I Always Thought Leaders Had To Be Outgoing, Until I Had To Lead

I Always Thought Leaders Had To Be Outgoing, Until I Had To Lead

It's intimidating, I'll admit.

Whenever I think of a leader, I think of someone who has great power, who is confident, and someone who is outgoing. I've always been more on the shy side and never thought that I would be cut out to be a leader. In my college years, I was thrown into these smaller leadership roles in my classes due to group projects and it was very intimidating.

I was always the follower and now I was suddenly the one in the charge, the one everyone had to listen to. Would they actually listen to me? Would they try and walk all over me? Would I fail?

All these questions rushed through my mind, but I had to tell myself that it would happen. I succeeded and this was just a small taste of what was to come just two years later. I was offered the editor-in-chief position on this very team I still write for and while I was extremely grateful and happy, I also was nervous and doubting myself... and also a little scared.

I had never managed a team of people before. I was on this FGCU Odyssey team for about two years at this point, and suddenly the people who worked alongside me had become the people I would lead.

Female leaders always have this negative connotation about them due to the fact that they are labeled as "bossy." This always leads people to say that us women are "b*tches" because we are being assertive and standing our ground. I did not want to come off that way at all, I hate being mean to people.

If people were late with an article, not communicating with me, etc., I had to be the one to confront them about it and I always tried to do so in a way where they felt like I wasn't being rude. I wanted to be respectful, but also clear and concise.

Being in this EIC position for a year taught me so much. I learned to be more assertive and to be more confident in myself and my work ethic. I learned that even if you're more on the quiet side, you can still be a leader. You can still manage people but keep a level of camaraderie. I loved every minute of it and I think it helped shape me.

If you're doubting yourself and telling yourself that you can't be a leader, that you have to be loud, outgoing, intimidating, don't believe it. That is false. You will get people to listen. Most of all, you will succeed!

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11 Things Only People With Texting Anxiety Will Understand

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Some lucky humans were blessed with the social confidence that others can only dream of. These divine individuals can text anyone--their crush, friend, boss, ex, you name it--without feeling nervous. How do these demigods face those three evil dots which signal an incoming response with such blatant disinterest? It's as if they know the response will be in their favor! Either that or they are so utterly courageous that even the possibility of rejection fails to strike fear into their hearts. Whatever magic these bold humans use, not everyone is as lucky. Here are some things that those without texting anxiety just won't understand:

1. Over analyzing punctuation and phrasing.

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2. Predicting a rejection and assuming the worst.

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Great, he hates me! He thinks I'm a total weirdo and is probably mocking my very existence right now.

3. Auto-correct embarrassment.

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Don't seem too eager... PLEASE LOVE ME! Dang, I think that was too eager...

4. Those three little dots of dread.

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Wow, your response time is impeccable... NOT! Just say what you need to say!

5. Assuming the worst when someone doesn't respond.

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She has probably been attacked by zombies...and I was too slow to save her. Oh god! What if she's still being attacked? What do I do?

6. Feeling like a bother when you text first.

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Hey! Oh dang, I'm probably annoying her...I take it back!

7. Trying to decipher the exact meaning of excess letters.

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"Funnyyy!" OK, three y's, that means he thinks I'm actually funny? No, he's definitely mocking me.

8. Deciding on a context appropriate emoji.

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OK, to use the eggplant emoji or to not use the eggplant emoji...

9. Immediately regretting a text and wishing there was a way to undo it.

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"LOL, you're sooooooo funny :)" OH GOD NO, that sounded way too eager! ABORT MISSION!

10. Wondering what you did wrong when someone is online but ignores your text.

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Great, that status was probably about me...she could at least say it to my face!

11. The fear of misinterpreting a text.

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He didn't use a smiley face...that means he's mad at me! Or is he just busy? Or maybe he just didn't see it...should I send it again?

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Phoenix's Largest Electricity Provider Anticipates A Price Decrease For Customers

Yes, you read that right, a decrease.


Bills are never exciting to receive, and Salt River Project, Phoenix's largest supplier of power and water, knows that. In hopes of giving back to its customers, this not-for-profit company is proposing a lower billing price to its elected board of directors.

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According to Salt River Project Media Manager Scott Harelson, SPR is planning a price decrease of 2.2 percent on the overall average annual amount. The plan was first created over a month ago, and if it's approved, the new utility prices will appear in the May 2019 billing cycle.

"We have been able to save a lot of money with our fuel expenses, and we pass those savings on directly to our customers," Harelson said, but how else is a not-for-profit company able to decrease prices? SPR's website has the answers:

"According to SRP General Manager and CEO Mike Hummel, SRP has been able to keep prices stable for the past four years through prudent operations and management, strategic resource acquisitions and taking advantage of market conditions that have allowed SRP to generate a greater share of energy using lower-cost natural gas."

SPR serves more than 1 million customers, and customer growth will continue to benefit prices and plan options. You can find more details on this good news on SRP's website.

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