To The Girl Who Cannot Let Him Go
Start writing a post

To The Girl Who Cannot Let Him Go

Before you can find the love you deserve, you have to learn to let him go.

To The Girl Who Cannot Let Him Go

It's a never-ending cycle, isn't it? One minute you're mad at him, calling him all kinds of names and swearing you want him out of your life "for good." The next you're hanging out with him, too embarrassed to tell us so we find out through Snapchats and your shady behavior.

He has changed you. He has made you so fragile... so sensitive. Everything always comes back to him. Every new guy gets compared to him and they can never seem to "measure up". How sad is it that you have come to think that these guys are not as good as the boy who tore you apart and didn't stick around to put you back together again. He disappeared when things got tough but reappeared when it benefited him.

That boy is smart, if nothing else. He treats you terribly, makes you cry, but then knows exactly what to say to keep you around. You hang onto those times he treats you right, hoping they show a glimpse into what he could become in the future. You seem to overlook those long, hard nights in those moments. But I can't.

Maybe you have come to think, in some twisted way, that you deserve this treatment. Maybe you feel you have been through too much together to just let him go now. Maybe you're addicted to the fighting because for once someone cares enough to actually fight with you.

There has been progress. You have gone days without texting him, sometimes even weeks. But something, somehow always brings you right back to him. Despite the hours long talks about how you know you can't text him and go back, it always happens. There's that never-ending cycle again.

The thing I wish you could understand is that you really truly do not deserve it and will find someone so much better. You do not deserve someone who gets mad and only talks to you when he is ready. You do not deserve someone who always puts himself first. You do not deserve someone who only treats you kindly until he is sure he's won you over (again).

You have so much to offer someone; your kind heart and caring attitude are envied by everyone around you. You want to offer this boy everything you have; you want to give him the stability, love, and support you are hoping he has to offer you too. But he is cold. He is broken. He has began to teach you that no matter how much you give, it will never be enough. It scares me and I worry about you.

I hope that one day you see him for the monster he truly is. That you realize this time you really can't go back. There are guys who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated; they will appreciate you and love you like they are the luckiest guy in the world. But before you can find the love you deserve, you have to let him go. You cannot find this kind of love if you keep him around.

Know that I never get tired of hearing about him. I believe the healing process primarily consists of speaking as well as being heard. But do realize also it is hard to spend countless hours talking to you about formulating a new plan about moving forward, only for you to fall back and reenter the cycle once again. Giving advice can get exhausting if it ultimately gets ignored every time. But he is the one to blame; he tells you all the right things and says he hates me and not to listen to me. You don't even have to tell me. I already know, because like I said, he is smart and knows all the right things to say to make you do what he wants.

I pray you find closure. I pray you realize you are strong enough to let him go and are better off without him. I hope that one day you will realize all he was keeping you from and how much you are truly worth. I hope you love a man like never before and know he will love you even more than that. Someone like you doesn't deserve to be hung up on someone like him. You'll find someone better but he never will and that's why he can't seem to let you go either. It's a dangerous cycle that needs to be broken, but I believe in you.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.

23 Pandemic-Approved Date Ideas That'll Send Sparks Flying From Six Feet Apart

There's a safe way to date right now and yes, it includes masks.


While some people would rather opt out of dating altogether during the pandemic so they don't have to wear a mask on a first date, others are choosing to listen to both guidelines and their heart in order to find love during the time of coronavirus (COVID-19).

Should you be one of the individuals welcoming romance right now, there are pandemic-approved dates you can go on that still adhere to guidelines (and yes, you'll have to wear a mask).

Keep Reading... Show less

I didn't believe the notification when it came through to my phone: Ruth Bader Ginsburg had died from complications due to cancer.

Keep Reading... Show less

In our patriarchal society, men hide from their feelings, but toxic masculinity is literally killing men. They swallow the pain and move on so that they can look, feel, and act "tough."

But, strength is derived from asking for help and voicing your struggle and, trust me, working on your mental health is one hell of a struggle. The real way to "man up" is to acknowledge the downfalls in unjust societal norms. Mental health problems do not mean that a man is weak, they are neurologically-based disorders that require professional treatment.

Keep Reading... Show less

11 Things Your Boyfriend Should Do Before He Drops $499 On A PS5

Let's start with spending less time gaming and more time with you.


Scrolling through Twitter this week had me rolling on the floor laughing as I read some of the hilarious tweets from ladies who, whether in a relationship or not, shared reactions to the news that PlayStation 5 is on its way

As this "buy your boyfriend a PS5" joke takes off across the internet, let's just say, there are a few things your BF should be doing before dropping $499 on the new gaming system — or, if the tweets are real for some, before you buy it for him as a gift.

Keep Reading... Show less
Politics and Activism

Sorry, But 'I Don’t Care About Politics' Is Not A Valid Excuse For NOT Voting

The younger generation of voters is so crucial to the upcoming election because our vote is going to shape the world that we are about to enter as adults.


When I ask my friends if they are voting this term most of them respond with "no" followed by an explanation of "I don't care enough," "It doesn't affect me," or "I don't keep up with politics," etc. I get it, as a college student I know that there are many other things to be concerned about like school, relationships, work, and friends. I also understand that keeping up with politics can seem like trying to keep up with an over-exaggerated reality show that has way too many seasons. Not to mention most news stations and websites are biased so it's hard to decipher if what you hear is true or fake.

However, despite all of this annoyance, as the next generation of Americans, we have to remember that we owe it to ourselves, our families, and to our futures to care.

Keep Reading... Show less
Tasia Sli

Tasia Sli and Anna Yang met in quintessential New York fashion at a chic rooftop event, inquisitive Yale grad Anna gravitating towards model/entrepreneur Tasia.

Keep Reading... Show less
Photo by Anna Hernández-Buces

"Do you have big parties on Cinco de Mayo?"

Keep Reading... Show less

Two of my favorite things in life are reading and books. Obviously, they go hand-in-hand. In my life, I've realized that there is nothing better than learning about the current world or getting fully immersed in another world. Reading can inspire, teach, and entertain you.

For me, the feeling of opening a book and smelling that fresh book smell can't compete with anything else.

Keep Reading... Show less

Expecting mother and wife to singer/songwriter John Legend may have accidentally slipped up and revealed the gender of her and Legend's third baby today on her Instagram story.

Keep Reading... Show less

20 Books About Latin And Hispanic Heritage Absolutely Everyone Should Have On Their Bookshelf

Any ally of the community needs to be reading these incredible reads.


I go through phases when it comes to what I like to read. I am typically reading two books at any given time: one serious nonfiction and one escapist fiction novel to have on hand and open up depending on my mood.

What remains consistent, however, amongst most of my fellow bibliophiles is a desire to try new and different authors and genres. I, as an Indian woman, have been partial to reading books written by fellow Indian and Desi writers since I first got a library card.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

I Asked 46 Women What They Thought About The Term 'Plus-Size', And Here's What They Had To Say

It's 2020, where change is inevitable and norms are not only questioned, but challenged.


We live in a world where it's become customary to push boundaries, break rules, and question standards upheld by society. Though try as we might, some of these standards are harder to conquer than others — body image is one of the top contenders.

For years, the body positivity movement has pushed for the acceptance of all marginalized body types not represented or celebrated in the media. Recently, we've gotten better at appreciating and accepting all body types, but one thing that's still lingering is the stigma of body image in the fashion industry — more specifically, the term "plus-size."

Keep Reading... Show less

Many popular TV shows are holding off premiers until spring, so most people are relying on their television subscriptions to get them through a socially distant fall semester.

Thankfully, Netflix was busy filming this past year because there is a ton of new original content coming in the near future. From mysteries to romances, here are some of the best new shows you have to check out this year:

Keep Reading... Show less

Taylor Swift Sang 'betty' At The ACMs And It Was The Perfect First Live 'folklore' Performance

I guarantee that Inez is spreading rumors about how fire this performance was.


The Academy of Country Music Awards were last night and the performances were wonderful, but Taylor Swift's live version of "betty" from her newest album "folklore" really took the cake for me.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

9 Reasons I Unfollowed All The Fitness Influencers On My Instagram Feed

I don't need to feel bad about myself because of who I follow on social media.


Throughout quarantine, something that a lot of us picked up on was working out. With all the free time, it seemed like the perfect opportunity to work on that "dream bod" you've been wanting for years, or to just feel good about yourself.

A common way to stay motivated and keep yourself on-task is to follow fitness influencers on various platforms. For some people, yes, this can be a healthy and helpful way to keep your drive. In other cases, however, this can do more harm than good.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments