To The Girl Romanticizing

To The Girl Romanticizing

Don't worry honey, I am too.

I totally get it. I am too.

I mean, how we can not? Love is everywhere. It's in the media, on television shows, embedded in song lyrics, scripted perfectly in novels, our friends have it, our family members have it, when will it be our turn?

When you hear love songs come on in the car, you dream of the day your future lover will sing that song to you. When you watch movies, you fantasize about the man in the movie who says the perfect words to win the girl's heart.

I know you spend your nights wide awake thinking of all of the possibilities of when your prince charming will finally come into your life. Don't worry honey, I do too.

From little and on, Disney covered our television screens with unrealistic expectations as to what love is and how we were going to find it. We imagined our prince would kiss us and all of our troubles would go away like Snow White. We thought our prince charming was going to search for us at all costs like Cinderella. We hoped for the day a man would look at us the way Flynn Ryder looked at Rapunzel or Prince Eric looked at Ariel, but that is not going to happen.

You wait day in and day out for your love story to come, but it never does.

You wanna know why?

We are not Disney Princesses.

We are not actresses, script writers, or musicians.

We cannot enact someone's made up love story. Instead, we have to create our own.

I know you won't believe me when I say this, but your time will come soon, I promise.

Your prince charming may not come riding a horse or driving the fastest car in town. He may not have a perfectly defined jaw line or the biggest muscles, but that stuff doesn't matter.

What does matter, though, is his ability to light up your life with his smile. His ability to make you laugh until your stomach hurts. He will make you stronger, happier, and appreciative. He will allow you to trust again and help break down your walls. He will make you a better person each and every day and his heart will love you ten times more than any prince charming or knight in shining armor ever would.

I promise you that it won't be like the movies, it will be so much better than that because it will be your experience and yours alone. It will be an experience so great, you will laugh as you tell your future kids one day.

When the love of your life comes walking through the doors, you will know. At least that's what I've been told.

But until that day comes, stop romanticizing, stop comparing your life to the latest cheesy love story. Your time will come and it will be so much better, I promise you that.


The girl who loves love stories too.

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Why You Should Stop Chasing Him

You deserve better.

They say “the thrill of the chase" makes someone more enticing. There's just something about wanting something you can't have that drives you crazy (in a good way). There is never a dull moment. Pursuing him is a challenge. Nothing comes easily. What's the fun in that anyway?

I'm going to tell you this: stop chasing him. Stop forgiving him when he forgets to answer your text messages and phone calls. Stop being the one to always make plans. Stop letting him bail on you. Stop waiting around for him. Stop being lied to. Stop making excuses when he doesn't make time for you. There is a difference between someone who is “hard to get" and a flat out jerk who doesn't give you the time of day. Stop letting him use you.

You deserve to be with someone who makes you fall asleep every night in the middle of texting him because neither of you want the conversation to end. You deserve someone who plans dates for the two of you. You deserve someone who asks you to hang out before midnight. You deserve someone who wants to spend time with you just as much as you do with them. You deserve someone who insists on paying for your ice cream. You deserve someone who won't deceive you. You deserve someone who is straightforward. You deserve attention. You deserve affection. You deserve a partnership that is mutual, not one-sided. You deserve to be chased.

You are better than 3 a.m. “Hey" texts. You are better than a night spent watching a movie just to fool around. You are better than trying to decode his vague messages. You are better than his shadiness. You are better than mind games. You are better than being ignored.

If you have to chase him, he's not worth it. Don't settle for someone who makes you beg for his attention. If he is genuinely interested in getting to know you, he will put in the effort. A relationship where your feelings are reciprocated is far more rewarding than one where you constantly feel like you have to drag him along.

Change your mentality. Become more independent. Be confident, be bold. Find happiness in being alone. Don't waste your time pathetically chasing after someone who doesn't feel the same, but doesn't have the heart or the courage to tell you so. Your self-confidence and positivity will make you radiant, and eventually, you will attract the kind of guy who is mature enough to not mess with your head.

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12 You Should Know About Your Significant Other After You've Been Dating 12 Months Or More

You have multiple food orders memorized.


Dating someone for a year+ means that you are bound to know things you might not have known in the early months of the relationship. You also might act differently than you did at the beginning of the relationship.

Here are 12 things you know when you've been dating for over a year.

1. Clothing size, shoe size

This one you can probably be able to figure out early in the relationship. But, you start to keep in the back of your mind and think of that person when you see clothes or a pair of shoes they might like.

2. You can guess what they are going to text back

Especially if it is just a casual conversation about nothing in particular. You know their go-to responses.

3. You have multiple food orders memorized

Their food orders, of course.

4. You have that one TV show you can put on and neither of you will complain

And that is "The Office."

5. You don't get jealous

How could you have lasted in a relationship for over a year and not have any trust?

6. You know likes and dislikes

And can assume if they are going to like or dislike something.

7. You got a LONG Snapstreak

474 day streak over here.

8. Their successes make you just as happy as it makes them

Seeing your significant other do well and accomplish something great is just as rewarding as if you had done the same.

9. Your friends are his friends and his friends are your friends

And you can all hang out together.

10. You have your favorite restaurants

That we always end up going to.

11. You've met everyone in the family and extended family

And you feel like part of the family.

12. You know extremely personal things about each other

That you would not necessarily share with the public.

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