Being single is a precious time in your life. Some people forget to step back, look at the world, and enjoy being alone. There is no one there to hold you back from being who you want to be, go where you want to go, and explore the unknown. If you never take time to do something for yourself your future relationship(s) could be in jeopardy. You will always be asking yourself “what if’s” and stressing yourself about never doing something when you were younger. While you are single do everything for yourself. It’s not selfish. Sooner or later you will be doing everything for your kids, husband, and your parents who are getting older. This is the time to find you. So do it. Don’t hold back. Travel the world. Go on adventures alone and make new friends. Take risks and test your abilities. You are only single once.

Since I told myself these things and embraced my status of being single for two years, my life has forever changed. I’ve taken on challenges I never thought in my life I could nor would do. If I had never told myself to stop searching for “Mr. Right” and search for “me” I would not be where I am today. I would not have changed my major to something I found interesting but knew was challenging. I would never have strayed away from the easy path in life. I would not have made infinite miracles for the kids and be apart of something bigger than myself. I wouldn’t have had the guts to study abroad without knowing anyone who was going. I would not have spent five weeks in a different country. I wouldn’t have found truly amazing people who are now lifelong friends while abroad. I would not have traveled to a place such as Morocco, Africa with people I had just met. I wouldn’t have seen some life changing views and moments in different countries. I would not be graduating college a year early. I would not have the thought of possibly going for my doctorate. I would not be confident in the person I am and am becoming. I would not have found my weaknesses or my strengths in life. I would not have been able to travel, get lost, make mistakes, and take on a challenge by myself.

Being single has allowed me to find who I am. I couldn’t be happier with where my life is taking me and who I am becoming. If you are currently single, try to be truly single and watch your life change as you focus on yourself. Being truly single is the best thing that has ever happened to me.