5 Benefits Of A Healthy Debate

5 Benefits Of A Healthy Debate

Why tactful arguing can actually be a good thing.
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While we tend to react quickly whenever our views are challenged, this can actually be a good thing. In many ways, having differences is a healthy part of relationships because it helps boost our individuality. Whenever you project an idea, it is likely that people will disagree and criticize you. Some may even go as far as to try to change your beliefs into what they think is best. However, if you debate often, you will develop the skills you need to be able to counter their critique. By learning to constructively put together logical connections and statistical evidence, you will learn to come up with stronger premises that will enhance your claims. This will enable you to outshine your opponent in any debate. Although you may not always win, you will get better at arguing. Keep in mind that it is always good to have friends who don’t share the same views as you, because it makes debating more interesting. Here are some reasons why arguing will actually make you a better person.

1. Makes you think on your feet

By constantly debating, you are being placed in the spotlight, and as a result, are forced to think fast. By that being said, when you argue back and forth, using factual evidence and perform everything under a specific time frame. By being able to collect your thoughts faster, you will achieve the winning end during the next debate with your friends or possibly loved one. Remember, effective debating is about getting better at proving your point, not about sabotaging their views. Therefore, you must learn to keep your cool, even if they initiate insults, or harsh comments about your perspective.


2. Allows you to better understand yourself and your views

When you argue/debate with people who share different ideas, you learn more not only about their perspective, but more about yourself as well. In the long run, you will become in sync with your likes/dislikes and thus, better understand yourself.

3. You become more of an individual

Piggybacking off my second point, once you are fully aware of your views and perspective, you will become more individualized i.e someone who is distinct, single and has his/her own discrete way of living. As draining as arguing can be, because you may feel as though you constantly have to defend yourself and your ideas, view it in a more positive light. See it as a mental exercise rather than a burden. However, you may want to remember a few things

A. Not everyone is capable of conducting a successful debate: For example, some people, during a debate, may begin to attack you, insult you, or disrespect your beliefs. This is a sign that they are losing, and see you as a threat. This may cause them to react aggressively or say condescending things about your point of view. During this situation, you may choose to walk away if you feel as though the overall result of the debate is counterproductive.

B. We all have different ways and styles of arguing/debating. Some of us are direct and straightforward, while others can be extremely contradictory and vague. That is why it is important to be an avid listener and watch out for possible flaws in their speech that may be used against them.

C. Do not explode if you are not able to keep up with the debate. Again, view this as an intellectual sport, and a competition for yourself to improve. Give every debate your best shot, and you will feel better about yourself afterwards. Sometimes learning something new is more valuable than winning.

4. It makes you more competitive

Whenever your opinion is challenged, you may feel a pit of fire burning through your chest. You have the sudden will to respond and shun the other person--especially if what they say sounds ignorant. This is a great response because whether you like what the other person is saying or not, you will be motivated to speak your mind. You will be motivated to work hard, and construct a brilliant argument that will crush their ability to speak again. This will boost your confidence, verbal expression skills, and fuel your ambition towards winning the argument.

5. It sharpens your critical thinking skills

Arguing makes you think critically, analyze, and create logical explanations as to why your reasoning is valid. Using sophisticated language will not make for a better argument. It is instead the way you manipulate that language in your favor that will result in you completing a successful argument. Thus, the more you practice efficient debating, the more you improve your critical thinking skills, and the better you will become at crossing your point.


Recognizably, we all have that one person in our friends'/family circle, who just loves to argue on and on about their point of view. These people often project their opinions fearlessly without considering those who may challenge their perspectives. However, this article shows the many ways in which arguing back can be beneficial for the both of you. Arguing is about listening, learning, verbal/mental techniques, logic, and should be a fun moment of heat in the spotlight. It is not mocking views that don't appeal to you--that isn't the proper way to do it. One last tip to remember about arguing is that it is always best to research a topic before debating about it, especially if it is related to politics, religion, and/or social controversy.

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No, I Don't Have To Tell You I'm Trans Before Dating You

Demanding trans people come out to potential partners is transphobic.
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In 2014, Jennifer Laude, a 26-year-old Filipina woman, was brutally murdered after having sex with a U.S. marine. The marine in question, Joseph Scott Pemberton, strangled her until she was unconscious and then proceeded to drown her in a toilet bowl.

Understandably, this crime triggered a lot of outrage. But while some were outraged over the horrific nature of the crime, many others were outraged by a different detail in the story. That was because Jennifer Laude had done the unspeakable. She was a trans woman and had not disclosed that information before having sex with Pemberton. So in the minds of many cis people, her death was the price she paid for not disclosing her trans status. Here are some of the comments on CNN's Facebook page when the story broke.

As a trans person, I run into this attitude all the time. I constantly hear cis people raging about how a trans person is "lying" if they don't come out to a potential partner before dating them. Pemberton himself claimed that he felt like he was "raped" because Laude did not come out to him. Even cis people that fashion themselves as "allies" tend to feel similar.

Their argument is that they aren't not attracted to trans people, so they should have a right to know if a potential partner is trans before dating them. These people view transness as a mere physical quality that they just aren't attracted to.

The issue with this logic is that the person in question is obviously attracted to trans people, or else they wouldn't be worried about accidentally going out with one. So these people aren't attracted to trans people because of some physical quality, they aren't attracted to trans people because they are disgusted by the very idea of transness.

Disgust towards trans people is ingrained in all of us from a very early age. The gender binary forms the basis of European societies. It establishes that there are men and there are women, and each has a specific role. For the gender binary to have power, it has to be rigid and inflexible. Thus, from the day we are born, we are taught to believe in a very static and strict form of gender. We learn that if you have a penis, you are a man, and if you have a vagina, you are a woman. Trans people are walking refutations of this concept of gender. Our very existence threatens to undermine the gender binary itself. And for that, we are constantly demonized. For example, trans people, mainly women of color, continue to be slaughtered in droves for being trans.

The justification of transphobic oppression is often that transness is inherently disgusting. For example, the "trans panic" defense still exists to this day. This defense involves the defendant asking for a lesser sentence after killing a trans person because they contend that when they found out the victim was trans, they freaked out and couldn't control themselves. This defense is still legal in every state but California.

And our culture constantly reinforces the notion that transness is undesirable. For example, there is the common trope in fictional media in which a male protagonist is "tricked" into sleeping with a trans woman. The character's disgust after finding out is often used as a punchline.

Thus, not being attracted to trans people is deeply transphobic. The entire notion that someone isn't attracted to a group of very physically diverse group of people because they are trans is built on fear and disgust of trans people. None of this means it is transphobic to not be attracted to individual trans people. Nor is it transphobic to not be attracted to specific genitals. But it is transphobic to claim to not be attracted to all trans, people. For example, there is a difference between saying you won't go out with someone for having a penis and saying you won't go out with someone because they're trans.

So when a cis person argues that a trans person has an obligation to come out to someone before dating them, they are saying trans people have an obligation to accommodate their transphobia. Plus, claiming that trans people are obligated to come out reinforces the idea that not being attracted to trans people is reasonable. But as I've pointed out, not being attracted to trans people supports the idea that transness is disgusting which is the basis for transphobic oppression.

The one scenario in which I would say a trans person should disclose their trans status is if they are going to have sex with someone and are unsure if their partner is attracted to whatever genitals they may have. In that case, I think it's courteous for a trans person to come out to avoid any awkwardness during sex. But even then, a trans person isn't "lying" if they don't come out and their partner is certainly not being "raped."

It is easy to look at the story of Jennifer Laude and claim that her death was due to the actions of one bigot. But it's more complicated than that. Pemberton was the product of a society that told him that disgust towards trans people was reasonable and natural. So when he found out that he accidentally slept with a trans woman, he killed her.

Every single cis person that says that trans people have to come out because they aren't attracted to trans people feeds into the system that caused Jennifer Laude's death. And until those cis people acknowledge their complicity in that system, there will only be more like Jennifer Laude.

SEE ALSO: Yes, You Absolutely Need To Tell Someone You're Trans Before Dating

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Donald Trump's Sanctions Toward The Iranian Government Are Giving Us Painful Flashbacks To North Korea

Whether the sanction is effective is uncertain. But just like the North Korean nuclear problem, there will also be an answer soon.

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The recent news is that Iran president Hassan Rouhani is willing to talk with Donald Trump and the American government about newly established sanction towards Iran. Three months ago, Donald Trump announced that the U.S. would exit the Iran Nuclear Agreement and threatened to impose sanctions on Iran nuclear in 180 days. Recently, Trump tweeted what could be seen as a threat to the Iranian government.

Donald Trump wanted to force the Iranian government to change their economic policy. There are a lot of domestic problems in Iran. The Iranian government is busy expanding their power in the Middle East. The government used to support the Syrian government. The Saudi Arabian government and the West, which supported the Syrian Rebels, attempted to stop Iran from interfering with Syria. The Iranian government worried that the Syrian governmental crisis would affect their political stability. The overuse of the financial budget has influenced economics, causing Iranian people to appeal the government to revolutionize.

Compare the North Korean Nuclear Crisis and the Iranian Nuclear Crisis and we can see Donald Trump's similar strategies. Firstly, Donald Trump has put in a lot of pressure of either country to force them to give up the nuclear plan and improve economics instead. In the North Korean Crisis, last year, Donald Trump called Kim Jong Un "rocket man" and Kim Jong Un condemned him "crazy."

After temporary language confrontation, Kim Jong Un gave and was willing to negotiate with Trump beginning in early 2018. As for Iran, Rouhani also laughed at Trump's policy and criticized Donald Trump's sanction to Iran which was not supported by the European Union. But the latest is that Iran officials are still willing to talk to the U.S. In the trade war with China, Donald Trump also exerted the pressure on China in order to negotiate.

Many people dislike Donald Trump. It is undoubted that Donald Trump's sanction has effectively forced the country to open their economy to a larger degree of freedom. In the Kim-Trump Summit, the U.S. government reportedly played a video that assumed the future of North Korea.

In Iran currently, the inflation is so high that the public wants the economics to be promoted and anti-America sentiment is expected to end. As Donald Trump mentioned, the aim of the sanction is not to overturn the Iranian government, but to let them rethink how to focus on economics rather than on political stability.

Whether the sanction is effective is uncertain. But just like the North Korean nuclear problem, there will also be an answer soon.

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