If you’re tragically feeling desperately alone, I would like to remind you that you aren’t.

I would also like to remind you that you are not alone because everyone at some point feels inexplicably lonely, and the only way to fill that void is to cherish the time you have with yourself.

Get comfortable with yourself. Make friends with yourself. Make a checklist of things that you need to do alone. One of the most important friendships you will – or should, in this case — make in your lifetime should be with yourself.

Essentially, what I’m grabbing at here has to do with the fact that you do not have to run into the arms of the first person who grabs your attention, or flatters your ego out of fear of being alone. If you are surrounded by people and feel alone, then find better people; if you look in the mirror and find yourself to be lonely still, then find a better mirror.

It is not about who is giving you attention –it is about how you are receiving it. We are social creatures by nature, and we cannot live life without the good-natured intentions of community.

In order to receive, you have to give, and in order to give, you must find worth within yourself and give first to the physical individual that is already very much with you.

And that’s you.

I know that there is that dumb cliché that you have to fall in love with yourself before someone can fall in love with you, but I think that there is some truth in that. Because otherwise you will be searching for something that you cannot, and will not, find in other individuals if you do not first find that something in yourself.

You should keep your standards high, but your head even higher. You should fall in love with the parts of yourself that are the hardest and then continue forward to the easiest until you find that all of you is enough.

It easy to romanticize the idea of love with others, but it is never said to be easy finding love with yourself. We can be selfish in many ways, but hardly in the right ways for ourselves. And that’s a curious issue.

Like any relationship, the one that we will have with ourselves will not be an easy adventure, but it is one that, like any journey, is worth it once we have reached our destination.

If you’re terrified of being alone forever, or even for a moment, there is some solace you can have waking up in the morning. You are never, have never, and will never be completely alone in this world.