The Reality Of The Fall 'Must-Dos'

The Reality Of The Fall 'Must-Dos'

How the cliché fall "must do's" are nothing like they seem.

I read an article on the things that you MUST DO to have a successful fall. They included the cliché things that I always look forward to doing in the fall but rarely ever do. This year I made it my mission to do these things and found the hard truth to how they are nothing like the cute cliché pictures look.

1. The Pumpkin Patch

When referring to pumpkin patch I’m not talking about the ones where they are all lined up nicely for you (not even in the “patch”) to pick which one you like. I am talking about a real pumpkin patch where they take you out there and let you pick your own growing from the ground. TIP: if you want to take cute pictures like we did do this BEFORE you go to the actual patch because you will get dirty and you will, if living in Alabama like me, get sweaty because it was so unbearably hot the week before Halloween that we went. We soon figured out that actual pumpkin picking is not our forte and that it is hard work.

2. Pumpkin carving

So, when you get the pumpkins the next fun thing to do is to carve them. Now, to be fair, this one wasn’t as bad as picking the pumpkin but, definitely not as fun and cute as it seems. This was a lot. of. work. I mean I don’t know if its because I have zero arm strength but my pumpkin was very hard to carve with the little tools I bought and if you have a texture problem like me then getting the guts out of the pumpkin will be very difficult.

3. Go for a Hayride

Every time I see pictures of this, I think about how it looks like such a cute and fun time. Luckily they had one at the pumpkin patch I went to so I could finally fulfill my fun fall checklist. Yet another disappointment that is very itchy, bumpy and where I was, filled with screaming kids. I don’t know if it was just our driver but I was holding on to the hay for dear life. I honestly thought I was going to fall into the middle of the hayride every time we took a curve. The only thing I took from this experience was itchy legs and a bunch of chigger bites.

4. Go to the Fair

The fair is always portrayed to be a romantic thing for couples to do in the fall, taking cute pictures on rides and eating cotton candy. The fair was kind of fun but not romantic. I have always loved in movies when the adoring couple rides the fairest wheel seeming like they are having the time of their lives and then the guy wins one of the games giving her the stuffed animal with a big romantic kiss. This is how I imagined the fair would be.

First off, it is a huge rip-off — you either buy the expensive armband and hope you like the rides or pay individually and spend up even more on only a few rides. Either way, there is no way to save money at the fair. The armbands don’t cover any of the games, so if you want to try and fulfill that “romantic experience,” then be prepared to spend.

Now, as far as the rides go, the fairs wheel no matter how badly I wanted it to be romantic was boring and kind of a waste of money. The other rides were pretty fun but as far as romance goes if you like being thrown around violently barely strapped in and hoping not to die then sure. The games were also not romantic and would frankly be weird if you started making out after winning something. Which, of course, will not happen 'til you have paid about fives time to play — of course, spending more money on a bear you could have paid $5 for at the dollar store.

5. Haunted House

Yet another supposedly romantic fall thing to do. Granted, I am so not into horror and am a big scaredy cat. But, other than me being a wimp the haunted house was in no way romantic. It seems like every year the people who have a significant other can’t wait to go to the haunted house and take a cute photo before. Now I realize why they never take one afterward. You look like a hot mess and have probably done more running than you did the whole year.

I imagined my boyfriend and I walking through the haunted house, me holding onto him being all romantic and occasionally scared like in the movies… Absolutely not, from the running and the CONSTANTLY being scared there isn’t time to cuddle up or even think about anything other than running for your life. If you think your partner will be impressed by how loud you can scream and how fast you can run then this is for you.

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10 Bible Verses For Thanksgiving

Psalm 34:1

The Thanksgiving season is a time we spend with our loved ones giving thanks for the blessings we are given. Here are 20 Bible verses that remind us of what Thanksgiving is all about:

1) 1 Chronicles 16:34

Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.

2) Colossians 3:15-17

And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

3) Philippians 4:6

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.

4) Psalm 30:12

That my glory may sing your praise and not be silent. O Lord my God, I will give thanks to you forever!

5) Isaiah 12:4-5

And you will say in that day: “Give thanks to the Lord, call upon his name, make known his deeds among the peoples, proclaim that his name is exalted. “Sing praises to the Lord, for he has done gloriously; let this be made known in all the earth.

6) Hebrews 12:28-29

Therefore, since we receive a kingdom which cannot be shaken, let us show gratitude, by which we may offer to God an acceptable service with reverence and awe; for our God is a consuming fire.

7) Jonah 2:9

But I will sacrifice to You With the voice of thanksgiving. That which I have vowed I will pay Salvation is from the Lord."

8) 1 Timothy 4:4-5

For everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected, if it is received with gratitude; for it is sanctified by means of the word of God and prayer.

9) Psalm 28:7

The Lord is my strength and my shield; My heart trusts in Him, and I am helped; Therefore my heart exults, And with my song I shall thank Him.

10) Psalm 100:4

Enter His gates with thanksgiving, And His courts with praise. Give thanks to Him; bless His name.

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Cole And Savannah LaBrant’s Love Story Is Proof That There Is A Life After A Toxic Relationship

I promise, it's not the end.


Toxic relationships are draining. They become a black hole, where everything you once knew becomes muddled and it suffocates you, trapping you.

Savannah LaBrant knew that all too well. In her new book co-written with her husband Cole, the popular YouTubers and social media influencers had been going through a lot in their personal lives at the time.

Her parents divorced after her father had an affair, and her previous boyfriend had cheated on her, and her whole life began to feel like a lie.

Then along came Tommy.

Like in most toxic relationships, Tommy seemed to be the best guy ever at the start. Not too long into their relationship, though, things started to go downhill quickly.

After the two slept together, the "super sweet boyfriend" Tommy had been disappeared. He got what he wanted. He only cared when he wanted more. The fighting continued for two more months until Savannah had had enough and broke up with Tommy.

She shortly found out, though, that she was pregnant.

Tommy shifted again. He seemed excited, even talking about marriage. Again, it was short-lived, because six months into her pregnancy, Savannah found out that he, too, had cheated on her. She ended the relationship, but the two continued to be off and on for quite some time, for the sake of their newborn daughter.

He'd swear everything would change. Everything would be better. Everything would be different. He asked for chance after chance and Savannah continued to try to make things work.

But it always ended in fighting, hurting, and crying.

Toxic relationships take a toll, physically, emotionally, and mentally. It twists your way of thinking and idea of self-worth. Savannah stayed with Tommy even though he cheated on her and drank a lot, which she had done before but now it made her uncomfortable. She got stuck in a seemingly endless cycle of getting hurt.

Her family saw right through it. They begged her to leave him, but the toxicity had its hold on her. She wanted to fix him. She told them they didn't understand. She didn't want to admit it to herself that she deserved better. They continued to pray that God would send a better man into her life.

Then along came Cole.

He was everything Savannah and her family had prayed for. He respected her, he loved her, and he loved Savannah's daughter Everleigh. The two overcame 2,200 miles of distance after having met online and started dating. Fast forward, they're engaged. A little bit more, they're married.

Cole and Savannah LaBrant's relationship is proof that a toxic relationship doesn't mean the end.

Savannah found someone who made her feel beautiful, made her feel worthy, made her daughter feel loved, and showed her a life completely unlike what she had known before.

Savannah thought she could never escape the terrible relationship she had been in before she met Cole. She was left empty, exhausted, and afraid she'd never find someone since she had a child. Cole was the answer to her prayers.

No matter what you have endured, you will still find love and be loved. You are deserving of a healthy, safe love that benefits and furthers your life. You will overcome the toxic chapter in your life, blossom into everything you've always wanted to be, and be loved by the right person.

Take a note from Savannah: Don't give up. You never know who you're going to run into at the mall.

Image Credit: Cole and Savannah LaBrant on Instagram.

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