Your Thoughts Become Your Things, So Choose The Good Ones

Your Thoughts Become Your Things, So Choose The Good Ones

What we focus on, we create more of in our lives.

Every weekday morning, I receive an email to my inbox from an account that I subscribed to many years ago. The email is personalized and designed with my name, goals and dreams and is a gentle reminder each day to choose my thoughts and focus on the good stuff in life.

At the end of each email, there is a new piece of advice to take with me throughout my day and below that, there is one series of words that remains the same on every message that I open. The line says “thoughts become things, choose the good ones.”

It’s been almost 7 years since I received my first note in my inbox so as you can imagine, a lot of life has happened over those years. In the process of living that life while strapped into the roller coaster we call “growing up,” I’ve found more and more truth behind that closing line about thoughts becoming things.

Here’s the thing, when we get frustrated enough after dealing with the same recurring issue, we eventually reach a pivotal point where we feel like your tank is empty.

This is the exact moment when we can use that empty tank to help us instead of hurt us.

See, the tank isn’t empty when you reach this point. Sure, our emotions feel drained but our frustration is at an all-time high and though the tank may see empty, it’s now full of air.

If you paid any attention to the news this past fall, you would have seen that air, in the form of hurricane winds, can make big things move, bend and break.

The same applies to you and me. This empty tank, when we reach this point, is now full of air. This is where we pivot and use that air, stomp on the tank and the rush of air gives us the mojo we need to change whatever it is that has us so frustrated.

Nobody can make that change for you but from what I’ve found, you have to hit bottom in order to catapult yourself back to the top.

Basically, we function like those high strikers or strongman games at fairs and carnivals. This is the one where you take a mallet/sledgehammer and have to strike the bottom of the structure so that a puck will fly up the track and hit the top of the structure where a bell is.

The harder you hit, the faster you get the puck back up to the top. And the harder you stomp on that tank full of air, the faster you’ll get yourself back up because you’re rearing and ready and for lack of a better word, desperate.

Eventually, I found my change after hitting that pivotal moment. I thought I had figured out a magic life-hack to the Universe and as it turns out, that’s exactly what I had found.

I found the Law of Attraction on my way back up to hit the bell.

The Law of Attraction states that the thoughts, words, feelings and actions that we give out have certain energies that attract like energies. This energy can be negative or positive but essentially, what we place our attention on is what we will manifest in our lives.

Everything in this world vibrates, moves and travels in unique vibrational frequency patterns. The Law of Vibration tells us this. This principle applies not only to our physical world but also to our feelings and thoughts. It also applies to the Law of Attraction.

While all of this may or may not sound a little bizarre, there are times when that tank is empty and you feel willing to adopt anything that is available to you so that you can break your frustrating cycle. This is what I found so I can only imagine what anyone reading this has found too.

Maybe we even found the same concept in those lowly times.

The concept that like attracts like, thoughts become things and what we focus on we create more of in our lives.

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I Woke up In The Middle Of The Night To Write About My Fears, They're Worse Than The Dark

One minute I'm thinking about what I want to do after college next thing I know I'm remembering the time I tried talking to a boy and choked on my spit.


It is one of those nights when I am tired, but for some reason, I can't seem to fall asleep. So, what do I do? I pull out my laptop, and I begin to write. Who knows where it will lead. It could lead to a killer article or something that does not make sense. I mean it is almost 2 A.M. In my mind, that's pretty late.

Anyways, let's do this thing.

Like many people, thoughts seem to pile up in my head at this time. It could be anything from a time when I was younger to embarrassing stories to wondering why I am "wasting" my time somewhere to thoughts about the future. All of these things come at me like a wildfire. One minute I'm thinking about what I want to do after college next thing I know I'm remembering the time I tried talking to a boy and choked on my spit.

The thought that is going through my mind as I write this is about the future. It's about the future of my fears. Let me explain. I have multiple fears. Some of my fears I can hide pretty well, others I am terrible at hiding. My fears may seem silly to some. While others might have the same fears. Shall we start?

1. My career

I don't know where to begin with this one. For as long as I can remember, my consistent dream job has been working in the world of sports, specifically hockey. A career in sports can be and is a challenging thing. The public eye is on you constantly. A poor trade choice? Fans are angry. Your team sucks? "Fans" are threatening to cheer for someone else if you can't get your sh*t together. You can be blamed for anything and everything. Whether you are the coach, general manager, owner, it does not matter. That's terrifying to me, but for some reason, I want to work for a team.

2. My family

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Failing with my family, whether that be the family I was born into or my future family, it terrifies me. I have watched families around me fall apart and I have seen how it has affected them. Relationships have fallen apart because of it. I have heard people talk about how much they hate one of their parents because of what happened. I don't want that.

3. Time

This could be a dumb fear. I'm not sure, but I fear time. With every minute that passes, I am just another minute closer to the end. With every day that passes that I am not accomplishing goals or dreams I have, I am losing precious time. It scares me to think of something horrible like "What if I die tomorrow because of something horrific?" or even worse, "What if I don't make it through today?" It's terrible, I know.

4. Forgetting precious memories

When I was younger, I had brain surgery. It is now much harder for me to remember things. I am truly terrified that I am going to forget things I will want to hold close to me forever, but I won't be able to. I am scared I'll forget about the little things that mean a lot. I'm afraid of forgetting about old memories that may disappear. I'm worried that I'll forget about something like my wedding day. That might seem out of this world, but it's a reality for me.

5. Saying "goodbye"

I hate saying bye. It is one of my least favorite things. Saying bye, especially to people I don't know when I'll see again, is a stab in the heart for me. I love my people so much. I love being around them. I love laughing with them. Thought of never having a hello with them again scares me beyond belief.

6. Leaving places that I love

Alright, let me start off by saying this- it takes a lot for me to love a place. It has to feel like home. It has to make me feel comfortable. It has to be a place I can go to and be myself. Thankfully, I have had and still have multiple places that are like that. I have also had places I could not wait to leave. I think that's why leaving places I love is so hard and something I fear so much. I am afraid I'll never get that place "back", for lack of a better term. I guess, I'm trying to say, it's like a piece of me is leaving as well.

These six things are just the start of my fears. Some of these might seem "dumb" or "ridiculous" to you, but for me, it's my life. These are the things that I think about the most. These are the things that feel like a pit in my stomach. These six things are parts of my life that mean a lot to me.

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I Realized I Deserve Better Than Your Half-Assed Crap, and Now I Won't Doubt Myself Again

It's not me, it's you.


To all the guys who made me feel like shit,

It took me a long time to come to this conclusion.

You know why?

Because a small part of me has always been a pushover. A small part of me always wanted to play the martyr... which is why whenever something crappy happened, I would take half of the blame for it. Don't get me wrong, I know I am no saint. I know that I have flaws just like every other human being but what I don't appreciate is being made felt like the fault lies in me.

I am sorry that you are broken, so am I, but I can't fix you. And, you can't fix me. I know all our life we come across such movies and stories where people meet and fix each other, but that is not the truth. We can never fix another person because there is nothing to fix. Each of us is our own brand of crazy and yes, we all have some flaws. Don't like them? Then, change yourself. But, don't do it because someone else wants you to change it. The truth is, we can't fix each other. All of us are responsible for our own broken parts and happiness. All anyone can do for you is to stay with you and help you through it all, showing you they care and love you when you don't feel so lovable.

Until recently, I always kept wondering what is wrong with me. Why couldn't I find someone who would stay longer? And, then it suddenly hit me. The problem is that I accept too much, I understand too much. I am a person who would accept you as a whole, flaws, and strengths included. I am not going to change you because when you love someone, you love their darkest parts too. You know what my major problem is? It is that I won't nag you, ever. I would accept you with your quirks and your flaws, and I would love all of you, every single day. And people, well most people, don't want that. They want someone who would change them, who would push them to become a better version of themselves. They want someone to get rid of their dark parts and to mend everything that is broken inside of them.


But I won't do that. I won't mend your cracks because you are too afraid to do it yourself. All I will do is pour love in those cracks and support you to fix it yourself. And that's when I realized that this is not my problem. This has never been my fault. All of you leaving, because I didn't push you to change, is not my fault.

Because, if you are stupid enough to let go of a girl who would stand through it all with you, accepting you the way you are. Then, sweetheart, it is not my loss. It is yours. It will always be your loss. Because, no matter how hard you try, there is no prince or princess coming to save you. You are your own savior, and if you are waiting for someone to change you, then you have a long way to go.

Because love doesn't force you to change. It doesn't nag you or berate you. When someone really loves you, they just stay close and keep showering you with their love, and when this happens, a part of you automatically evolves, without even knowing.

And this is what I realized. I am good the way I am. I don't need to question myself every day or berate myself anymore. So, I am done wondering why you all couldn't stay because now, I know.

And this time, the answer is: actually, it isn't me, it's you.


The girl who realized her worth

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