worth something and you are beautiful! Don’t let anyone tell you differently! Don’t change for anyone but yourself! So, with that all being said, go out there and prove to all those guys that ever told you that you weren’t beautiful that you are beautiful and will succeed in life!

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6 Degrees Of Frat-Boy Break-Up

What it feels like to be broken up with by a college frat boy. Girls, hear me out.


Dealing with a breakup or "catching feelings," these poems relate the unsaid feelings girls experience mid-relationship or post-break-up, especially after dating "Mr. Hot-Shot" on campus.

These poems are in the order of the thoughts and stages after a breakup from a girl's perspective.

1. "Feelings"

You know they are coming
You try to
abolish &
destroy them
Yet, here they are
You caught them

"Feelings" by Gabriel Rye

"Why Can't He Love Me"

Entering slowly, He came like a thief in the night
Sharing His thoughts and feelings, Childhood memories
Creating a story She could only wished to have been apart of
Building Himself up, Tearing Her guard down

Embracing Her body, but never Her soul
Loving the high, but never the girl
Ruining Her innocence
And breaking Her trust

The cycle repeats
Holding hands with Yet another
Sharing a kiss with a few
Breaking Their hearts, His insecurities

He calls Them crazy
They call him drunk late at night
When will She know She is worth more
When will She love Herself the way She wants Him too

"The Cycle Repeats" by Gabriel Rye

3. "W.T.F"

W. why do I give more of myself to those who don't appreciate me
T. too many times I've been hurt, yet I keep letting my guard down
F. for all the times I've heard fake "i love you"s

"W.T.F" by Gabriel Rye

4. "Late Night Thoughts"

I do not know if it's my eyes wondering for something more or my heart.
~11:28 pm

"November 06th, 2018" by Gabriel Rye

5. "Uneasy"

feelings overflowing.
my walls being torn down.
shut out once again.
your eyes were cold.
yet i felt warm with you.
more work.
more responsibility.
less money.
less time.
i gave my time to you.
wasted energy.
needing the high once again.
im uneasy.

-the unspoken thoughts of a college student

"Uneasy" by Gabriel Rye

While many of these poems are pessimistic, they also relate the true sentiments girls feel after

a break-up. Hopefully, if you are going through a breakup or rough patch in your relationship,

these poems let you know that you are not alone and you will come out stronger and better than

before. While not all frat boys are bad, this experience has made it more clear of how girls

(and myself) should be treated. Do not ever settle for less than what you deserve. College is a time to find yourself and learn from your experiences, so enjoy your life and maybe even try talking to that cute athlete that sits

next to you in your Calculus class?

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