Dear kids, here are some things my 22-year-old self would like to tell you.

1. The key to happiness is remembering to always count your blessings. It’s easy to look at someone else’s life and wish for all the things you don’t have.

Focus on what you have instead of what you don’t have because there are people in this world that are wishing for even 1/3 of what you have. Which brings me to my next point.

2. Things aren’t always what they seem to be. It doesn’t matter what a certain person portrays their life to be.

As long as this person is human, they have their own set of problems and struggles just like you. So never feel pressure to have a “perfect” life.

3. Love isn’t worth it if you don’t fall a little too hard. Love is one of the best feelings you will experience.

When the right person comes along, don’t be afraid to fully give them your heart.

4. Be selfish in your 20’s. I’m not saying completely neglect the important people in your life. Continue to think about others and respect them but put your dreams and passions first.

There will never be a time when you’re this young and have so much potential. Please especially, don’t let petty relationship drama interfere with your education or career goals.

5. There is no escape from reality. Deal with your problems instead of running away from them because they’ll catch up with you.

Things are so bad sometimes that ignoring the problem will seem extremely tempting, but eventually, that does more harm than good.

Throughout your life, people will make you promises and many will go unkept. But one promise that you can always count on is that I will love and stand by you no matter who you are, who you love, or who you want to be.

Love, Mom.