The Truth About Therapy

The Truth About Therapy

You're not crazy, you're human.


The truth about therapy is that we all need it. Whether your form of therapy is playing an instrument, writing, singing, playing a sport, or visiting a professional a few times a week, everybody needs something to help keep them grounded. We live in a society where vulnerability is a sign of weakness and we are encouraged to bury our emotions rather than deal with them. Essentially, we are told to "just keep swimming" no matter how much we need someone to throw us a life vest. We are expected to tread until we make it to the shore or tread until we let go and drown. Heres' how you keep treading.

Validate Your Feelings

Nobody can tell you how to feel. Therefore, no matter what you're going through never label yourself. You aren't weak, you aren't just imagining things, and you don't need to just let it go. It's crucial for you to acknowledge that your feelings are legitimate. I encourage you to do this by picking up your pen and writing things down. If you can't say it aloud at least put it down on paper; record it, get it out of your head and into the universe. Writing things down makes it all real for me because it means that it happened. When I individually break down my thoughts and record the feelings even I don't understand, I feel closer to myself and more whole when I un-assemble to reassemble. The first order of business is accepting an emotional state that society has deemed as abnormal.

Own Your Feelings

"Put your Pride aside and ride"... for YOURSELF. You owe it to yourself to seek help when you need it. So many people walk around today damaged and broken wearing a sign that says "I'm Fine". Stop pretending everything is OK when it's falling apart and seek help so you can rest. After confronting your feelings, its time for you to own them and consider possible solutions to help ease your situation. Replace that sign with one that says "Help Me". That boy or girl needs you. You gotta fight for yourself, fight for your life, fight because if you don't ride for you, who else will? Tuck your ego away, you need help and that is more than okay.


Whether you are a believer or non-believer in God, prayer will help get you through this time in your life, and it's something that you should try. It doesn't have to be a fancy letter to God with a lofty tone, he just wants you in your most authentic form. There have been extremely low points in my life when I go to God in prayer and can't even find the words to say, so I just call on his name. To anyone reading this, know that that's all you need to do. He already knows what you're going through, he knows how much pain you're in, and he knows what you need. He just wants you to acknowledge the fact that you need him. So after you become okay with being tired of treading even if others see it as a weakness, you can then put your pride aside and call out to the lifeguard, and then the lifeguard who was watching all along and knew that you needed help can finally interject and help you...he just needed you to ask.

Some days I feel happy, some days I feel confident, other days I feel empty and maybe even doubtful, some days I feel at peace within myself, and some days I feel lost in chaos, some days my heart aches from things in the past, and other days I am overjoyed about the future. My feelings are valid, my feelings are real, you're not crazy... this is called being human, we were meant to feel.

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When God Says, “Not Right Now.”

“God give me faith to wait and not manipulate. To trust You fully, no matter how my circumstances may appear." — Lynn Cowell


One of the most frustrating yet beautiful things is when God tells us “no" or “not right now."

At the time, you may have agony or desperation for this one thing to work out in your life, but it slips away from you. You may ask God why. Why does He want you to be unhappy? Why does He want to take away your dreams?

At the time, you cannot see how much God truly is working in your life, but He is. In my life, every time that I was disappointed that a plan or dream didn't work out, I was devastated. I didn't want to be in a position where I was challenged and tested. I wanted all the blessings to flow and to fulfill what I thought was my plan in life. But that's exactly what it was: my plan.

I did not see at the time that that is not what God intended for me and that He actually had far greater plans than I did for myself. He needed to mold me into who I am supposed to be today. Along the way I have met the most amazing people that have had a huge impact on my life, have gone through the most amazing experiences with God, and I wouldn't trade going through all the trials because it has truly made me into the woman I am today.

“What God does in us while we wait is as important as what we are waiting for." – John Ortberg

God is continually, endlessly, working in our lives.

We may not see it, but He is. We may blame God for all the things that are going wrong in our lives, but we never see that in the end, we were supposed to go through the low valleys to get to the high, amazing, and beautiful mountains in our lives.

I truly believe that it's when you're at the bottom of the darkest pit in your life that you can actually see the light of God shining brightly upon you. During these times, pray to Him to lead you to understanding that this is all a part of His plan for you.

It hurts God to see that His child is suffering, but in order to carve out just the person that you are supposed to be, you must go through challenges. Where you are today is no accident. God is using the challenge you are in to shape you and prepare you for the place He wants you tomorrow. When it comes to God's plan, timing is absolutely everything.

Looking back on all the events that I had to endure before getting to where I am now, I know that I had to go through the trials in order to be just who I am today, which is happier than I have ever been because I know God and His plan for me. Waiting is the most difficult job of hope, but you must remain faithful and know that God is guiding you.

“When I wait, you strengthen my heart." Psalm 27:14

When you are waiting for God's righteous plan, don't lose faith in His goodness. He only wants the best for you, and in the end, you will look back and see just how much He truly was working in your life. Be patient and the blessings will flow.

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How To Trust When You Feel Reluctant

How my sweet niece taught me the ropes of trust.


What does it exactly mean to "trust"? I'm not too sure. I think that trust has so many different levels, and manifests differently given the scenario. The general definition is something like this.

The firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength in something or someone.

Which makes sense, but how trust materializes can be a really interesting, malleable thing. Yesterday, I was sitting on my couch staring out the window, all curled up in a blanket. I heard a little knock at the door, my niece and her Mimi poked their heads in. Little girl had just woken up from her nap, and Mimi was seeing if I might want to get some snuggles.

Oh, I just couldn't help but love her even more with those sleepy, little, quiet eyes and slow movements. Mimi placed her in my arms, but when she did, I could see some tension move into that little one's shoulders. She was a little more rigid. Still sitting with me, but stiff, not quite sure if I was safe. Then, she looked up at me and studied my face for a few small moments. She gave me her sweet smile and then she snuggled her shoulders and leaned in. There it was, trust in the sweetest of ways.

We were both just tucked in for 10 minutes or so, exchanging peeking smiles, and looking at each other's hands and fingers. All the while, my little niece was reminding me of myself.

Just 15 minutes before she came in, I was feeling that same stiffness in my shoulders, the tension of the day and my agenda. A rigid discomfort, and unsureness of where I was. I felt questions rising up in me. I was sitting in what I knew was right at the moment, but stiffly. Just like my little niece, still sitting and accepting the situation, but not eagerly.

It's a bummer, but I think I actually do this pretty often. I will accept the current that I'm swimming in and agree, yes, I'm in the right lane, but I'm not exactly embracing it. In this world, flavors change and we are called to adapt. That adaptation doesn't always come within a flicker or a blink. We might do so a little reluctantly, hesitantly, and cautiously. My niece taught me something so dear and so beloved yesterday. She taught me the exact answer of what to do when that stiffness starts to crumble your trust.

She reminded herself who was holding her. She studied my face and recalled where she had seen it before. And then she determined me safe.

Bring on the snuggles.

I found myself taking my nieces advice, and practicing this same remembrance. I needed to behold the face of my Father and study it, seek it. I had to remind myself of whose I am and where I am, how carefully I am held, how beloved I am, and how His Truth is the only certainty that I need.

"You have said, 'Seek My face.' My heart says to you, 'Your face, Lord, do I seek.'" (Psalm 27:8)

We must remind ourselves of those moments we came to know Him better, a wrinkle of His face, or a tender commonality that we've seen in His kindness. Take note of each encounter, and hold the things you learn as treasure with full trust and assurance. Allow yourself to really weigh into Him. Give every piece of yourself, because in His truth are the delights of trust, of reassurance, of quietness, and peace.

My little niece reminded me that far greater than anything can we behold on earth, is beholding Jesus' face.

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