This one's for the college girl who, come nightfall, spends her time in her dorm room.
The college girl who, after dark, prefers to spend her time snuggled up under the covers binge-watching her favorite Netflix shows, or talk late into the night with her best friends, or just wants to sleep.
This one's for the college girl who, as her friends glitter and glam up for a long night of hardcore getting out and getting drunk, ignores the jeers and jabs of her friends when she tells them that no, she doesn't want to.
This one's for the college girl who's insecure about not partying.
But, oh! Her friends will say.
Come on, girl, it'llbe fun! We'll find you a nice guy to match, isn't that what you'd want? Just one drink, and you'll loosen up for sure!
Oh, come on, girl. You're never any fun.
Now your friends turn on you, pouting, swiping at you with those sharp manicures. You're always holed up in your room studying. Learn to live a little!
How about NO.
Sweetheart, please don’t ever feel that this is something that you ever have to explain, that you should have a point to prove. It’s totally fine that going out and getting f****d up is not something that appeals to you.
Yes, there’s definitely a bunch of people who’ll disagree with your habits the way you do with theirs, but rest assured that you’re definitely not the only one who feels this way.
And no, this isn’t a slam on those who do decide to go out and party. This is a slam on those who decide to shame those who decide that they don't want to party.
We don't think we're better than anyone. We're just not into it. There's a difference.
Because when did becoming sh**-faced become the new norm?
When did going out into a frat or a bar or a club in little to no clothing on, where the drinks are more deserving of a stomach pump than your liver, in order to grind and dance with complete strangers (or the best of friends) become something mandatory of the college experience?
I thought we came here to get an education. But it seems more people are into this narcotic kind of immersion, it seems. The alcohol isn't going anywhere, the dances, the clubs--they aren't going anywhere.
I promise you that, I really do.
Again, this is all one's personal choice. I'm not trying to say that a girl who does party has more corrupted morals than a girl who doesn't. Some people really enjoy this kind of thing, and I understand and respect that. But I'm just speaking from the mindset of a girl who's not into this lifestyle; I'm speaking in defense of the girl who feels almost forced to go out and get crazy just because every other girl does.
Your opinions are valid.
You are still a college student, and no matter what actions you make, you'll stay one till you graduate.
So as your friends leave for the night, snuggle back into the covers. Take a handful of popcorn. Settle back into that Netflix show. Continue that phone conversation of yours. Be content.
Because you aren't any less of a person because you don't party. And you know that.