There is something extremely unique about having a great group of guy friends while being the only girl. Since I was little girl a majority of my friends have been guys (but I still have a few great girlfriends, don’t get me wrong now). They seem to be the ones to stick around the longest. Being a girl and having most of my friends being guys people always tend to judge for many different reasons, but I know that at the end of the day they are my family, my comfort zone, and where I can be my truest self. They probably don’t even realize it but these boys have taught me more than they could ever imagine.
They taught me how to guard my heart.
They taught me if I want something to turn into more than just a hook up, I cant give it all away in the first night because that is all I will be seen as. I hear the way they talk about the girls that drunk text them, they come over, hook up, and than expect a relationship…. one of the biggest things I’ve learned from them is I have to make a guy fall in love with my brain and than my body because that’s what will keep their attention for more than just the night. Now I’m not saying theres any shame in doing your thing but if the first night you meet a guy you’ve already done more than you did in the first 6 months of your first serious relationship…. chances are its not going to end up happily ever after. But never say never, you can come back and it can turn into true love, it happens.
Always be yourself.
Some girls believe that having a boyfriend will complete them, and try to change their interests for a guy and just saying… they know you have no idea what your talking about. All of the guys love watching sports, me on the other hand couldn’t care less, I don’t despise it but it isn’t something ill bring up for small talk so instead of acting like I know they tell me basic things so I don’t sound like a total idiot but not like I’m trying to act like i know everything about sports, because believe me I pretty much know nothing. They’ve taught me that if I meet a guy its better to be honest from the beginning and let them tell me all about their sport that they love so much because pretty soon I will want to complain about my nail polish polish not being what i thought it would be. There is no shame in learning new things but changing who you are for a guy, that isn’t the way to live life.
Being crazy is never going to help you in the long run.
If every time he leaves the butter out and World War 3 starts happening in the kitchen, how is he supposed to take you seriously when the topic is actually something that is worth a fight. To be honest, this took the longest time for me to learn until I understood it that way. Getting mad over every single thing is not healthy or going to get you anywhere. Now that doesn’t go to say to be a doormat but you have to respect yourself if you want him to respect you. You may be using the butter as an excuse for something else but the guy probably has absolutely no idea why your so pissed off about butter… just say what you mean and I can guarantee you most problems would go away.
They all have a soft side.
This is the one they all try so hard to hide because if you saw any of them you wouldn’t expect them to be friends with a girl that can say this much just about their friendship, but they all do have that soft side. They care about things differently than girls and I think thats why I’ve always found it so interesting to be friends with them (for other reasons too, I swear!) When they love, they love hard and it makes me believe that you truly cannot force people together but if someone cares, they will care and show it, I don’t care how much they act like they have no feelings, they all do, they just haven’t found someone worth giving it to yet.
Although these boys have taught me a lot, it is not always easy being around a group of guys when for the most part I’m a pretty sensitive person. I have grown up with them and in return they have taught me that tough love is the best love even when I really don’t want to hear it, I know at the end of the day they are my brothers and my family and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. So thank you for picking on me my whole life to make it easier when I meet real life adult bullies. Thank you for always encouraging me to pursue my dreams even when they change every other week. Thanks for always getting on my crazy bandwagon of ideas. Thanks for making fun of me and bringing me back to reality when I am about to cry because the guy i liked didn’t text me back or any of the other stupid drama i get caught up in. Thanks for the endless long drives while I rant and calm down, and than someone making me pull over so someone drives so we don’t die. Thank you for teaching me who to look out for, to always be myself, and love with my whole heart because if i didn’t give it to all of you I wouldn’t be who I am today. Family is forever, no matter what.
Love you always
Beanz
