Do not criticize, for you are idolized.
I am sure we have all heard the term, “Monkey see, monkey do.” As the eldest of two siblings, my mom was constantly reminding me that little eyes were mimicking my actions, and little ears heard my words. After spending some time visiting with my family over the summer break, I was reminded again that I am idolized simply because “I am the older sister.” So, to all of you older siblings who dread going to your younger sibling’s soccer game, or fixing that little ponytail before school, remember that our actions, words, and the character we display towards our younger fans should be taken with both caution and tons of pride.
Words. A simple word or tone in your voice could make or break a younger person’s day depending on how you extract it. Though your days are probably filled with the stresses of class, extra curricula’s, and the ins and outs of everyday life, we forget that something as simple as a word can be portrayed as something so encouraging, or so detrimental to their confidence. With that being said, remember to encourage your little sister on that new outfit she just bought, or high-five your little brother after their sport’s game. You have no idea how much it will mean on their end. The smallest things could completely turn their day around. Why? They idolize you. Whatever the age difference may be, remember that you are looked up to.
Actions. The phrase, “Actions speak louder than words.” Well, live by this; especially if you have younger siblings. Every word you speak, the phrase you use, and eyes and ears that think you’re the greatest being on the planet watch the actions that you display. Be mindful of this when that younger sibling asks for help on math homework, or an English paper. Maybe even take some time out of your day and give your younger sibling a phone call to let them know you thought of them, or a text message that lets them know you are interested in what is going on in their lives. Though their lives may seem simple, something as small as these gestures could mean so much.
Character. Be mindful of your character. Through actions and words are important, your true character in which you display these aspects could be both wonderful and detrimental. The next time that younger sibling is annoying, take a breath. A harsh tone in your voice could destroy their self-confidence. Why? They idolize you. The next time your favorite show is on and they come in chattering about their new toy or what they did at school, listen. Technology is incredible people. You can find out what happened next week. Though you may think these times are simple, these are the things that younger siblings will remember for years.
Remember to be an encourager and not a discourager. You have no idea how many little eyes and little ears are watching you and taking everything you say with a little more than just a grain of salt. You remember being that age and how hard it was to grow up. Don’t add to it. Instead, be mindful of the fact that you can turn their entire day around with just a simple word, action, or display of your character. Why? They idolize you. Take pride, take heart, and most of all, take caution.