To My Best Friends In The Big World

To My Best Friends In The Big World

Now that we’re going through this next chapter of our life, I not only wish you the best, but I hope you remember how much I love you.

Through milestones we as individuals go through, they all require one thing. A goodbye. They're never easy and they get harder and harder the more we encounter them. For me personally, I had to go through two of the hardest goodbyes when my two best friends left college and joined the big scary world, with their careers and apartments on their own. This is for you.

I am so proud of the two of you.
The two of you worked so hard to get to the point where you’re at now and I couldn’t be happier. Graduating a semester early proved to not be the easiest at times but with hard work and determination, the two of you did it. Now that you’re both off in the real world, you guys are maturing into two beautiful women who are going out to reach for your dreams and become the successful independent women you are.

I will always cherish the memories we’ve made.
High school was an amazing time that we all spent together with memories I am still fond of. Once we got to college we not only created more memories to last a lifetime, but we watched each other grow as people. We transitioned into adulthood and if I do say so myself, we did it pretty darn well.

Don’t ever feel alone.
Whether we come back to our hometowns, or we go off to cities we can’t pronounce, places we’ve never been, or random small towns somewhere isolated like Iowa…we must always remember that home is what we make of it. Even if we’re thousands of miles apart, we’re all only a phone call away. We can be on the next flight out in any case of an emergency, and distance will seem so little.

I promise to keep in touch.
I promise that we will have continuous FaceTime dates, weekly phone calls, and always celebrate when we’re together as if no time has passed. I promise we will always pick right back up where we left off, and we will always be prominent people in each other’s lives. I also promise we’ll keep a tradition of an annual girl’s vacation. Whether it’s Vegas, Europe, or just a spa staycation, I promise to make time for that.

I will always praise my thanks to the two of you.
The two of you have not only become some of the most amazing women that I could ask to have in my life, but you’ve also helped shape and make me the woman I am today. It’s safe to say my high school self would be so proud of the person I’ve become, but I have the two of you to blame for that. Through ups and downs, fights and make-ups, boy troubles and heartbreaks, the two of you have been by my side even when I didn’t think I needed you two. Even when I didn’t deserve it you guys were there to put your input on situations, and take charge when I needed you most. Thank you.

Now that we’re going through this next chapter of our life, I not only wish you the best, but I hope you remember how much I love you. How I am here for you through thick and thin, and there are no such things as goodbyes. Only see you laters. I cannot wait for all the memories we have to come, and I can’t wait to see where else life takes us.

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Thank you for showing me how to love.

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Thank you for making me strong.

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To The Roommates That Became My Best Friends, Thank You

We all have the typical college roommate stories, mine just happened to end with life-long friends.


Unlike some, I was one of the students who enjoyed high school. I was a cheerleader, enjoyed my classes, participated in theater productions, joined many clubs, and had multiple friend groups. My goal going into college was to never change who I was despite the environmental changes. I was going to stay involved, meet tons of new friends, create strong bonds with my professors, and never turn away an opportunity to experience life as a college kid. While I succeeded in accomplishing these goals thus far, it should not be assumed that it was easy to get here.

In my first year of college, I made the best decision to become roommates with one of my friends from high school. Life was great throughout my freshman year. I made mistakes that turned into valuable lessons. I joined my sorority and became immersed in everything that my major had to offer. I met people on my floor that made the dorm feel like home. My roommate and I were the only pair to never get into arguments, rather we took on the college experience as a team. Even though she ended up joining a different sorority, I believe that this made us closer. We were able to be individual sorority women but still participate in similar activities. It was not just high points all the time — I will be the first to admit that it was difficult to adjust to the adult lifestyle of being responsible for myself.

I decided to live in my sorority house during my sophomore year, where I roomed with two other sorority sisters — a close friend from the prior year and another friend became closer with throughout my time in the house. No matter what anyone tries to convince you of, it is nerve-wracking to walk into a house of 40 sorority women, expecting to live cohesively together after meeting one another less than a year beforehand. Friendships blossomed because there was always someone to hang out with or vent to when you had a hard day. Personally, I am the type that adjusts to who I am around by becoming more outgoing after spending a fair amount of time with them. However, it took me longer to open up to the girls in the house. I did not find anywhere that I could fit in when it was time to sign a lease for the next year. I did have plans to live with a sorority sister and her friend at a renovated house near campus; I spent the majority of my time at this house as I became close with them throughout the school year. As time went on, I had a change of heart — I wanted to live in an apartment which meant I was on a mission to find roommates that I would fit in with.

When summer came around, I knew my priority was to find a nicer apartment at a decent price but, most importantly, find roommates that I would become close with. I kept my eye out for Facebook posts that suited what I was looking for. One of my current roommates made a post about needing one more roommate at their apartment right on campus. It turned out that all of the girls were members of Greek Life as well. After touring the apartment, I decided it was perfect — I couldn't wait to move in. But, making my "first apartment" purchases made me nervous that I wouldn't fit in with the girls; after all, they were in a different sorority and had their own friend groups.

I was finally able to meet all of my roommates together when I officially moved into my room at the beginning of the year. I got to know their friends and sorority sisters. All of my worries dissolved after meeting everyone as they welcomed me with open arms and treated me as if I had been friends with them forever. But, I did still have something to worry about. With my birthday landing around the first day of school every year, I was nervous because I was unsure if they would feel comfortable celebrating my birthday — we all had just met. I went out by myself to get a cake and balloons to share with the friends who I thought would have never missed my special day. Luckily, my roommates came through to celebrate with me. This was the moment when I realized I found my true friends.

Replying to my roommate's post was one of the best decisions I have made yet.

To this day, I am forever grateful to have some of the most kind-hearted, selfless, and beautiful-souled girls that I never knew existed here in college. From the constant laughs to the venting sessions, I know I have found my forever friends.

Here's my advice to anyone who might feel lonely in college: believe that everything happens for a reason. The second you stand by that, the closer you will become to finding those friends that allow you to grow, support one another, and realize how college is supposed to be.

To the roommates that became my best friends: I'm forever grateful.

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