If It’s 'Their' Fault, Who Are 'They'?

If It’s 'Their' Fault, Who Are 'They'?

The "they" you are referring to is yourself, your family, your peers, and the people surrounding you.
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Over the weekend I watched a Netflix documentary called “Audrie and Daisy.”

If you haven’t seen it or even heard about it, you should take the time to watch it. For me, the documentary showed more of the investigation process for sexual assaults than other documentaries about sexual assault that I have watched previously.

The documentary is about two girls that get sexually assaulted by boys who they considered friends in high school. These girls end up getting trolled online by their peers and the communities they have lived in for their entire life.

In a specific part of the documentary, a cop that is investigating one of the girls sexual assault talks about how if you don’t have enough evidence the charges have to be dropped. He talked about how he said she said stories are not good enough and nothing was pointing to that girl being raped by the guys she said she was raped by.

The part that got me the most about him talking was how he blamed it on society saying that “that’s just the way society is”. And by him saying that it got me thinking about what people think society is and what society does.

Society doesn’t choose whose hot and who’s not.

Society doesn’t choose how much money you need to succeed.

Society doesn’t make the laws.

We as people choose all those things. We as people are society.

Society isn’t an underground government service that chooses how things go in the world.

Society isn’t a group of people that have been specially picked around the world to choose what happens in the world.

Society isn’t a rule book we have to follow. Nowhere does it say that you have to do this because society is that way.

Stop blaming things on society. Society is not an excuse for you to use.

Let me tell you what society is.

Society is us, we choose who’s hot and who’s not. We choose what the laws are. We choose everything.

We talk about wanting to change the society and then we blame things on society. If we want to change something then start as an individual or a group of people to change it.

Society can change by one person. There is no one to tell you, “you can’t change society because I am society and I chose what happens.”

If you don’t like the way something is in the world. Stop blaming it on society. Because society is the nation and the nation is the people living in it which is you and your friends and your family and the people surrounding you. We make everything happen in the world. If we don’t like something then we have to change it.

If we change things then the society will be different and get better. We have to change things for our anger of how society works will change.

The “they” you are referring to while blaming society for your problems is you and the many other people in this nation.

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2018 is sort of a trap for this woman. She believes in women with all of the fire inside of her, but it is hard for her to offer support when people are making fools of themselves and disguising it as feminism.

The fact of the matter is that women possess qualities that men don't and men possess qualities that women don't. That is natural. Plus, no one sees men parading the streets in penis costumes complaining that they don't get to carry their own fetus for nine months.

1. She really loves and values women.

She is incredibly proud to be a woman.

She knows the amount of power than a woman's presence alone can hold. She sees when a woman walks into a room and makes the whole place light up. She begs that you won't make her feel like a "lady hater" because she doesn't want to follow a trend that she doesn't agree with.

2. She wants equality, too

She has seen the fundamental issues in the corporate world, where women and men are not receiving equal pay.

She doesn't cheer on the businesses that don't see women and men as equivalents. But she does recognize that if she works her butt off, she can be as successful as she wants to.

3. She wears a bra.

While she knows the "I don't have to wear a bra for society" trend isn't a new one, but she doesn't quite get it. Like maybe she wants to wear a bra because it makes her feel better. Maybe she wears a bra because it is the normal things to do... And that's OK.

Maybe she wants to put wear a lacy bra and pretty makeup to feel girly on .a date night. She is confused by the women who claim to be "fighting for women," because sometimes they make her feel bad for expressing her ladyhood in a different way than them.

4. She hates creeps just as much as you do. .

Just because she isn't a feminist does not mean that she is cool with the gruesome reality that 1 in 5 women are sexually abused.

In fact, this makes her stomach turn inside out to think about. She knows and loves people who have been through such a tragedy and wants to put the terrible, creepy, sexually charged criminals behind bars just as bad as the next woman.

Remember that just because she isn't a feminist doesn't mean she thinks awful men can do whatever they want.

5. There is a reason she is ashamed of 2018's version of feminism.

She looks at women in history who have made a difference and is miserably blown away by modern feminism's performance.

Not only have women in the past won themselves the right to vote, but also the right to buy birth control and have credit cards in their names and EVEN saw marital rape become a criminal offense.

None of them dressed in vagina costumes to win anyone over though... Crazy, right?

6. She isn't going to dress in a lady parts costume to prove a point.

This leaves her speechless. It is like the women around her have absolutely lost their minds and their agendas, only lessening their own credibility.

"Mom, what are those ladies on TV dressed up as?"

"Ummm... it looks to me like they are pink taco's honey."

She loves who she is and she cherished what makes her different from the men around her. She doesn't want to compromise who she is as a woman just so she can be "equal with men."

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