To The Girl Trying To Turn Off Her Emotions

To The Girl Trying To Turn Off Her Emotions

We've all been there a time or two and found a way to push through.

Anybody find that switch yet? That one that makes it all go away, makes you numb, makes it so that you can't feel that pain in your chest or that weight on your shoulders anymore? Well if you have, let me know how you did it. Or maybe, don't. Everything happens for a reason, right? I don't know about that. But I do know this. It's something I have to remind myself of every once in a while. As much as you want to turn it off, don't. It's not worth it.

It's definitely not as easy as it sounds. Trust me. I've been there, heck I'm still there. I've tried to shut it off. I've wanted nothing more than a blank slate, for those words I didn't want to hear to be erased from my memory. To hit a switch and not feel anymore. To not remember the boy who broke my heart. To forget losing that person who meant so much to me. It sucks. Really. It does. But I hate to break it to you, and to myself, there's no on/off switch that's going to make it all be okay. It's not that simple. If it were, we would all be shells going through motions and not experiencing life. We're all dealing with some sort of emotional turmoil we don't think we can handle, and not feeling would make it so much easier. At least we think it would.

We have all faced situations we wish we could get out of, met "the one" and then discovered that they really weren't, no matter how much you wanted them to be. You may go through what feels like hundreds of heartbreaks, or maybe you`ll only have to deal with a couple, but either way, they`re hard and take a toll on you, and somehow you have to make it through.

How could something that makes you feel like it's the end of the world bring you any closer to the beginning of something great? I haven't figured that part out yet either. I'm still waiting on the hurt to go away and when it starts to lessen its grip on me, something or someone else always seems to comes along and put it right back. I know it`s not just me, that others experience these same feelings and are torn between giving up or pushing through it, but that doesn`t make it easier. If you`re lucky it makes you stronger, ready to face the next challenge.

It hurts, but that's supposed to happen. Life happens. And then we move on, or at least try to, learning from that experience. Now that journey may be long. It may take months, even years, and there's going to be more pain, more loss, more heartbreak, but it's going to be worth it in the end. At least that's what I tell myself. And for now, that's just enough to get me through the day.


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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won’t see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won’t laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won’t go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They’ll miss you. They’ll cry.

You won’t fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won’t get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won’t be there to wipe away your mother’s tears when she finds out that you’re gone.

You won’t be able to hug the ones that love you while they’re waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won’t be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won’t find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won’t celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won’t turn another year older.

You will never see the places you’ve always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You’ll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it’s not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don’t let today be the end.

You don’t have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It’s not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I’m sure you’re no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won’t do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you’ll be fine.” Because when they aren’t, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

For help, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

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An Open Letter To The Person Feeling Everything Is Too Much

The strongest people to exist struggle the most.


Hey, you.

I heard through the grapevine that life's got you in the dumps. You're feeling overwhelmed by your surroundings, stressed by your responsibilities, sensitive to the things that people are saying; everything just feels like it is too much. It almost feels like you're stuck in a room filling up with water. You know that the door opens, but you're numbed by the circumstances; you can't get yourself to take hold of that handle, so you just stand there, frozen in time. You feel the water rising up around your body, and with every inch it gains, you get even more overwhelmed. Maybe the water flooding in contains your schoolwork, your family dynamic, your drama within your friend group, your relationship status, internal anger about who you are or aren't, or hell, maybe all of these.

You feel like life is throwing rogue waves at you left and right, and you can't understand it. Why is this happening to me? Why is life trying to break me?

Well, let me tell you something that has taken me years to even grasp, let alone fully understand.

The strongest people to exist struggle the most. They are given some of the most intricately woven issues that may not have a black and white solution but live somewhere within the gray. Things pile up and upon them until everything feels like too much. And you know what they do, the strongest people to exist?

They break.

They stand there, trapped in that water-filling room, and let the water seep in. They don't open that door, they don't take the easy way out. They stand there, thinking about what is being thrown at them, not knowing what to do. They let the water overwhelm them, completely filling the room. And right when they feel that they can't take this anymore, like everything is too much, the door breaks... they break. The strongest become the weakest as they float out of the room, carried by the rushing water filled with their burdens. They lay washed up on the shore, weaker than ever... broken and cracked, frozen and numbed by life.

While they lay there broken and numb, weakness does something so immaculate and beautiful: it settles into the brokenness and the cracks like fresh, fertile soil, planting the seeds of wisdom and strength. Over time as it continues to rain, wisdom and strength grow throughout their bones like vines, making them even stronger than they were before they got trapped in that room before they broke. The strongest people to exist break frequently, so that room can be made for more love, more strength, and more wisdom than imaginable.

Now you may be thinking, why this analogy? What are you getting at?

I want you to know, and read this closely: it is okay to break. It's okay to let everything feel like it's too much because you know what? Sometimes it is, it just is. Sometimes, you have to just stand there, and let yourself feel. Let it explode and wash over you. Let it leave you cracked. Once the explosion has ridden its course. analyze the broken pieces you feel inside. Look at them individually and try to find the root of that feeling. Finding the knowledge behind that feeling means that you now know how to fight back. So you know what you do? You piece yourself back together, slowly but surely, using wisdom as the glue, and you come back stronger than ever before.

You have to break before you can grow. Let yourself feel, feel all of it. Break and be grown anew.

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