Long distance relationships can be rough, they can definitely make or break the couple. I’ve been in one for the better part of a year now and I’ve come up with a few tips and tricks to deal with the separation. Every couple is different, some things that work for me and my partner might not work for you and yours. It all depended on the type of relationship you have.

1. You have to make time for each other.

It’s important to still have bonding time even if you’re miles away from your partner. Sit down and have your alone time through a phone call or a video chat. It doesn’t have to be anything big, just have a conversation about your day.

2. Communication is key!

Since you’re not in close proximity, you should still keep each other updated on what’s going on. No need to be excessive, just send your partner texts every once in a while on what you’re up to. It’ll make them feel more included and less left out of your life. The distance will put some stress on your relationship, that’s ok and normal. Make sure you communicate your feelings properly to limit the strain.

3. Keep up the romance!

It’s important to keep the romance alive in any in any relationship, especially a long distance one. Send each other gifts or cute text messages, leave voice messages about how much you love them or how special they are. Just because you get them doesn’t mean you should stop working to “woo” your partner. You have to still work to keep them, even harder if you’re far apart.

4. When you do see each other, make it count.

That coveted time you get to spend in each other’s arms is limited to spend it in a good way. You don’t have to go on an expensive date, just spend the time in a way that will make you both happy. If you both really enjoy staying in, then maybe marathon your favorite show. Get your favorite snacks and make a night out of it. The point is to spend time together as long as your both happy it’ll be worth it.

5. Patience is the most important aspect.

You’ll see your partner again soon. It might be weeks or months but you can get through it. I personally keep a countdown app on my phone and when I’m particularly lonely I look at it and see how long I have.

To have a successful long distance relationship you’ve got to put work into it. Not every relationship is cut out for it, but as long as you and your partner give it a real chance you can make it through.