Being single is a journey. It's a time capsule of all the moments that show how we fend for ourselves even when we may be feeling a bit lonely at times. The best part of being single is having the power to explore and learn more about oneself, while at the same time working on oneself to grow into a better person.
I know for a fact, many people around me would think I am crazy, but I believe singledom to be a truly wonderful gift. It is empowering as a woman to not have to rely on a man for emotional support and to be able to take the time to focus on herself and her interests. I often compare being single to living inside a snow globe. It is "always" snowing when you are single. What I mean by it's always "snowing," is that everyday is like a breath of fresh air when someone is single (and ready to mingle?). There is a nice breeze of independence and the power to be one whole person.
But unfortunately, there can only be so much of that snow globe going around and bringing someone in to enjoy all the snow. Being single has become something some people, if not many have come to be ashamed of and even want to change. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be in a relationship with someone, however there becomes a teensy bit of an issue if that stems from the fact that the person feels ashamed of being single. And unfortunately, Valentine's Day happens to be around the corner, bringing on a whole cycle of social media posts that are going to make people want to escape the snow globe and go to warmer weather.
However, this cycle can be changed. Valentine's Day does not last forever (it is only one day!) and there should be no incentive for someone to feel they have to fit in. People should change Valentine's Day to a day where all the single people, especially women, celebrate their singledom and have rose wine sessions talking about crazy exes. It should be a time where we let loose our mask of any inhibition of having to conform to the standards of Valentine's Day. Instead of the day of giving chocolates to a significant other, we should have the ability to remake Valentine's Day into our own holiday and how we decide to celebrate it.
As women, we want to feel empowered, amidst all the misogyny and gender harassment that still exists in this world. We want to fight patriarchy and show a greater version of ourselves to the world that has constantly criticized us for centuries. What better day to do it on a day where we can sip roses and plan Galentine's events for the day? It's a day to spit rose wine at misogynistic men and other people walking by and scream, "IF YOU'RE A SINGLE LADY, PUT A ROSE WINE ON IT!"
Valentine's Day does not make us and how we feel about relationships. We should be the ones to decide that, because a holiday has never made a human being after all.
So, to any other girl who is also single on Valentine's Day, be proud of yourself. Because singledom has gotten bigger, better things for you planned.