If you have been cheated on, first I would like to say I'm sorry. As someone who is also going through this, I know it is awful. You probably thought nothing was going wrong, and was blindsided. It may have felt as though your heart was ripped from your chest. Your self-esteem most likely diminished until you felt as though you had none. But through the tears, panic attacks, and shoving your face with tacos, I hope you have really great friends that helped you through it. If you have not found positivity, here are some things to look forward to after being cheated on:
1. Look forward to being stronger.
Most importantly, you have renewed strength. You have taken a nasty hit. It hurt not only emotionally, but physically. No matter how long you were together, it hurt. But after a few months you start to realize that for someone to cheat on you means they do not value you and disrespect you as a human being. And no one deserves or needs that kind of person in their life. You learn that you deserve so much better.
2. Look forward to finding real, better, true love.
Secondly, having this happen to you sets the precedent for the partners you will have for the rest of your life. You now know the type of person that would potentially hurt you. Although you may be more upfront with potential partners than you were in your past, it will set the groundwork and expectations. You don’t deserve to be hurt again, especially cheated on again. See the good in people, but it will be hard to not to think that someone new can do this to you too. Be upfront. If you get involved with a known cheater, it is extremely likely they’ll do it to you, too. Don’t put yourself through that again.
3. Look forward to releasing the built up stress and anxiety.
Thirdly, as much as you blamed yourself at first and felt like everything was your fault, you begin to notice that it is in no way your fault. You are an amazing, caring, loving person. You gave all that you could to this person, and they took it for granted. They took all that you had to offer and threw it in the trash. All to be with someone nowhere near as awesome and great as you. You may see how that other person is more on their maturity level. Which is extremely low. And you will find that you are a better person than both of them combined.
4. Look forward to finding someone better.
There are more than seven billion people on planet Earth. I guarantee that you will find someone that respects and loves you for exactly who you are and treats you the way you deserve to be treated. Be aware of the people you let into your life. But don't not date again because you are scared. You will find someone better.
After taking time to yourself, start to feel stronger, realize that not all potential partners are the same, and know that you are in no way responsible for the what happened, you should get back out there! Don't stay in and mope around. You've cried the tears, and maybe you got revenge, but you have done what you needed to to feel better. Now it's time to find someone that will treat you right and not cause you this awful pain. They are out there, I promise. You just have to know where to look.
