The Transition to College: 21st Century Edition

The Transition to College: 21st Century Edition

How social media has changed the transition into college.

Technology was introduced to me at a young age. From the Nintendo DS to computers, I grew up in a time when technology was rapidly evolving. My generation was introduced to online communication when we were barely in elementary school through Webkinz. By the time we were in seventh grade, most of my classmates and I had created Facebook accounts. Then came Twitter and Instagram. While our parents yelled at us to get off the computer and go outside, and as our teachers warned us of the dangers of social media, no one ever told us that it would be essential for our transition into college.

Prior to entering college, chances are you saw your best friends every day at school. Whether you had class with them or not, you would pass them every day in the hallway and find comfort in their passing smiles. You looked forward to when you had the same lunch block, and spent those thirty minutes catching up and being silly. Well, that has been take away.

Your friends are now at their own colleges. Whether it be a few minutes away or across the country, it does not matter because they are not there with you. You will both get caught up in school and become busy and overtired. Now that you cannot pass them in the hallway or even hop in the car and meet them for coffee, you rely on text messaging, FaceTime, and social media.

Seeing your best friends having the time of their lives on their Snapchat stories will always bring a smile to your face. When you are sitting in your dorm thinking about how much you miss your best friends, you know they are just one FaceTime call away. You have the opportunity to see your best friends' dorms via pictures on social media before you get the chance to go visit.

I have grown to rely on social media and technology during this transition, as sad as it sounds. I have branched out and made friends, but in order to talk to my friends from home, the only way to do that is through the use of technology and social media. My professors talk about how sad it is to see students walking together but all on their phones. In a sense it is sad. In another sense, it is their way to connect home while they are away.

For my final speech in my communication course this semester, I tackled this topic. I looked at the pitfalls of this generation's reliance on technology and how it has expanded our communication opportunities. With FaceTime, texting, and social media, your friends and family are just a call away. The problem with this is the fact that if you are not using FaceTime or another video chat medium, nonverbal communication is virtually eliminated. You do not see how what you says impacts the other person. You also do not know if the other person is lying. They could be saying they are fine, but they could be sad.

Overall, the influx of technology has helped first year college students with their transition from high school to college. They are able to stay in contact with friends and family. People are able to talk to others all over the world or country. When you begin to miss your best friend, you can pick up your phone, laptop, or tablet and video chat with them. Today, you may be physically separated; however, you are always connected.
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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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To Love a Broken Vase — An Ode To Valentine's Day

"To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides." --David Viscott, How to Live with Another Person, 1974


I remember an anecdote my elementary school teacher told us in the fifth grade. When a mother is pregnant with a child, they feel comfortable in their flesh. Provided with everything they needed to survive, they don't have to worry about anything. It's not until after they are born and the umbilical chord is severed that they realized they were not good enough, and insecurities fester.

I went through a similar process when I was growing up. Contained within my family and books, I felt like I held the world in my hands. It was not until high school where I seriously sought out others for company and wanted to apply myself to the social universe. And I saw myself changing in not only my behaviors, but how I see myself within the world.

With working hard to get good grades, with trying to get my driver's license, and becoming a better person overall, I realized the process involved a lot more effort than I ever had expected. And I found myself unprepared for the slow drudgery of it all. While I once pushed through to get things done, now I find myself giving up on projects while coming up with new ones. I frequently turned to my laptop for solace, as it kept my fantasies alive, but it also stole time away from me.

These behaviors showed in my relationships: I found it hard to meet up with friends, and my parents started worrying about what would my future look like. With the latter, I've had multiple conflicts with them, with me asserting I wanted to be free from everything, including accountability. Of course, that perception was quite unrealistic — to love and be loved, as well as to succeed, there has to a tug to know when you're doing something wrong.


A year ago, I wrote an article about how I saw romantic love from somebody who has never been in a relationship. Many things still apply today — I'm better off working towards my educational and career goals than seeking out love, though with Valentine's Day, it still fascinates me on whether or not I could be loved from somebody else.

From what I've heard from others, they would be charmed by my intelligence and kindness, neither fulfilling the stereotype of a nerd nor the perfect angel. However, the naivete would also put someone off, and potentially puts them in danger. I also see myself as the spontaneous type, but to the point where I forget where my priorities are, again making them worse than they really are. I imagine they would be intrigued by me as a friend or a lover, but end up breaking away after a short amount of time.

I don't imagine finding myself loving other people in the short term; however, I find myself open towards others. And that what makes me more afraid about how people view me--will they not be able to see the positives in myself when the time comes? Will they be just as capable of forgiving me the same way my family does?

At the end, I should take my friend's advice for Valentine's Day — love oneself. And take actions to make sure that I can love myself deeper and further.

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