When You've Found 'The One'

When You've Found 'The One'

Treat her well. Pamper her. Most importantly, never stop caring for her.

Once you've found the right partner, there are several things that you must do and continue to do to keep them happy. Previously, I gave you the crucial information about how to find "The One" I took some of my own advice, for once, and life is going well.

So once you've found the match for you and things are looking up. You have to keep it going, you can't put on a front to be a great person to get in a relationship, then let it die off. This mainly happens and ends the "Honeymoon" phase of a relationship. You can't just let things die, keep up with the cute phrases, gestures, and more! Once you stop these things, your partner will most likely become disinterested.

Don't let it happen!

Second, you have to pamper your partner. GUYS LISTEN UP HERE.

You can treat them well and tell her everything she wants to hear, but that means little, in the grand scheme. You have to pamper her - buy her flowers, occasionally show up with a gift, and put her on the pedestal she deserves.

Girls love flowers. Get them flowers, have them delivered, do whatever it takes - and don't say you can't do it. Buy her a cute plush toy and couple it with flowers or chocolates, it will score you points. You'll score even bigger if you remember your anniversary date or if you surprise her. Go out on dates, venture to places you've never been, and just keep the chemistry alive!

Never stop caring. You've already put the effort into getting to know your partner and showing that you truly care for him/her so never ever stop. Like I said, you have to keep up with all the little things. Whether it's cute Snapchats, lovey-dovey texts, or small gifts you will always be a winner in their book and it will ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS score you points when you do something adorable. If you can keep a smile on their face, then the love won't ever stop.

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.

Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.


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I'm Not Rushing to introduce you to my friends, Why should I?

If we date, meeting my friends is something that you earn.


For many people, one of the milestones of a relationship comes after one extends an invitation to meet their family. For someone who comes from a very small family, I do not hold this to be true. Meeting my family typically means meeting my Dad, who will only care to remark about your appearance to me once you leave. Then, maybe my cousins from down south Facebook stalk your profile. Really, any girl who "meets" my family will have it easy. The real test comes with meeting my friends because even my friend's wife won't hesitate to tell you how wrong you are about anything.

They say that friends are like family except that you get to pick them and as someone who longed for a family growing up, I like to think that to be true. I don't know about you but during college and beyond, you spend more time with your friends than you do with your own family. The lines between friends and family become blurred.

As you start to reach a certain age, your friends (and hopefully you) begin to settle down. The realization sets in that your friends and their significant others will be the ones that you will share numerous summer cookouts with while eventually discussing politics and your mortgages. As you age, no longer is it just a question of who is attractive or who you can picture as your beer pong partner on a Friday night but rather who can you picture beside you and your friends at those cookouts in the future.

I don't want to be that guy who somewhere down the road is looking through photos with friends of weddings, birthdays, baptisms, and life's special moments with a different girl under my arm in each picture. Playing the "Who was she again?' game doesn't appeal to me and somewhat cheapens the closeness of our group. I want my friends to be able to know that you are special to me and mean something once I decide to bring you out to meet them.

Their significant others are as much of my friend group as anyone else. I want them to be able to like you and enjoy your company. If we work out, you will need to be part of crafting sessions, going with them for manicures and pedicures or just drinking margaritas while watching the Bachelor. If I bring you around too soon and they like you, only for us to not work out, then it makes everything awkward and like an extra unnecessary breakup.

I don't expect you to always like my friends. I am sure that there will be times where you would rather I not spend so much time out at the local bar with them and I fully expect you to bemoan us watching almost every sporting event. I am sure there will come times where they may rub you the wrong way but any woman who is with me needs to respect my friends and the time I spend with them while recognizing that they are like family to me.

I value my friends' opinions, but trust me I will tell them enough about you for them to offer guidance when needed. Think of it like a game of Super Mario, level one is getting to know me and earning my admiration. If you prove yourself worthy, then you can advance to meet my friends for level two. Win their approval and the marriage level becomes possible. My friends are special and meeting them should be equally special. As I look towards my future, I know that my friends are going to be there. I am not so sure yet that you will be.

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