Love is, in fact, a battlefield. It’s easy to get rid of texts and photos and the dead flowers sitting on your windowsill. As impossible as it seems, eventually you can also get rid of their face, their voice, and those memories. Eventually you can un-love someone. Every relationship and break-up is a lesson learned. You have to keep the lessons, and let go of the feelings. Believe me, I know, it hurts like hell. But you should always remember:
1. Moving on is a process.
It isn’t easy, especially when you wanted so badly for the relationship to work. There is nothing wrong with that. It will take time, but time heals all wounds. Take all the time you need. Trying to erase years of memories, both good and bad, will not simply happen in just a day.
2. It isn't your fault.
A relationship takes two –two brains, two bodies, two hearts… It isn’t all your fault. So forgive yourself for your mistakes, and move onto bigger and better things.
3. Now you have time to love yourself.
Love yourself enough to walk away. Love yourself enough to remove bad people from your life. Love yourself first. Always. You can't love others unless you love yourself first.
4. That person changed your life...for the better.
Even though they may not be yours anymore, they will forever be a part of you. They have watched and helped you grow and become the person that you are destined to be. Without them, you may even be a better person. Who knows where you'd be if you never met them?5. You are letting go of the poison.
One of the best feelings is finally losing your attachment to someone that is no good for you. No matter how many times someone tells you this, and no matter how many times you get sick of hearing it, it actually does get better.6. You are the author of your own book.
Relationships are like chapters. Once it’s over, you can choose to re-read it again, or you can begin reading the next chapter. A word of advice: turn the page. A new chapter means new beginnings, and you never know where your story ends up if you just keep re-reading that same old chapter.
7. You'll be OK and you are still beautiful.
Bury your regrets and your mistakes and your imbalances. Don’t carry their weight. Don’t let them become a part of you. You are great. Always remind yourself that you deserve someone better.
8. You will love again.
Instead of being your ‘happily ever after,’ he turned out to be your ‘once upon a time.’ Either way, you’re still a princess. Your prince charming is still out there, and you’ll find him. I promise.You are not alone. Most importantly, follow this motto: “Breathe, eat, sleep, wake up, and do it all over again until one day, it’s just not as hard anymore.”