I like to fix people. I see beauty in the brokenness of others. I sympathize with what people say. I'm what some would call a "fixer." I see things in people, usually some sort of pain they are feeling, and I want to fix it. I want to help people. I want to fix them.

But it is not my job to fix others. And it's not yours, either.

Fixing people is a concept that stems from kindness, it really does. But let me tell you something right now. If you are a fixer, it will cause you to deteriorate. You have such a kind heart, I know you do. But if you are a "fixer" whether purposely or not, people will take advantage of that compassionate and kind heart you have.

They will drag you right down with them. You will spend every last ounce of compassion that you have for them and one day it is going to absolutely destroy you. Being a fixer is going to tear you apart.

There is a difference between being sympathetic and being there for someone and then trying to fix them. Being there for someone is a great and kind thing to do. A fixer...not so much. It is not your job to fix others. And you can't fix them. I know you don't want to hear it and you may not even believe it. But please listen. You cannot fix others. Stop trying. Just stop. I'm not saying give up on people. I'm saying give up on trying to fix them.

Rather than trying to fix them, simply show love to them. And sometimes the best way you can love someone is from a distance. Do not tear yourself apart trying to fix someone. You have probably been like this your whole life. You see the hurt in others, the brokenness, and no matter how hard you try...you cannot look away. You have a compassionate heart. And that is a beautiful thing. You want to fix others but fixing others is not your job.

It is not your job to save the world because that job has already been done by Christ Himself. I know you want to fix others and you think that you are good at, but listen when I say it is not your job. It's great to help but stop trying to fix. There is a difference between helping and fixing. And it has taken me so long to realize this.

We are called to love others, not fix them.

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