Why do we have dating apps? Why do we feel like we need to be in a relationship all the time? Why can't we take a moment for ourselves and enjoy the single life? I blame society as women having to be married by 30, and then we need the kids and the perfect family. Well, I make the rules of my life, screw society. I want to get my degree and be an independent woman; then, I might get married.
Especially when I arrived in State College, everyone is rushing to have a relationship, but their lives are still not in place. I feel like before we get on those applications, we need to think about what I have to offer and what I want to receive? Tinder is a dating application mainly for hookups, but some people claim that they found their boyfriend or husband there. I am screaming because my Tinder experience has been a disaster. You have men asking for inappropriate things, which is why I end up blocking them—sending inappropriate pictures without your consent. Bumble is more classy because the women make the first move.
Tinder is fun because you can match with people near you, and men or women can make the first move. I remember I matched with this Italian guy, and he was so sweet. We are still Instagram friends and speak once in a while, he is a lawyer in Italy, and he was a gentleman, but I don't have time for a long-distance relationship. When COVID-19 ends, I will book a flight and meet him.
LOL just kidding. What did you guys think this was? I don't want a Taken situation to happen.
Bumble was the first dating application that I used, and it was embarrassing and awkward when you see someone you know on the application, then you see them face to face somewhere, and you have to act like it is normal. I deleted the apps because they are so time-consuming, and some people bore me. I want to laugh and meet someone that can make me better, not someone wack with no personality. It is like you are in those applications, and most men are just looking to hookup, cannot keep a conversation, and have no common sense!
Men will have the wackest pick-up line, and they can be so annoying. I have met some nice guys though trust me, women they still exist, I didn't feel like I was ready to share my life with someone yet. I was speaking to this guy, let's say his name is Alonso, and he is from Brooklyn, and he was such a gentleman. The first time that we FaceTimed, I was nervous, and we spoke for some time, and then I stopped talking to him. COVID-19 was happening, I had many challenging courses, and I felt like the time was not right because I was so busy. It is funny to me because I am so old school, and I would've never done a profile for these until my friend Brianna told me "Yamily, make a Tinder account." Who cares? I said I am not desperate. She said, "Give me your phone!" and she downloaded the application. Men can get creepy, but there are things that you should do if you are getting uncomfortable, block the person.
Never share personal information with a stranger, and make sure that you are not getting catfished. All I have to say is that be careful everything you do in life do it to have fun because you are young and safe. Never put yourself in danger if you don't feel safe or comfortable report and block. If you are going on a date, share your location with your friends like that they know where you are. Always meet in a public place if you are going on a date and have fun if you want.