When You're In A Long-Distance Relationship... With Home

When You're In A Long-Distance Relationship... With Home

Go the distance; you will become a stronger person because of it.

Approaching month number four in my long distance relationship with home, I've learned a lot about myself, my friends, and my surroundings.

Being in college as a freshman, everything is new. New room, new friends, new experiences, and for a lot of us, new towns sometimes even states. Coming to The University of Alabama all the way from Michigan was the biggest adjustment I have probably ever had to make. I went from having the accessibility of a car, coming home to fresh hot meals made by my mom, seeing my friends all day every day during school to having none of those things.

The first couple months were hard. I was thrown into a huge place with lots of fresh faces... well all fresh faces. I was forced to be independent. But then I realized that everyone is in the same boat as me. It didn't matter if they lived five minutes from home, or in my case eleven and a half hours, everyone was experiencing new beginnings just as much as I was. All I had to do was put myself out there and be the outgoing girl from Michigan I knew I was.

Since that mindset, I have made some of the best friends I could ever ask for, I have learned ramen noodle nights are okay, and that Tuscaloosa is really my home away from home; I belong here. Of course, I miss my family, friends, and my bed, but being so far away makes all of those things that much sweeter when I come home.

With that being said, it is also okay to be sad. Within the first couple weeks, I thought I wanted to transfer, that UA just wasn't for me. My advice: stay strong. Homesickness is a thing and almost everyone goes through it; you're not the only one. Lean on those around you and find things to keep you busy.

As I write this article sitting on the plane on my way home for the very first time, I have realized how fortunate I am to have come to Alabama and the memories I've made thus far with some of my best friends. I wouldn't change those lonely nights when I missed my family or friends because that's how I found the people that truly care and were there for me.

Alabama is my sweet home and I could not be more excited to take on the rest of my time here. So, go the distance; you will become a stronger person because of it.

Cover Image Credit: Ally Lasch

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Whenever you hear about roommate stories, they're almost never good, and they usually scare you into never wanting a roommate. "Did you hear her roommate steals her clothes?" "Her roommate doesn't shower!" "Wow, her roommate doesn't talk at all, and doesn't do laundry." From what I hear, there are more bad stories than good. That is why I consider myself lucky, because my roommate is nothing like one of those bad stories. When life hands you a good roommate after talking to about 40 girls through Facebook, a few things happen.

1. You always have someone to talk to.

2. You know each other's schedules, and whenever you both have a break is an exciting time.

3. You'll never have to dance alone.

4. You always have someone to do something with, even if it's just walking down the hall.

5. You both look out for each other, because this is your first time without your parents.

6. You always have a shoulder to lean on when things get tough.

7. Borrowing each other's things is a daily thing.

8. You TRY to help with each other's homework and assignments.

9. They're encouraging when it comes to boys. (Unless they're a f*ckboy.)

10. They're your biggest support system and your personal cheerleader.

11. They never forget to wish you luck on a big exam.

12. They accept how gross you are in the morning and not so pleasant sometimes.

13. You both know each other's favorite and least favorite things.

14. Leaving each other notes saying goodbye before class if you don't see them is normal.

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To My Twin, You're The Most Important LDR In My Life, And Distance Has Nothing On Us

Any twins out there separated by college or life know how the long-distance relationship can turn your life upside down.


Growing up as a twin, you learn a few things about the nature of your connection. First, in most cases, the two of you will be recognized as "The Twins" no matter the circumstance. Secondly, you will always be a package deal. Thirdly, the never-ending questions of "twin life" such as: Identical or fraternal? What's it like to be a twin? Do you fight a lot? Who's older? And the list goes on...

However, as you age, life as a twin may change. For my twin and I, we took separate paths in life. 18 years later, after walking hand-in-hand down the beaten path, the road diverged. College became the next hurdle in life. I decided to attend Baylor University and she went on to Texas Tech University. Once living a few feet away from the other's room, now 350 miles and 5 ½ hours apart.

Our dynamic duo status was erased away by college. However, our best friend status will always remain. Distance from the person you shared a womb with is not easy. We now must learn what it's like to be completely on our own, no twin to watch out for you. But being separated by college, your relationship grows closer and stronger — more so than when little girls walked into kindergarten glued to each other. You learn to keep in touch, such as sending memes through Facebook (seriously, it's the best). Calls and Facetiming are a must, especially if it's been two weeks since the two of you spoke instead of texting. The very fact that now you have to catch up on life seems surreal. Before, you knew everything about each other's lives because it was YOUR life. Those moments make it feel as if you are back home sitting on the couch chatting over a box of Oreos.

The unbreakable bond of twins cannot be torn by any length of distance. Your other half will always remain a constant in life even when times get tough. The two of you will forever be your biggest supporter of each other's dreams and passions. A forever sister and best friend. No matter the distance or time not shared, once you reunite you jump right back into your twin routine of life.

Side note:

To my twin, Brianna, I love you and miss you every day. I am so proud of all you are accomplishing in your life as an equestrian and dedicated student. To me, you are the most inspirational person in my life. See you soon B!

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