The Unofficial Rules of Love
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The Unofficial Rules of Love

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The Unofficial Rules of Love

  1. First and foremost, make sure you are in love with yourself. This is the most important rule. You have to have confidence and find self love. Try to accept your imperfections and soon you will learn how to embrace them. If you can't find love for yourself how will you ever be comfortable with opening up to another human being?

2. Know that it's okay to be vulnerable. Now I know the word "vulnerable" has bad connotation but in this case it means you should practice being open with your partner. Don't build walls and decide to not let anyone in. You gotta open up and let your heart love FULLY. As scary as it will be at first, it will be worth it in the end once you realize you loved as much as you possibly could :)

3. Have trust. What is a relationship without trust? Toxic. You gotta have faith that your partner will be true and loyal. If it's hard for you to trust because you're still healing from damage done in your past relationships then it will only take time to build that trust, don't worry or give up.

4. R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Don't be with someone that doesn't make you feel safe and cherished. A beautiful and healthy relationship should be one where you don't feel forced to do things you aren't comfortable with.

5. Communication is a MAJOR key (really hope y'all read that in DJ Khaled's voice..haha jk im a loser). Whether you're talking about what you like in the sheets or your future together, you should always be honest when having these conversations with your boo. Communication matters when you are with someone you deeply care about. If you can't picture yourself having these serious talks with whoever you are currently with then they simply aren't the "one".


6. Know when it's time to end it, walk away, or just cut things off. A good friend once told me: "If there's more bad than good in the relationship then it's time to go".

Yes it will be hard but you have to do what is best for both parties. How will you grow as a person if you know things aren't right but won't take action to change anything? Trust me in the long run your future self will thank you.♡

7. Have a positive outlook on your relationship and what it holds.

Never think:

-What if they cheat?

-Im afraid I will get hurt

And the most cliche thought of them all…

-"They are the right person it just the wrong time!"

If whoever you're with really is "the right person" then they will be with you no matter what and things will work out between you two. You want to find someone who won't only want to be with you when it's "perfect timing" or when life is all peachy. You gotta find someone who will stick by your side even when your whole fucking world is upside down and you're the worst possible version of yourself. They shouldn't just want you when you're at the highest point and thriving. Remember: "For better or for worse" .

8. Make sure you've had a chance to see them "sick, scared, and focused". See what they are like after a really shitty day at work, when talking to their mom on the phone or even when they get lost in the moment while doing something they are passionate about.

You can't just choose to see the one side they decide to show you because of course they will only show you their best side. You gotta step back and see the whole painting and really take it all in. Their entire self. The whole human being. The raw inside and outside.

9. And The Last Unofficial Rule Is…

Accept their flaws and imperfections.

After you have witnessed their stormiest days then you will know in your heart if you still want to pursue a relationship with them, continue to create memories and allow them to be a part of your life.

Relationships should be about bringing out the best in your other half. You've probably heard and seen most of what I have written in some cheesy Disney Channel Original movie (remember those) or maybe in one of those 90's teen romance films but it's all true, I'm telling ya.

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