things to say to a depressed mother

Dear Mom, I Forgive You

Even though you felt like nothing you did was enough, just know I love you and I need you.


To this day I still see that helpless little girl watching and begging her mom not to jump off the stairs that may lead to her death. I still here the crying of the same little girl when her own mother was about to crash her car with two little girls under age nine inside.

Just know that despite the trauma we endured I still love you and I forgive you for everything you had put me and my sister through.

I realized that you needed serious help. I understand that being a single mom is not easy and there were times you just wanted to give up. Just know that as your daughter I appreciate you as a mother and as a person.You are the reason I am the woman I am today and without you, I would be nothing.

You taught me the value of hard work and perseverance. You taught me how to be patient. And most importantly, you taught me to stay strong. Like Tupac had said in his song, "ain't no woman alive that can take my mama's place"- that still rings true to this day.

Mom, I understand being a woman is not easy. I admit to resenting you so much when I was younger and wanting nothing to do with you. Just know that despite your threats of abandoning me, I will never abandon you. No matter what. I never realized how much pain you had in your heart from your past. Now I know that you never meant for this to happen and that you wanted what was best for us.

Without you my life would never be the same. You made me a strong woman. I am self reliant and a hard worker. Because of you, teachers loved me along with supervisors. I remember one Christmas when I was probably in fourth grade. Nana asked if I would get married and what my prince charming would be like; to my reply I said "I don't need a man". I said that and I meant every word because you taught me to be an independent woman.

You taught me to have no fear and to come at life with all the strength I have. Because of you I wake up and have a positive attitude no matter how crappy life gets.

Just know that you matter to me and to my sister. No matter what, I love you. I may not be the best daughter but I promise to try my best to make you proud and I will be by your side when your time comes.

I love you to the moon and back mom no matter how much we been through and how mad we may get at one another. I will never stop loving you and I will never be the same once I have to live without you.

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.

Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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Why I Appreciate My Parents So Much

This is for my two biggest supporters.


One thing I've noticed, the older I've gotten, is how much I appreciate my parents.

We've become so close, it's almost funny to think at one point I looked at them so much differently. When I was younger, my parents were much more strict than they are now. They disciplined differently and didn't let me do certain things. The older I've gotten, the more freedom I've gotten, which is one big sigh of relief.

My parents are such great people. Throughout my whole life, I've always had friends of parents or people who know my parents tell me how great they both are. I'm so blessed to have been raised by them and to have gotten their characteristics.

My mom is so loving and generous, and she thinks of literally everyone else in her life before herself. She's smart and funny, and she is always there when I need someone to talk to. She's taught me how to be courteous, kind, funny (with her sense of humor), and most importantly, accepting towards others.

The older I get, the more I realize how similar I am to her. She's my favorite woman in the whole world. We understand each other.

My dad is a thoughtful, hilarious, wise, and helpful guy who has taught me so many lessons throughout the years. He always makes sure my finances are in order, even more than I do. He keeps me laughing with his funny stories and made-up songs that he sings. He always asks me how my day was every time I walk through the door. He is so adorable and thoughtful, and I'm so happy I got his wit and humor.

His smile lights up a room and I'm so happy I've been hearing his laugh and will continue to for the rest of my life.

Another great thing about my parents is that they've taught me what love looks like. They're so loving, kind, and patient towards each other. I've rarely ever seen them fight in my life. They still treat one another how they did when they first started dating. I have friends and know people whose parents aren't together, and I'm so lucky to say I can't imagine what that's like.

My parents complete each other; they are soulmates. I'm so lucky and appreciative that I get to have the honor of watching their love play out throughout their lives.

I'm so happy and thankful that these are the parents I ended up with. They're the best. I hope to be half of my parents when I become a parent myself.

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