When You're The No. 2 Friend

When You're The No. 2 Friend

They may be no. 1 to you, but you will always be their no. 2

You give too much. You expect too much. At the end of the day though, you just want someone to care about you as much as you care about them.

You live by the golden rule of treat others the way you want to be treated, but no one ever treats you the way you treat others. You put your all into relationships - especially friendships, but somehow you never come out as no. 1. You are always no. 2.

It sucks. It hurts. You try over and over again to remedy the situations and the friendships because you hope that one day, one friend will reciprocate your efforts.

You are there for everyone on their bad days and in their bad moments - even when you are having a bad day, you prioritize theirs. When you have a bad day, no one comes to your aid or even asks how you are. On their bad days you ask how they are, you check in, you motivate them, you offer to help, you ask how you can help, you invite them over, you hang out with them - you make sure they feel loved and cared about. So why can't they do that in return?

You go to the earth for them, but they do not do the same. Even if your friends don't support you in return, they take care of these people more than they take care of you. They may be no. 1 to you, but you will always be their no. 2.

Why should you continue to sit by while they rant to you for hours, but won't let you rant for five minutes? You are an excellent friend to them, and it hurts knowing that you are not worth the same amount of effort to them.

You are hurt. You feel replaced, discouraged, let down, betrayed, etc - but you continue to be a good friend and a good person. Even if they aren't the friend you need or deserve, you never stop trying. You are a kind and caring soul who takes care of everyone. All you want is for someone to do the same.

As said in Moulin Rouge, "The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love, and be loved in return."

You can't expect to feel okay and feel supported when you are always no. 2 - even within your own friend groups. When your friends give off the perception that you are inferior, you try to confront them, but it does nothing.

Please know that one day, you will find people who love you and want to help you as much as you love and help others. There are people out there who will be your no. 1 and treat you as their no. 1.

For now, never stop caring for others. Never doubt that people can change their perceptions. Never stop advocating for yourself and standing up when people do not recognize or care for you.

You matter. You are important. You are loved. You just have to wait to find someone who will see you as their no. 1. You deserve to be somebody's no. 1. You are worth all the love in the world, never forget that. You are not just a no. 2

At the end of the day, it is how we treat others that will be duly reflected onto how we are treated. If we continue to treat others with the upmost respect and kindness, we can only expect the same in return.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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An Open Letter To The Friend Who Continues To Save My Life

No one knows me like you do.


From the day we became friends, we have always had nothing but support for one another. Although we have only really been friends for about seven years now, I feel as if you have always been a part of my life. You know me just as well as you know yourself, and I understand you in the same way I understand my own thoughts and feelings.

You have never made me feel pressured, insecure, or unappreciated. The mutual respect we have for one another is unmatched. We can talk to each other about anything; from some of the most trivial topics to entire life philosophies. We have grown and matured together, and I couldn't be more proud of the person you are today.

We don't always agree on everything, and I always appreciate your fresh point of view, but I have never felt more in sync with another person than I do with you. We share the same birth month, the same age, the same home town, the same anxieties, and many of the same attitudes and values.

I feel as if you know exactly when I want to be alone and when I need company. Since we are both introverted, we understand that the other person needs time to recharge. And when I'm sitting alone with nothing to do, I always get a text from you asking to hang out.

In some of my loneliest, most vulnerable moments, you have been there. When I question how many true friends I really have, you are always sure to make your love for me known.

Through high school, and now college, we have experienced so many life-changing events together. Some that have taught us extremely valuable lessons, and others that have shown us incredible pain and how to grow from our lowest moments.

I want to thank you for showing me what life-long friendship looks like. Thank you for always understanding me and never putting too much pressure on me. I see an incredible future for both of us no matter where each of our lives takes us.

We will always share a unique connection that cannot be separated by any distance. But, for now, I'm glad you're only one text or phone call away.

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