5 Benefits Of A Healthy Debate

5 Benefits Of A Healthy Debate

Why tactful arguing can actually be a good thing.
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While we tend to react quickly whenever our views are challenged, this can actually be a good thing. In many ways, having differences is a healthy part of relationships because it helps boost our individuality. Whenever you project an idea, it is likely that people will disagree and criticize you. Some may even go as far as to try to change your beliefs into what they think is best. However, if you debate often, you will develop the skills you need to be able to counter their critique. By learning to constructively put together logical connections and statistical evidence, you will learn to come up with stronger premises that will enhance your claims. This will enable you to outshine your opponent in any debate. Although you may not always win, you will get better at arguing. Keep in mind that it is always good to have friends who don’t share the same views as you, because it makes debating more interesting. Here are some reasons why arguing will actually make you a better person.

1. Makes you think on your feet

By constantly debating, you are being placed in the spotlight, and as a result, are forced to think fast. By that being said, when you argue back and forth, using factual evidence and perform everything under a specific time frame. By being able to collect your thoughts faster, you will achieve the winning end during the next debate with your friends or possibly loved one. Remember, effective debating is about getting better at proving your point, not about sabotaging their views. Therefore, you must learn to keep your cool, even if they initiate insults, or harsh comments about your perspective.


2. Allows you to better understand yourself and your views

When you argue/debate with people who share different ideas, you learn more not only about their perspective, but more about yourself as well. In the long run, you will become in sync with your likes/dislikes and thus, better understand yourself.

3. You become more of an individual

Piggybacking off my second point, once you are fully aware of your views and perspective, you will become more individualized i.e someone who is distinct, single and has his/her own discrete way of living. As draining as arguing can be, because you may feel as though you constantly have to defend yourself and your ideas, view it in a more positive light. See it as a mental exercise rather than a burden. However, you may want to remember a few things

A. Not everyone is capable of conducting a successful debate: For example, some people, during a debate, may begin to attack you, insult you, or disrespect your beliefs. This is a sign that they are losing, and see you as a threat. This may cause them to react aggressively or say condescending things about your point of view. During this situation, you may choose to walk away if you feel as though the overall result of the debate is counterproductive.

B. We all have different ways and styles of arguing/debating. Some of us are direct and straightforward, while others can be extremely contradictory and vague. That is why it is important to be an avid listener and watch out for possible flaws in their speech that may be used against them.

C. Do not explode if you are not able to keep up with the debate. Again, view this as an intellectual sport, and a competition for yourself to improve. Give every debate your best shot, and you will feel better about yourself afterwards. Sometimes learning something new is more valuable than winning.

4. It makes you more competitive

Whenever your opinion is challenged, you may feel a pit of fire burning through your chest. You have the sudden will to respond and shun the other person--especially if what they say sounds ignorant. This is a great response because whether you like what the other person is saying or not, you will be motivated to speak your mind. You will be motivated to work hard, and construct a brilliant argument that will crush their ability to speak again. This will boost your confidence, verbal expression skills, and fuel your ambition towards winning the argument.

5. It sharpens your critical thinking skills

Arguing makes you think critically, analyze, and create logical explanations as to why your reasoning is valid. Using sophisticated language will not make for a better argument. It is instead the way you manipulate that language in your favor that will result in you completing a successful argument. Thus, the more you practice efficient debating, the more you improve your critical thinking skills, and the better you will become at crossing your point.


Recognizably, we all have that one person in our friends'/family circle, who just loves to argue on and on about their point of view. These people often project their opinions fearlessly without considering those who may challenge their perspectives. However, this article shows the many ways in which arguing back can be beneficial for the both of you. Arguing is about listening, learning, verbal/mental techniques, logic, and should be a fun moment of heat in the spotlight. It is not mocking views that don't appeal to you--that isn't the proper way to do it. One last tip to remember about arguing is that it is always best to research a topic before debating about it, especially if it is related to politics, religion, and/or social controversy.

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A Senior's Last Week Of High School

The bittersweet end.
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Well, this is it. This is what we've worked so hard the last four years - who am I kidding - basically what seems like our whole lives for. This is the very last week we will set foot as a student in our high school's hallways. As most schools are getting ready to set their seniors free at last, it all begins to set in - the excitement, the anxiousness, and also the sentiment and nostalgia.

For seniors, the years since our first day as a freshman at the bottom of the high school totem pole have seemed endless, but as we look back on these last few weeks, we realize that this year in particular has gone by extraordinarily fast. It was just yesterday that we were sitting in our classrooms for the very first time, going to our 'last first' practice, and getting our first taste of the (very real) "senioritis". With all that's going on in our lives right now, from sports and clubs, finals, and the sought after graduation ceremony, it's hard to really sit down and think about how our lives are all about to become drastically different. For some it's moving out, and for some it's just the thought of not seeing your best friend on the way to fourth period English; either way, the feels are real. We are all in a tug of war with the emotions going on inside of us; everything is changing - we're ready, but we're not.

THE GOOD. Our lives are about to begin! There is a constant whirlwind of excitement. Senior awards, getting out of school early, parties, and of course Graduation. We are about to be thrust into a world of all new things and new people. Calling our own shots and having the freedom we have so desperately desired since the teenage years began is right around the corner. Maybe the best part is being able to use these new things surrounding you to grow and open your mind and even your heart to ideas you never could before. We get the chance to sink or swim, become our own person, and really begin to find ourselves.

Things we don't even know yet are in the works with new people we haven't even met yet. These friendships we find will be the ones to last us a lifetime. The adventures we experience will transform into the advice we tell our own children and will become the old tales we pass down to our grandkids when they come to visit on the weekends. We will probably hate the all night study sessions, the intensity of finals week, and the overpowering stress and panic of school in general, just like we did in high school... But it will all be worth it for the memories we make that will outlive the stress of that paper due in that class you absolutely hate. As we leave high school, remember what all the parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors are telling you - this are the best times of our lives!

THE BAD. The sentimental emotions are setting in. We're crying, siblings are tearing up, and parents are full-out bawling. On that first day, we never expected the school year to speed by the way it did. Suddenly everything is coming to an end. Our favorite teachers aren't going to be down the hall anymore, our best friends probably won't share a class with us, we won't be coming home to eat dinner with our families...

We all said we wanted to get out of this place, we couldn't wait, we were ready to be on our own; we all said we wouldn't be "so emotional" when the time came, but yet here we are, wishing we could play one more football game with our team or taking the time to make sure we remember the class we liked the most or the person that has made us laugh even when we were so stressed we could cry these past few years. Take the time to hug your parents these last few months. Memorize the facial expressions of your little sister or brother. Remember the sound of your dad coming home from work. These little things we take for granted every day will soon just be the things we tell our college roommate when they ask about where we're from. As much as we've wanted to get out of our house and our school, we never thought it would break our heart as much as it did. We are all beginning to realize that everything we have is about to be gone.

Growing up is scary, but it can also be fun. As we take the last few steps in the hallways of our school, take it all in. Remember, it's okay to be happy; it's okay to be totally excited. But also remember it's okay to be sad. It's okay to be sentimental. It's okay to be scared, too. It's okay to feel all these confusing emotions that we are feeling. The best thing about the bittersweet end to our high school years is that we are finally slowing down our busy lives enough to remember the happy memories.

Try not to get annoyed when your mom starts showing your baby pictures to everyone she sees, or when your dad starts getting aggravated when you talk about moving out and into your new dorm. They're coping with the same emotions we are. Walk through the halls remembering the classes you loved and the classes you hated. Think of the all great times that have happened in our high school years and the friends that have been made that will never be forgotten. We all say we hated school, but we really didn't. Everything is about to change; that's a happy thing, and a sad thing. We all just have to embrace it! We're ready, but we're not...

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Anti-Abortion: The Wrong Future For America

Even if you do not choose to exercise your right, it should not be taken away.

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Alabama is one of the most recent states to sign in an anti-abortion law in their state legislature, with many states following their lead. Starting in November, the new legislation that makes abortion illegal except in cases where the mother's health is at risk will become law in Alabama. That's right, it won't even cover rape or incest. A woman not only gets raped but then must suffer the trauma of having the baby of their offender, while the man who raped them could get away with little or no consequences. Right before Alabama, Georgia's governor signed their heart-beat bill. Outlawing abortion after the 6-8 week mark, when the baby's heartbeat is present, starting in 2020. Kentucky, Missouri, Mississippi, and Ohio also passed heart-beat bills, according to the New York Times. Some women don't even know they are pregnant at 6 weeks.

But there really are some issues surrounding this legislation.

In this country, people come from so many different backgrounds. I'm not just talking race and religion. But, socio-economic backgrounds, lifestyles, goals, family support systems, and so much more. So many times, I hear people say, "if they do not have the means to keep the child, they can just give the baby up for adoption." But not every child grows up through the system with happy outcomes. It's not guaranteed. In 2017, over 17,000 children aged out of the foster care children and did not have a permanent family. Many children will even face abuse.

Our Congress' always jump straight to anti-abortion as well. Our states could be spending that time, money, and energy to allocate more resources into adoption and foster care systems to get as close to a guarantee of a good life for the children placed there. Creating more open access to birth control and contraceptives and making sure our today's teenagers and future parents have the proper sex education will make sure that they understand the in and outs of not only sex but proper birth control methods to be well-prepared in the future. Our education system is failing our students, while our governments are not trying to solve the bigger issues at hand that can help alleviate part of the need for abortions. Our Congress' are spending time, money, and energy to pass legislation that, in some cases, do not even align with Supreme Court decisions.

We also cannot forget about the legislators passing these bills in the state legislatures. The majority of them? Men. Men who have never known what it is like to miss your period, and sum it up to stress until more than 6 weeks later. As citizens and residents of this country, it should be our responsibility not only to understand safe sex (which needs to be taught through our schools) but to go to the polls and vote for the politicians who will represent your best interests. Who tries to better the system, before taking drastic measures that work against the women in this country. Women deserve their rights.

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