to be a woman

To Be A Woman

Never apologize for being a powerful woman.


To be a woman means to be strong.

If you are anything but you will be labeled and put into categories.

"She's so emotional"

"She's so quiet"

"She's so sensitive"

If you are too good at anything people will talk about how:

"She's too smart"

"She's too kind"

"She's too caring"

As a woman growing up, one must learn that the world is unfair. We are told that life is unfair without any explanation. We are told to be sweet and to never walk alone. You begin to be told that you're "doing pretty well for a woman." As a girl you are told to avoid being bossy, demanding, or assertive.

As a woman, you are told to cover up. We are told to never show our shoulders, collarbones, much less a knee. "It will distract the boys if you don't cover up."

As a woman, you are told to boost a man's confidence. Never leave a man feeling unwanted or ignored. Make sure he knows you care. Make sure they feel important. Make sure you put his needs in front of your own, and always be there when you are needed.

As a woman, you are told you are limited. You are lacking in opportunity in comparison to your male counterparts. You won't make as much money as a man working the same job. But your told "life is unfair, get over it."

As a woman, you are told to stay quiet. If you tell anyone you'll be labeled as a slut. If you tell anyone, he might hurt you. As a woman you feel vulnerable in the worst places. Never walk alone at night, never go to a bar alone, be cautious about everything you do. You don't want to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. Almost no one will believe you.

As a woman, I say it's time to stand up for our rights. This is the time for us to destroy the stereotypes and labels.

It's time to band together. As women we are human beings, we deserve to live without constant fear.

As a woman, I have had it with accused assaulters and abusers getting away with anything because no one believes a woman. Society believes she's begging for attention; she can't possibly be telling the truth, right? I'd rather believe a woman about her past experiences rather than just shake it off and tell myself she's lying. I know if I was in that situation I'd want people to believe me.

As someone that spent five years of my life fighting for victim rights, most of these women, and sometimes men, are telling the truth.

As someone who has had friends and others come to them about their traumatic experiences with abuse and sexual assault, it's safe to say someone who has experienced this is often times afraid to come to anyone with their problem. They are afraid no one will believe them, or people will blame them instead.

It doesn't matter what they were wearing, it doesn't matter what they were doing. Everyone should have the ability to live freely. As a woman I want to live a life that lets me not have to worry about the temptations of men.

If anyone is experiencing abuse or has been through assault, I am here for you. You deserve to feel safe.

RAINN: Call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.

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The 17 Best Unpopular Opinions From The Minds Of Millennials

Yes, dogs should be allowed in more places and kids in less.

There are those opinions that are almost fact because everyone agrees with them. Waking up early is horrible. Music is life. Sleep is wonderful. These are all facts of life.

But then there are those opinions that hardly anyone agrees with. These ones -- from Twitter, Pinterest and Reddit -- are those types of opinions that are better left unsaid. Some of these are funny. Some are thought-provoking. All of them are the 17 best unpopular opinions around.

1. My favorite pizza is Hawaiian pizza.

2. Binge watching television is not fun and actually difficult to do.

3. I love puns... Dad jokes FTW.

4. Milk in the cup first... THEN the bloody tea.

5. I wish dogs were allowed more places and kids were allowed fewer places.

6. "Space Jam" was a sh*t movie.

7. Saying "money cannot buy happiness" is just wrong.

8. People keep saying light is the most important thing in photographing. I honestly think the camera is more important.

9. Bacon is extremely overrated.

10. Literally, anything is better than going to the gym.

11. Alternative pets are for weird people.

12. Google doodles are annoying.

13. It is okay to not have an opinion on something.

14. It's weird when grown adults are obsessed with Disney.

15. This is how to eat a Kit Kat bar.

16. Mind your own business.

17. There is such a thing as an ugly baby.

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A Day In Immigration Court

"America is a nation founded by immigrants" could not be more true in this space.


This past month, I started my summer internship with a local immigration attorney. Throughout the summer, I will be observing the day-to-day responsibilities of an immigration law office, which includes observing client appointments, compiling evidence and legal research for cases, and attending hearings at the federal immigration court in New York City. Immigration court is vastly different than anything I had ever experienced, and the harsh reality of the American immigration system manifests itself in the immigration courts themselves. Yet after only a couple of days witnessing various hearings in court, I want to look beyond the inefficiencies ingrained in our current immigration system and instead paint a picture so that you can understand the underlying effects of the American dream taking place.

There are two floors designated for the immigration courts in the federal building. After exiting the elevator, there is an overwhelming presence of individuals and family units awaiting their presence in court. One time I saw a woman holding a baby that was days old outside of the courtroom. Courtrooms are numbered and labeled with the last name of the immigration judge on the door, and individuals are expected to wait outside with either an attorney, accredited representation, or any other people accompanying the respondent before his or her trial.

Aside from the large conglomerate of immigrants on this floor, there are multiple signs taped to the walls contain directions in languages, including Spanish, Arabic, Mandarin, etc. While on these floors, you cannot help but be surrounded by different people, languages, and cultures. In its essence, this is the presence of the American "melting pot" at its finest. There is something inherently beautiful about intersecting cultures and ways of life, and being in the presence of such different people can allow yourself to open your eyes to such different perspectives. Is that not what America is about?

The popular saying, "America is a nation founded by immigrants" could not be more true in this space.

Since my first time at immigration court, I have witnessed individuals win and individuals lose their case. However, a loss does not have to be the end for some individuals. There is an option to appeal the decision from the immigration judge to the Board of Immigration Appeals (BIA) within thirty days. In cases where the individual receives legal status, it feels as though a large burden is placed off of the individual's shoulders. No longer do they have to struggle through the American immigration system after years of perseverance, and in some cases, individuals can move towards becoming an American citizen.

It is almost funny to think that my presence in a government building could spark an inspirational motivator. However, I think my experience in immigration court is more humbling than anything. It puts into perspective the lengths that individuals take to make their case in front of a judge. For them, America is worth fighting for. Although there are various inefficiencies within the current immigration system, I am not trying to romanticize the reality of immigration court. Most of the time, the lines are long, interpreters are unavailable, and cases are more difficult than ever to win. However, instead of focusing on these points, I think it is important to re-focus on the bigger picture behind the immigration courts, realizing the positives amidst all of the negatives.

Although this is only the beginning of my internship, I am excited to see where this opportunity will lead me. I am excited to hear the stories of others, which showcase their determination against hardship and persecution. And I am determined to not only witness but also initiate change first-hand, one case at a time.

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