Regardless of what breaks your heart, a relationship ending, a death of a loved one, or a stressed/ depressed life, at the end of the day we all know that feeling. Life sends curves balls and everyone needs a lift me up. Read these steps and they will help you along the way.

1. It can take a long bit of time to fully heal from a broken heart. Be patient with yourself. Don’t expect yourself to immediately be ok. Everyone handles heartbreak in a different way and within a different time frame. Never feel like you have to rush to heal. The first step to healing is acknowledging your emotions. If you run away and pretend the pain is nonexistent, it will haunt you until you finally give in. And at that point the emotions will be stronger and more intense therefore making the healing process longer and more difficult. Allow yourself to live in that sadness for awhile it is expected to need time to grieve.
2. The brain works best when you schedule a day to stop talking about the situation. This means until the deadline you have scheduled you can talk about all the negative perspectives you have about your experience and/or about a certain someone. You have to let your soul re-center itself. There is no way to do that if you are living with all these negative thoughts and feelings. Let all of that go. And when you choose to do so be done with it. I’m not saying you are not allowed to think about the situation again, you should expect those thoughts to linger and not just disappear. Learn to acknowledge those thoughts when they appear and that there is no need to change them. They will change when it is time. Realize there is difference between acting upon a thought and simply thinking of it.
3. Reflect on your experiences and feelings. Mind you, this is different than the bad talking explained in number two, this concerns you and no one else. It is interesting, how we all react to situations so differently. The reason why we all react so differently is because we come from different childhoods, different heritages, different communities etc. Ask yourself, what did I learn about myself? What could I have done better? What kind of people do I want to surround myself with? Let yourself grow and learn from the experience.
4. The pain you’ve gone through is a chance to re-create yourself! Sometimes it is easy to lose sight of what is most important to us when you engage in a close relationship with another person. Although the quality of your relationships can be important it is also just as important to do things for yourself. Rediscover your old passions and formulate some new ones. Use this vulnerable time to become a better individual, one that you are proud of.

Don’t just go through life, live through it and enjoy the journey!