Being a part of a sorority is much more than the parties and getting to meet "cute" guys. It is about the lifelong relationship you will have with these people, the memories you create, the growth as an individual and much more.

With being in a sorority there is a lot of time you put in, but the outcome is worth it. When new people get to become a member of the sorority they get someone we call a “big." With this, they set a day where the little's get to find out who their big is. Their big is someone they can go to for anything, a mentor, a sister, simply anything you want them to be. Your big is someone you know you can trust with anything, not be afraid to talk about anything with them — Even if it is about poop!

In order to get a big, there is a process that everyone goes through. Known as the big/little application. It is simply where you write down who you want your big to be and why. It’s that easy. Leading up to the reveal of who your big is, is a very emotional few weeks! This is because your big gets a chance to mess with you. They can trick you, lie to you, but sometimes you always will get gifts, little notes or clues, or text messages. Some bigs go out of their way and create twitter accounts etc. for their littles. It is crazy!

On the day of the reveal, you will most likely get messed with! You can feel the positivity and energy as you walk in the room. All the older members are cheering, and yelling! Their excitement definitely rubs off on you! For my Big/Little reveal, they had us go out in the lobby of one of the dorms and wait for them to let us in. They had two sisters maybe three come out with shirts. These shirts had pictures on them. We were instructed to put on the shirts and once we got in the room we needed to find our dynamic duo. Mine was Snooki and JWoww. What’s not to love?

Another sister came out instructing us to get in a line doesn’t matter the order. She walked us down to the MFR where our big was and told us to go and find our big. We all went running to try and find our dynamic duo. As we walked in all the sisters were cheering and yelling. They created a square around the room those who were a duo were in the front for us to see and those, not a duo were in the back behind them. I walked in so lost; I had no clue what I was doing. I then had to have someone help me find my duo. That was embarrassing. I was pointing to my big and ran right to her. I jumped and she caught me! I was happy, but then I could also tell that others were not so happy with who their big was and some were even very confused.

We took our pictures and sat down in the chairs for the rest of chapter. When one of LT’s told us chapter was over and to have a great rest of our day with our big, then informed us that these were not our bigs. Perfect. I started to tear up but deep down I was kind of relieved. I knew no matter who I would get that I would be happy, but my heart was still with a different sister. We then went back out to the lobby and were given a pair of socks and some of us also received t-shirts. The socks we were wearing were the same socks our real big was wearing. My socks were sloths!

We went in one by one to find our big. Waiting in the hall for our name to be called was killing some of us. We were so excited to get our real big and we simply couldn’t wait any longer. Once one person went in we all stopped talking so we could hear the reactions of our sisters. Some were screaming, other was even crying.

When my name was called I was freaking out. A lot. I walked in the room to see a lot of sisters sitting in the chairs looking at me just waiting for my reaction. As I looked to the left of me I saw several different colored sheets. Looking at the ground were peoples feet with different socks on. I had to find my other sloth match. Of course, my match was all way down at the other end. I tapped her foot for her to come out. She took a little while. I couldn’t wait. I saw the curtain open and I couldn’t be happier. My big came out and ran to her. Screaming, I hugged her so tight and started crying. My big is someone who I know will always be here for me, have my back, and is not afraid to tell me to shut up.

Finding your big is your choice. No one else’s choice. You are the one who decides. We make connections with people every day, and some are stronger connections than others. Your big is that stronger connection. My big is someone who I can laugh with, watch movies with, talk about drama with, a mentor, and most importantly a friend. A friend who will never leave me. A friend who will never turn their back on me for someone else. I love my big more than anything. I simply cannot wait to see how much we grow as individuals and see what life has in store for us. Love you biggie!