Just a few months ago I wrote an article about just how hard it is to move on and now it's a few months later and I think I finally cracked the secret to moving on. OK, so most of these aren't really "secrets" per say, but I finally took matters into my own hands and got my closure. I moved on from more than one heartbreak. I woke up and realized that some people are better off as your friend or in another case, just better off not being in your life at all. It wasn't easy by any means, but it feels so good. I moved on and you can too.

It's so hard to stop dwelling in the past, especially when to you, it doesn't feel like the past. The other person had their say and often they came out unscathed, but you, you're still hurting and it sucks. In my experience, what hurt the most is that I never really got to say everything I wanted to say. I found that in most cases, I never truly spoke my mind, I just said whatever would hurt the other person less. But, the key to moving on and getting closure is saying how you really feel about the situation. It's never too late to say how you feel, especially if speaking your mind is what will help you move on.

The biggest and hardest part of getting closure and moving on is realizing that you deserve better. Everyone around you can tell you that you deserve better, but YOU have to believe it as well. And that honestly is a hard thing to do, because at one point you thought that there could be no one better suited for you, but there is someone better for you. With every person who breaks my heart, the next person who comes along is just that much closer to being who I actually want and eventually I'll find the person I'm supposed to be with and so will you. For me there was such a weight lifted off my chest when I finally realized that I could do better and that I deserve someone who accepts me for who I am and not for the girl I tried to change myself into. You just have to wake up and see that you deserve someone who puts forth as much effort as you do and who feels the same way you do.

And in the end moving on doesn't always mean you stop caring about the person or that you hate them. Moving on and getting closure is finally excepting that no matter how much you thought the relationship was right, it wasn't. Moving on means instead of wanting their life to be ruined, you want them to be happy. It's looking at them being happy with someone else and finding a sense of peace, because you'll find that same happiness too eventually. Moving on isn't a feeling of hatred and it isn't even a feeling of indifference, it's a feeling of peace and clarity. All in all moving on is a joy, because you're no longer tied down to someone who cut their strings to you a long time ago.

No one else can make you move on but yourself, no one else can go out and seek the closure you need for you. So, go, find your closure and get your peace of mind, because that is something you deserve.