With relationships popping up all over Facebook, people who aren't in a relationship want to be in one or they feel inferior to those who are.Is it all just for a title?
Friend 1: So what are you guys?
Friend 2: We’re a thing, I guess?”
Friend 1: Do you think you guys will date?
Friend 2: I like him, but I don’t want to be creepy or initiate the exclusivity talk.”
If you’re a girl, I’m willing to bet the above conversation sounds more than familiar. I can’t remember the last time my friends and I went a day without someone talking about the guy they have a "thing" with, the guy they’re dating or the frat boy they have their eyes set on (a.k.a. the hottie from Lion happy hour). The majority of the male population in college believes college girls are obsessed with having boyfriends and dating. To be honest, they’re somewhat right.
Freshman year of college is primarily spent with students looking to have fun and meet people. Then all of a sudden, sophomore year rolls around and it seems everyone is going Facebook official, has a "thing" or is looking to date.
Why the obsession all of a sudden? Is it because girls are looking to earn their MRS degree? Or is it because we’re tired of always being the one who gets too attached to our friends with benefits (do boys even get attached)? For some girls, the reason may be a combination of all of the previous reasons, while others simply seek a companion to stay in with on a Saturday night and make them feel like they’re the "only girl in the world." Sappy, but true.
Blame it on movies such as Endless Love, The Last Song and Dear John for providing girls with relatively false advertising. Do boys as romantic and dateable (and perfect) as Liam Hemsworth in The Last Song really exist? Maybe, but there are probably 10 in the entire world.
We are often found seeking out the perfect boy or trying to date the frat boy who seems un-dateable. It’s a chase and most of us are obsessed with it. If the guy seems too clingy or easy to date, we get bored and move on. Nevertheless, eventually a guy who seems dateable rolls around (a rare commodity in college) and, more often than not, we get ahead of ourselves and end up with our friends and no man. This becomes far more annoying if all of our closest friends are in relationships and our only relationship continues to be with Ben & Jerry.
Point a finger at college culture or at the movies, but most girls seem to base a large portion of their happiness on the number of guys they’re talking to (thank you, Tinder) or whether they have a boyfriend.
If you’re not happy with yourself, chances are you’re not going to be happy with anyone else. Think of all your college friends who are dating, but are clearly settling. So why date to date? Ultimately, being able to say you’re dating doesn’t make you better than the girls in your house who are single. It just means you’ve found someone of the opposite sex who likes you enough to watch rom-coms with you, put up with you and, occasionally, tell you how lucky they are to be dating you.
