It’s a feeling everyone knows all too well. It’s a pain that is almost indescribable yet can paralyze you. One moment you’re on top of the world, you have your life planned with the person you want your future with and then in a split second, you’re on the bathroom floor with your best friend beside you just trying to take your next breath.

You begin questioning everything; what was real and what was a lie? Did they ever mean any of what they said to you? These are the thoughts that will you keep you up until 4 a.m. crying, praying that you could just be okay again.

Because that’s what you want. You just want to be okay again. You want to be able to hear their name and not instantly tense up and relive that pain again for a split second. You want to be able to go out with friends and talk to the cute guy across the bar without instantly comparing him to the one who broke you.

You find yourself up in the middle of the night thinking about every amazing memory you had together, every laugh, every kiss, everything. Sleep doesn’t come as easily anymore because the second you close your eyes, you’re bombarded with everything that was him.

The smallest things take you back. You hear a song on the radio and in one moment you’re consumed with the thought of him. Your life has become you walking on eggshells not to accidentally step on one that takes you back to it all.

You feel like the pain will never cease. You don’t know how you’re supposed to go on without him. You had so many plans together, how do you just forget all of that and start over? That seems impossible.

But it’s not.

There are days where you feel like your world is at a standstill. There are days where all you want to do is lay in your bed and binge watch One Tree Hill and cry about your life. There are days were you don’t want to leave the house; you just want to live under a rock. And you know what?

That’s exactly what you need to do for a while. If you want to lay in bed all day and cry and watch Netflix and then cry some more, then that’s what you need to do. Don’t want to leave the house? Then don’t.

You can do all of that. It’s acceptable. But at some point, you have to pull yourself together and realize that there is so much life yet to be lived. Your world didn’t stop, your world with him did, sure, but YOUR world didn’t.

However, don’t rush the healing process. There is no timeline that you need to follow. Moving on isn’t the same for everyone. Some people take months, some take years, others take weeks, and others take about two days because apparently some relationships don’t mean as much as they said they did. WHO KNEW?

Anyway, take your time. No one can tell you how to heal or how fast you need to move on. This is your timeline. You have to do what you need to do in order to be okay again. It will take a long time, and it’s going to be hard at times – maybe even a bit unbearable. But you can get through it.

Lean on your friends, lean on your family, lean on whoever you need to in order to get over it. It’s going to hurt, but it WILL be okay. In due time my friend, in due time.