When You've Found 'The One'

When You've Found 'The One'

Treat her well. Pamper her. Most importantly, never stop caring for her.

Once you've found the right partner, there are several things that you must do and continue to do to keep them happy. Previously, I gave you the crucial information about how to find "The One" I took some of my own advice, for once, and life is going well.

So once you've found the match for you and things are looking up. You have to keep it going, you can't put on a front to be a great person to get in a relationship, then let it die off. This mainly happens and ends the "Honeymoon" phase of a relationship. You can't just let things die, keep up with the cute phrases, gestures, and more! Once you stop these things, your partner will most likely become disinterested.

Don't let it happen!

Second, you have to pamper your partner. GUYS LISTEN UP HERE.

You can treat them well and tell her everything she wants to hear, but that means little, in the grand scheme. You have to pamper her - buy her flowers, occasionally show up with a gift, and put her on the pedestal she deserves.

Girls love flowers. Get them flowers, have them delivered, do whatever it takes - and don't say you can't do it. Buy her a cute plush toy and couple it with flowers or chocolates, it will score you points. You'll score even bigger if you remember your anniversary date or if you surprise her. Go out on dates, venture to places you've never been, and just keep the chemistry alive!

Never stop caring. You've already put the effort into getting to know your partner and showing that you truly care for him/her so never ever stop. Like I said, you have to keep up with all the little things. Whether it's cute Snapchats, lovey-dovey texts, or small gifts you will always be a winner in their book and it will ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS score you points when you do something adorable. If you can keep a smile on their face, then the love won't ever stop.

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It's OK To Wait On Someone When The Timing Just Isn't Right

When that person is worth waiting on.

Let me make one thing clear: I used to hate Valentine's Day. I used to think it was an overrated, glorified holiday exclusively for people in relationships or people who are married.

Now I don't think that anymore.

I'm still single, but I realized that Valentine's Day is about love, and this love can also be shared with family, not just a significant other.

But my heart is already taken. By who, you ask? A girl. That girl. A girl who makes me feel like Superman. The name of this girl is Allie. But there is just one problem: the timing is all wrong.

She is in graduate school, and I'm barely out of undergrad, despite us being the same age. She works a lot of jobs and she student teaches, so with work and school, she is always busy. I'm always busy as well, with school, two part-time jobs and maintaining active status in my fraternity Beta Upsilon Chi.

Despite the timing being all wrong, these are all the reasons why I am waiting for Allie until we are at a place in our lives where we can date:

1. We have common interests

From Harry Potter to University of Kentucky basketball, she and I are alike on a lot of things.

2. She is a Christian and she goes to church

For someone who is a Christian, it is an absolute necessity to choose a romantic partner who worships the Lord just as much as you do. I've learned through personal experience that if your religious preferences don't match up, the relationship will never work.

3. She is someone I can talk about anything to

There are few people in my life that I can talk about anything to. Usually, I have to censor myself and refrain from talking about certain things to certain people. Allie isn't one of those people. She is there to hear all my complaints, my insecurities, and my doubts. She is also there in the happy times as well. As a human being, you need someone you can just talk about anything with.

4. She isn't judgmental of my family and how they are

Let me tell you, even though I love them more than life itself, my family is really crazy, especially my parents. But someone who puts up with your crazy family is someone you need around for the long haul.

5. She understands the issues I have both relationship-wise and mentally

As someone who has mental disabilities, people usually don't understand entirely the gist of what I'm going through. I have ADD, ADHD, Tourette's, bipolar disorder, PTSD, and moderate depression.

I also have trust issues when it comes to relationships because I've been cheated on before. She understands all of my issues and I love her more because of that.

6. She gets my wacky, crazy, sometimes dark humor and has a sense of humor

Let me tell you, once I am comfortable with you, I'll start being wacky and in a joking mood with you. Find someone who can play around with you like that.

7. Lastly, she likes me for the man I am

With Allie, I never have to put on a facade to make her like me. She likes me for the dorky, wacky, geeky person I naturally am. She understands my values and things I hold dear and she values them.

Allie will be graduating from grad school in May. And I've been talking to her since November 3, 2016. The time I'm waiting for her is worth it because she and I will be together eventually.

Meanwhile, I can focus on loving myself and getting myself ready to be the man she wants to be with.

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I Love Being In Love With Someone Worth Loving

How one person has made me feel things I never thought I was capable of feeling.

February: a month when couples shamelessly engage in sappy, romantic stereotypes. A charming guy wins over his female counterpart by providing her with blossoming flowers and delicious sweets.

I’ve seen it millions of times before, snuggled lonesomely upon a bed as a television portraying two individuals expressing their love for one another illuminates my room, and soon I’m consumed by my doom.

This is the soundtrack to my life.

This year, however, the script has been altered. As Valentine’s Day approaches, I find myself entrenched in the deepest love; a feeling that is indescribable.

My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly ten months now. Although we may attend different schools and only get to see each other on select weekends each month, my love for her grows exponentially by the second.

I was lost before I met her. I did not know how to love myself, let alone love others. She saved me, and there is no way I can properly repay her for all she has done for me.

Thank you for putting up with me when I’m grumpy.

Thank you for paying for food when I don’t have money.

Thank you for always being up for an adventure.

Thank you for allowing me to rant about sports, music, and everything else.

Thank you for being there for me when no one else was.

Thank you for loving me unconditionally.

To put it short, thank you for being you. You’re perfect the way you are. As a college freshman who has no idea where he is going in life, I can confidently proclaim that I am the happiest I have ever been, and it's all because of you.

Valentine’s Day has taken on a new meaning. It's no longer a fantasy holiday that I will only be able to observe from isolation.

If you happen to find yourself in the same position I was during the previous seventeen years of my life, don’t panic.

Love is waiting for you. Just be patient and keep looking.

Happy Valentine’s Day, my Rose. I love you forever and always.

Never forget that.

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