In college, you meet tons of people in various relationship statuses; the most popular seems to be "single." Some wear the label proudly while others have the misfortune of being stuck with it. If you're one of the people who, like me, either come into college with a previously established relationship or you meet that special someone during your time here, you get to enjoy being what I like to call, the "Non-Single Friend." There's nothing wrong being that friend - in fact, it's like a privilege of some sort. We're the ones that people come to with advice when they suddenly catch the oh-so scary "feelings," or how to get someone's attention at a party. We get the dirty details of what it's like to be single in college, and yet we don't listen on with envy, because of the security that our relationships bring. Below are just the kinds of things that accompany the title, the "Non-Single Friend."
1. When your single friend shares with you that someone's asked for her number.
So many different things can happen from this, and I'm ready to know the exact moment a text has been received.
2. Catching your single girlfriend chat up your single guy friend.
I can't believe I never thought of this before, but now that it's happening, I totally approve, and I think you guys should really give this a try. Or date. But only if you're feeling the connection that I'm definitely seeing.
3. That moment when you're stuck in a conversation between two single friends and you really don't know how to relate to the issue they're having.
It's not that I don't like hearing these stories, it's just really, really hard to find something to say when you're not going through the same thing as them.
4. When people try to tell you that being in/getting into a relationship in college is "pointless."
Everyone's entitled to their own opinions, but there are some people who act like this is a fact. It's really not; if anything, it adds to the experience.
5. Being the one your single friend asks for love advice from.
I may not have all the answers, I may not be able to help in every situation you hit me with, but the fact that you come to me with these kinds of things makes me ecstatic.
6. When your single friend tells you they're not going to contact that one dude they hooked up with that one time at that one party.
But he could be your soulmate! Okay, maybe not soulmate, but you saw something in him before, just try seeing it again! For me?
7. That miraculous moment when your single friend tells you that they might have feelings for someone.
Yes, this moment is making me happier than it should, but I want you to embrace these feels. Let the feels guide you to something that has a potential for being great.
8. When people ask you if your relationship is "holding you back" from going out and having a good time.
No, just no. My relationship has no effect on me having a good time with my friends.
9. Those times when your single friend puts a little too much detail in her single-girl stories.
I'm glad you're having fun embracing your singleness, really, I am! But when you're telling me all the stories, don't give me all the details.
10. When there's talks of a potential double date.
Okay, so you didn't exactly say "double date," but you said you needed my boyfriend and I to come out with you two, so either way it makes me excited.
And finally, the biggest, best part of being the Non-Single Friend...
11. Being your single friend's wing-woman.
As a taken woman, I swear to you that I will be the best wing-woman for you whenever we're out together.
Whether you're single, in a relationship, or finding yourself in the "it's complicated" category, college is a great time to explore different things, and regardless of your status, you'll still have the time of your life.