Moving out. Two words that can carry a very emotional connotation. Any big move can be quite scary, but no move is as crucial or as powerful as the first time you leave your parents house. As a first-time mover, literally moving out about 10 days ago, I am currently experiencing a tidal wave of emotions. Excitement, joy, anxiousness, happiness, fear, I am feeling everything!
I am allowing myself to feel everything, because I don't know what to feel. If you're about to move out, you should do the same. A good friend once quoted a show he had seen, trying to help me sort some things out. He said something along the lines of, "Happiness is not a destination. In life you can't just be happy all the time. Life is about experiencing all emotions at different times," (DC). From that point on, I understood what he was saying, and he is completely right! Yes, it's great to be happy. But if you don't experience anything else how will you know what happiness is to you.
I didn't truly feel scared or question my decision until I was in my car, behind my father's truck which carried my mattress, dresser, and desk as it drove away. Even then, I just had to keep myself calm. I wasn't actually going to go back on my decision now, and even if I did it was too late.
After my family was at home and I was actually alone I was still a bit panicky. I went to a few stores to pick up some things for my new place and while out I called a few confidants to help console me. They were able to calm me down a bit and help me realize that what I was feeling was ok and normal. After all, I did just make a big move/decision in my life.
The first few nights I was up unpacking, facetiming and calling a few more close friends just to help keep my emotions at ease. They did really help me in that time when I needed them.
I set up my room one way and then changed it. I went shopping and bought more things, which led to changing it again. I put some of my décor around, bought some succulents because why not? I Made my room my space, apart from the rest of the house (as I do live with roommates now) and I'm happy with how it turned out. Now I sit here on my bed, typing up this article telling you that it's okay to feel totally crazy about big decisions and changes. Without them we wouldn't learn and without learning there is no growth.
Don't be scared to f*** up. I mean yes, it is scary, and no one wants to do it but if it happens, it happens. You just have to get through it, take your newfound knowledge and apply it next time. I haven't messed up anything yet (knock on wood) but if it happens, I will cross that bridge at that time. I am already learning lessons though and it hasn't even been two weeks. I can already say that time and money management are things you need to pick up on quickly!
Moving out of your parents' house is definitely different. It doesn't have to be terrifying though! It's just another step in life that happens eventually. It is completely okay to want to learn and experience some things on your own, for yourself.
If you're moving out soon just take it slow, its an interesting experience.