Your Thoughts Become Your Things, So Choose The Good Ones

Your Thoughts Become Your Things, So Choose The Good Ones

What we focus on, we create more of in our lives.

Every weekday morning, I receive an email to my inbox from an account that I subscribed to many years ago. The email is personalized and designed with my name, goals and dreams and is a gentle reminder each day to choose my thoughts and focus on the good stuff in life.

At the end of each email, there is a new piece of advice to take with me throughout my day and below that, there is one series of words that remains the same on every message that I open. The line says “thoughts become things, choose the good ones.”

It’s been almost 7 years since I received my first note in my inbox so as you can imagine, a lot of life has happened over those years. In the process of living that life while strapped into the roller coaster we call “growing up,” I’ve found more and more truth behind that closing line about thoughts becoming things.

Here’s the thing, when we get frustrated enough after dealing with the same recurring issue, we eventually reach a pivotal point where we feel like your tank is empty.

This is the exact moment when we can use that empty tank to help us instead of hurt us.

See, the tank isn’t empty when you reach this point. Sure, our emotions feel drained but our frustration is at an all-time high and though the tank may see empty, it’s now full of air.

If you paid any attention to the news this past fall, you would have seen that air, in the form of hurricane winds, can make big things move, bend and break.

The same applies to you and me. This empty tank, when we reach this point, is now full of air. This is where we pivot and use that air, stomp on the tank and the rush of air gives us the mojo we need to change whatever it is that has us so frustrated.

Nobody can make that change for you but from what I’ve found, you have to hit bottom in order to catapult yourself back to the top.

Basically, we function like those high strikers or strongman games at fairs and carnivals. This is the one where you take a mallet/sledgehammer and have to strike the bottom of the structure so that a puck will fly up the track and hit the top of the structure where a bell is.

The harder you hit, the faster you get the puck back up to the top. And the harder you stomp on that tank full of air, the faster you’ll get yourself back up because you’re rearing and ready and for lack of a better word, desperate.

Eventually, I found my change after hitting that pivotal moment. I thought I had figured out a magic life-hack to the Universe and as it turns out, that’s exactly what I had found.

I found the Law of Attraction on my way back up to hit the bell.

The Law of Attraction states that the thoughts, words, feelings and actions that we give out have certain energies that attract like energies. This energy can be negative or positive but essentially, what we place our attention on is what we will manifest in our lives.

Everything in this world vibrates, moves and travels in unique vibrational frequency patterns. The Law of Vibration tells us this. This principle applies not only to our physical world but also to our feelings and thoughts. It also applies to the Law of Attraction.

While all of this may or may not sound a little bizarre, there are times when that tank is empty and you feel willing to adopt anything that is available to you so that you can break your frustrating cycle. This is what I found so I can only imagine what anyone reading this has found too.

Maybe we even found the same concept in those lowly times.

The concept that like attracts like, thoughts become things and what we focus on we create more of in our lives.

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Dear judgemental, simple minded people from my hometown,

I am sorry that I have never met your level of perfection.

Coming from a small town, everyone settles to the norm of the people around them. Unlike you all, I have always been a little bit different.

I've never understood why everyone always seems to feel the need to talk down to the next person. People love to gossip about a situation as long as the situation has nothing to do with them. For every move I made, someone was always there to bring out the negativity in the situation. You all are always sweeping around somebody else's doorstep when I know your doorstep is not clean. Maybe it is time to buy a new broom. I know that I cannot please everybody and that I will also not be liked by everybody. However, I deserve respect just as the next person.

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I hope for the sake of the future generations of our small town, you all can learn to be more accepting to change.

I hope that no one judges your children like some of you all have judged me. I hope that the people that you love and care about are welcomed and accepted for who they are.

If we put as much time into being better people or helping others like you put into judging others, the world would be a much better place.

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The Beautiful Benefits Of Mindfulness

Being mindful is important for self-improvement and growth.


As a college student, life can be stressful. One must juggle a social life, academics, and sometimes a part-time job to boot. It's not an easy task, and with daily interactions with others, drama is sure to ensue.

A good way to go about dealing with stress and conflict is mindfulness. Mindfulness is about focusing on the present, letting go of the past, and not fixating on the future. It's about enjoying the here and now, and appreciating your life — rather than lamenting it.

Focusing intently on the future or past events is not healthy, especially for personal growth. One cannot change the past, no matter how much they want to. Obsessing over past grievances and transgressions will do no one any good and is a fruitless endeavor. Planning for the future rather than enjoying the present takes away from the joys of living.

As a human, it's natural to feel hurt and to hold grudges. We want apologies when people are mean or have wronged us. However, we can't control others' actions — only how we react to and behave. Mindfulness is about being the bigger person, letting go of personal vendettas and not being petty.

It's hard to do this, especially as people often are reluctant to accept their role in the conflict. It's hard to accept not being right, especially when conflict occurs. The best remedy for this is to acknowledge the other side, empathize with the person you're in conflict with, and then accept what has happened.

Mindfulness allows us to stay in the present, become more self-aware, and not overreact to events in life. No one can control what happens in their life or how people behave. It's vain to think so.

Meditation and mindfulness are very similar. They both allow people to slow down, think, and contemplate things. It's effective in reducing stress, accepting misfortunes, and letting go of the little things. Mindfulness is also crucial in learning self-love and forgiveness.

It's common for people to be their own worst enemy. It's hard to forgive ourselves, especially when we make mistakes and let people down. No one wants to feel like a failure or to disappoint people. But beating ourselves up isn't the solution — it only allows one to wallow in self-pity rather than learn and grow from their mistakes. No one is perfect — we all mess up in life. It's how we learn from our mistakes and grow from them that makes the difference.

Forgiving ourselves is hard, but forgiving other is even harder. Learning to empathize and sympathize with someone who has wronged us is a marker of true character, and frees us. Hatred is a terrible emotion that ties down both parties. It's beneficial to let go of hatred and learn to accept.

Learning mindfulness is incredibly helpful, as it allows people to move on from the past, stop fixating on the future, and instead live fully in the present.

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