To Those Who Are Lost In Their 20s

To Those Who Are Lost In Their 20s

You are lost in a fallen world because this world is broken.


You are lost.

I say it with love and the best intentions. You are lost in a fallen world because this world is broken. You are probably mad at yourself because barely anything is going the way you planned and the world always seemed to be falling apart.

That is okay.

It is easy to think that, but that is not true.

You have the free will to do what you would like, but like the prodigal son, eventually, you will get lost and realize that you cannot go about this alone. But always know that you will stray away into a wilderness, but that does not determine your worth.

People will find healing your scars.

You have gone through the intense pain that comes with being in a fallen world. But take comfort in the fact that there will be people in your life who will find healing in your scars.

You would be surprised how many people are going through similar struggles as you have. It is why it helps to be vulnerable and let go of your past. It is a risk, but it is one that is worth it because it could save a life. After all, it was opening up to God that saved yours.

You do have a purpose.

You were created when you entered your mother's womb. You were knitted you piece by piece, every thread of who you are in there. There is a reason why you have been placed you in such a time as this.

You have a purpose.

That one thing you are good at, the talent that comes naturally to you is the core of how you want to impact this world. Though it seems like it is falling apart, there is hope in love, and the cross is the evidence of that.

You have to believe in yourself as I believe in you.

I believe in you because you are put here for a reason. You can do better. You are doing better though it does not feel like it. But you have to believe in yourself. You have to believe you can do it too.

That takes courage because it is easy to think all is lost when you cannot see any change.

But take joy in your humble beginnings. No journey begins perfectly. Even with God by your side, there will be times like now when you feel like you are going nowhere.

But as long as you keep pushing through that darkness and trust that God is making a way where there is no way, you are doing much better than you think. So keep going, because you will get there. In the meantime, enjoy life for the present is a gift.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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