After experiencing what was absolutely the worst year of my entire life, I started to feel lost. My health declined rapidly, my anxiety and depression were at an all-time high, I lost my grandfather; who was my best friend, and everything seemed to go wrong. While I was living in rock bottom, I was grasping for reasons to keep going. Big things or small things that made me happy became my reason to live.
Nobody really likes to admit that they feel like their life isn't worth living. Because they often don't speak about it, the subject becomes a sort of taboo. Maybe it's time to break some of the stigmas around mental health issues. So, I thought I'd share this list of things that inspired me to live as a way to show you just how important the little things are.
Whether these things be important or minuscule, they gave me enough happiness to see another day.
1. My four wonderful pets
On the roughest days, I asked myself one important question. "Would my dogs be sad without me?" Yes. Every time those goofy little fur babies made me laugh or smile, I realized that they would want me around. Just the excitement on their faces when I reach down to pet them was enough to confirm that they love me as much as I love them.
2. My art & writing
Sitting down every night with my sketchbook ready to draw or my laptop ready to write, there's an indescribable flame of happiness which is just enough to remind me that I can still feel joy. There are articles and artwork I haven't done yet that are just waiting for me to explore.
3. New seasons of my favorite shows
The excitement I feel when I think about Stranger Things' new season coming out in July always gives me motivation. Maybe it's silly and small but I realized that I didn't want to miss out on watching it. That kept me going.
4. My friends and family
Seeing how some people don't have the best support systems made me appreciate mine even more. They want me to keep fighting, they love me enough to support me; I'm blessed to have them. I want to make them proud, and that made me fight even harder.
5. The smell of new books
If that makes me sound like a nerd, so be it. Something about cracking open a brand new book gives me joy and when the joy I feel is limited, it's like a breath of fresh air. Another small thing to hold onto.
6. My newborn niece
Around the time I got sick, one of my closest friends became pregnant. Although she isn't my sister, her daughter will always be like a niece to me. Crying tears of joy when I saw that sweet little baby for the first time made me see that I wanted to watch her grow up. I couldn't miss out on that.
7. Beautiful sunsets
When the world seems grey and bleak, it feels like there is no color left in the world. Then, the sky looks like it's been covered in neon paint and I can't help but be reminded that beauty does still exist.
8. The chance at recovery
While roaming around in rock bottom, the idea that you might be okay somedays feels impossible. Sometimes it's just reading a story that restores your faith in humanity that becomes a small crumb of hope. For me, it was a reminder that someday I will be okay again, even if it doesn't seem possible.
9. Discovering new hobbies
Because I have been [and still am] pretty much bedridden, I had a lot of free time on my hands. I had time to focus on learning new things like photo editing, HTML coding, and graphic design. It made me realize that there are millions of things out there that I can still learn and it was a reminder that I could find joy again through passion.
10. Online shopping
Yes, I know, online shopping isn't the best coping mechanism, but who can deny that having a package show up at your doorstep is the best feeling in the world? Although material items won't ensure complete happiness, the joy I could feel from buying a new pair of shoes was a reminder that there was more joy out there for me to feel.
11. Someday finding love
One thing that has consistently kept me going is the thought that someday I could be in a wonderful marriage with a wonderful spouse and beautiful children. Living with my mind in such a dark place made me feel like I'd never be able to have that. I had to keep reminding myself that the life I want is out there waiting for me.