This Is The Best Way To Understand More About Your Personality

This Is The Best Way To Understand More About Your Personality

This is the perfect test to complement your Myers-Briggs results.

In college, one of my close friends introduced me to the Enneagram personality types. Since then, I've used it as a way to help understand more about myself. It's a useful tool for you to discuss with friends or significant others how you communicate and function at your best and your worst. Other friends of mine have also come to use it and see that it's extremely insightful. I really like them because I think they help me understand myself and my friends just a little bit more.

Obviously, everyone is unique and individual. People can never fully explain who they are through a personality test.

I'll be the first to admit that personality tests have some sort of generalizable elements to them, so it's pretty easy to identify with the traits of whatever result you end up with. At the same time, once you see your results, you begin to identify strongly with certain traits and see very clearly how you defy others. The tests can also be useful tools in understanding how you work and collaborate with others in team settings.

If you've never taken a personality test before, check out the Myers-Briggs type indicator test. Where are all my INFJs at? It's a solid start. I'm here primarily to talk Enneagram types.

The Enneagram works with nine Enneagram type descriptions. It seems kind of complicated, but it's actually fairly straightforward if you understand all the pieces.

Essentially, you have one dominant personality type that falls under one of three Centers. The Centers reflect what the uniqueness of that group of personality types is. No type is inherently masculine or feminine, so it works with both genders. The numbers of the types simply are there to help you make sense of where you stand. Each type also has a name that describes it.

For example, my dominant personality type is "The Helper", also known as type 2. Elizabeth Taylor, Martin Sheen, and Eleanor Roosevelt are some of my kindred spirits, apparently. Basically, this means I am someone who desires to be loved. I want to be helpful to people. At my best, I am generous, self-sacrificing, and show unconditional love. At my worst, I am possessive, needy, and prideful.

Each basic personality type also has a primary wing that represents other unique facets of a personality. Your wing is one of the other eight personality types, typically one that is adjacent to your basic type in the Enneagram model. The wing complements your basic personality type but also can bring up some defiant characteristics from your basic personality type. For example, I am a Helper, type 2 with a dominant Achiever, type 3 wing.

To some degree, every person has some level of all the Enneagram types within them. Take the Enneagram and find out what type you are to understand what personality traits come out in you and how you communicate with your best and worst self.

The Enneagram Institute® was founded in 1977 by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson to help people understand themselves better on a deeper level. The organization offers training and workshops in order to help guide groups through the test as of last year. I hope this helps you understand a little more about who you are.

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I Weigh Over 200 Lbs And You Can Catch Me In A Bikini This Summer

There is no magic number that determines who can wear a bikini and who cannot.

It is about February every year when I realize that bikini season is approaching. I know a lot of people who feel this way, too. In pursuit of the perfect "summer body," more meals are prepped and more time is spent in the gym. Obviously, making healthier choices is a good thing! But here is a reminder that you do not have to have a flat stomach and abs to rock a bikini.

Since my first semester of college, I've weighed over 200 pounds. Sometimes way more, sometimes only a few pounds more, but I have not seen a weight starting with the number "1" since the beginning of my freshman year of college.

My weight has fluctuated, my health has fluctuated, and unfortunately, my confidence has fluctuated. But no matter what, I haven't allowed myself to give up wearing the things I want to wear to please the eyes of society. And you shouldn't, either.

I weigh over 200lbs in both of these photos. To me, (and probably to you), one photo looks better than the other one. But what remains the same is, regardless, I still chose to wear the bathing suit that made me feel beautiful, and I'm still smiling in both photos. Nobody has the right to tell you what you can and can't wear because of the way you look.

There is no magic number that equates to health. In the second photo (and the cover photo), I still weigh over 200 lbs. But I hit the gym daily, ate all around healthier and noticed differences not only on the scale but in my mood, my heart health, my skin and so many other areas. You are not unhealthy because you weigh over 200 lbs and you are not healthy because you weigh 125. And, you are not confined to certain clothing items because of it, either.

This summer, after gaining quite a bit of weight back during the second semester of my senior year, I look somewhere between those two photos. I am disappointed in myself, but ultimately still love my body and I'm proud of the motivation I have to get to where I want to be while having the confidence to still love myself where I am.

And if you think just because I look a little chubby that I won't be rocking a bikini this summer, you're out of your mind.

If YOU feel confident, and if YOU feel beautiful, don't mind what anybody else says. Rock that bikini and feel amazing doing it.

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Internet outraged at Delhi Aunty for Sl*t Shaming

Public outrage - justified or an overreaction?


When the topic of sexual violence against women arises, women are often held responsible - because of how they dress, or how they behave, or even if they have a voice. A recent incident in Delhi showed that the mindset of people has not changed. In a video posted by Shivani Gupta, a middle-aged woman is seen defending her claim, "Women wearing short dresses deserve to be raped."

This backward mentality surrounding rape and rape culture is horrifying to see. The middle-aged woman first shamed them for wearing short clothes and when she was confronted, she told them "they deserved to get raped." She made things worse when she told other men in the restaurant to rape such women who wear short clothes.

Shivani and her friends later confronted this woman while taking the video. They wanted a public apology for her statement and followed her around. The older woman stood by her statement. Fair enough. They felt threatened by her statements and wanted an apology for her actions. The older lady, however, was brazen about her ideologies and refused to apologize. In fact, she threatened to call the cops for harassment.

The woman who made the regressive statements. Shivani Gupta

While the anger and outrage by the women who uploaded this video are justified, several questions are being raised on whether the older woman was later harassed for her statements. Public shaming is not the way to solve this issue.

"We cannot dismantle a culture of shaming by participating in it." - Rega Jha.

Now, I believe that nobody must engage in victim shaming. Nobody has the right to police the outfit one wishes to wear. It is astonishing to believe that even in the 21st century, people still believe that an outfit determines the morality and character of a person. That older woman was wrong to sl*t-shame the girls for wearing what they want. That being said, even though what that woman did was horrible, public shaming will not work. It will not change the mindset behind these ideologies. What that older woman did was akin to bullying. Publicly shaming her, stalking her facebook account or posting comments or by coercing her, you are also behaving in the same manner of bullying.

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