Links to sign up for sorority recruitment are flooding your social media feeds, your friends who have already joined a sorority are begging for your decision. Anyone you talk to about the upcoming fall semester is asking you the question: “Are you going to rush a sorority?” and you don’t have an answer. I wish I could say I know how you feel, I’ve been there and I can help you decide, but I can’t. I always knew I wanted to rush, but in the weeks before recruitment and at college orientation, I met dozens of girls like you, who didn’t have an answer to my question: “Are you rushing, too?”

Deciding to go through sorority recruitment can be difficult for some because of how much mystery surrounds the process. How do I decide which house to choose? What is being in a sorority even like? Is it right for me? Before you even open the recruitment application, if you’ve considered recruitment, these questions have probably flown through your head once, twice or a million times. If you think you’re the only one with unanswered questions, you aren’t; even as someone who has always wanted to rush and had sorority recruitment videos saved to my Youtube playlist, I can wholeheartedly say I had no idea what recruitment would be like.

You’re probably thinking Ok, so we’ve acknowledged that I have questions about the process. How does this help me decide if I should rush?

The best way to decide whether to take the plunge into the world of Greek letters and copious amounts of t-shirts is to try and find the answers to your questions as honestly as they’ll come. I took the plunge, I rushed a sorority, I’m about to go through recruitment on the other side and I can answer a couple of your questions, but the rest of them can only be answered by throwing your caution and questions to the wind and filling out the recruitment application.

“How do I decide which house to choose?” was probably one of the most frequently asked questions in my recruitment group at our meet-and-greet dinner the night before our first round. Unfortunately for you, my answer here is going to be vague because everybody ends up in their house for a variety of different reasons. For me, I wanted one sorority for the first four days: I made sure my hair was immaculate, put on extra perfume and stood up straight for every girl I talked to there, but on the last day, I was almost late, my feet hurt and my makeup was barely done, and I realized I felt uncomfortable and embarrassed that I didn’t look 100% perfect. Afterward, I came to my house now and immediately felt comfortable being myself, frizzy hair and all. I got that “I’m home” feeling everyone talks about, and I knew. I made a split-second decision and ended up in a totally different house than I expected all week. The first house is still a great place and I still have friends in it that feel just as at home as I do, but for me, a simple change of plans and a gut feeling gave me my sisters.

“What is being in a sorority even like? Is it right for me?” I don’t know you personally, so I can’t tell you if being in a sorority will be right for you. It depends a lot on your attitude and your personality. I can, however, tell you what a sorority is like, and you can make the judgment for yourself. Being in a sorority is a big commitment for sure: you’ll have to schedule in a little time to get to know your new sisters over brunch, start finding four-seat tables in the library so the girls in your new member class that took the same Spanish professor as you can swap study tips and notes and make room in your dorm for all the canvases, t-shirts and presents you’ll get from your big before you meet her. Contrary to popular belief, you won’t just be partying seven nights a week; you’ll have weekly chapter meetings that basically turn into excuses to get dinner with your friends afterward and you can hold positions in the chapter for leadership experience in event planning or finance. Are you paying for your friends? No, you’re paying for the t-shirts, the photo booth at semi-formal, the house you’ll live in with your sisters and in return, you’ll make some of the best memories of your life.

So, is sorority recruitment “right for you”? Should you rush? These fall into the short list of questions that I can’t answer, but instead of asking everyone else questions, ask yourself this question: what are you so afraid of? The worst thing that could happen is you get a couple free t-shirts and find a couple friends in your recruitment group to walk to class with. My final advice? If you’ve considered recruitment enough to click on this article and read this far, maybe you should follow in my footsteps, go on your gut feeling and go Greek!