The gym is a great place, and it's very good to go to. It is definitely a challenge though. Here are some thoughts we all honestly have at the gym.
You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.
Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.
You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.
You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.
You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.
They'll miss you. They'll cry.
You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.
You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.
You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.
You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.
You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.
Instead, they will be at yours.
You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.
You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.
You won't turn another year older.
You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.
You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.
This will be the last sunset you see.
You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.
If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.
This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.
This is who will care about you when you are gone.
You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.
We care. People care.
Don't let today be the end.
You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.
Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.
Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.
If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255
When the topic of sexual violence against women arises, women are often held responsible - because of how they dress, or how they behave, or even if they have a voice. A recent incident in Delhi showed that the mindset of people has not changed. In a video posted by Shivani Gupta, a middle-aged woman is seen defending her claim, "Women wearing short dresses deserve to be raped."
This backward mentality surrounding rape and rape culture is horrifying to see. The middle-aged woman first shamed them for wearing short clothes and when she was confronted, she told them "they deserved to get raped." She made things worse when she told other men in the restaurant to rape such women who wear short clothes.
Shivani and her friends later confronted this woman while taking the video. They wanted a public apology for her statement and followed her around. The older woman stood by her statement. Fair enough. They felt threatened by her statements and wanted an apology for her actions. The older lady, however, was brazen about her ideologies and refused to apologize. In fact, she threatened to call the cops for harassment.
The woman who made the regressive statements. Shivani Gupta
While the anger and outrage by the women who uploaded this video are justified, several questions are being raised on whether the older woman was later harassed for her statements. Public shaming is not the way to solve this issue.
"We cannot dismantle a culture of shaming by participating in it." - Rega Jha.
Now, I believe that nobody must engage in victim shaming. Nobody has the right to police the outfit one wishes to wear. It is astonishing to believe that even in the 21st century, people still believe that an outfit determines the morality and character of a person. That older woman was wrong to sl*t-shame the girls for wearing what they want. That being said, even though what that woman did was horrible, public shaming will not work. It will not change the mindset behind these ideologies. What that older woman did was akin to bullying. Publicly shaming her, stalking her facebook account or posting comments or by coercing her, you are also behaving in the same manner of bullying.