The Destination Is Only 20%, The Journey Is The Other 80%

The Destination Is Only 20%, The Journey Is The Other 80%

Are you living a full 100%?
“Life is a journey, not a destination.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson

I can’t name the number of times I’ve heard this quote and never thought it through until just yesterday. We’ll often hear: “It’s about the journey, enjoy the journey!”

If life feels like everything but an exciting journey, I mean how can this really be true right? Can’t you see the number of hours I’m scheduled to work this week? How sleep deprived I am? The paper I have due at midnight that I haven’t started because I’ve been so busy focusing on how STUCK I feel?

Well...Why don’t we take a break from the heavy panic? Let’s try and really think Emerson’s quote through. So, life is “supposedly” a journey. Hmmm….

A group of friends or family will gather and say: “Let’s take a road trip to California!” or “Let’s drive to New York this summer!” The excitement grows and grows as the idea unfolds. And on this road trip, you’ll usually see mountains, plains, and wildlife. You may even see the sun shining and setting in a way you never have before.

Well, what if I told you that all of these different things in nature represent the treasures in your life you’ve yet to notice?

“But Alexi, how?! WHERE are these treasures?”

The treasures lie in the little or big things you’ve yet to celebrate! Your dog licking your face before you leave the house. The heart-shaped macaroni card your younger cousin gave you last holiday saying “Eye laf you.” That promotion you got at the job you can’t stand, or even, the letting go of something old and welcoming of something new.

So today, just for today, I challenge you all to remove yourselves from worry and angst, and instead to ask yourselves: “How many treasures have I let pass me by, so focused on my destination, without having noticed them? How many trees have I not seen, how many mountains? How many opportunities, how many triumphs? How many hugs? How many moments of laughter?”

My friends, it is when we recognize, acknowledge, and celebrate the beautiful treasures along the way that we can truly absorb the greatness of not only our destination but of life itself. You see, the destination is honestly that, a simple point on the map: a location.

But our lives are more than just a dropped pin on the Maps app.

Our lives are roads on roads. Intricate roads with bumps and potholes, yes. But also roads surrounded by birds, trees, and valleys. Let us ask ourselves honestly: “When was the last time I stopped to take a look around?”

For today, I challenge you all to remove the blinders that are keeping you from using your peripherals. The blinders that have you SO focused on what’s ahead rather than what’s around. Just for today, forget about the goal you set for yourself: losing 15 pounds, hating your boss, making more money, or acing intergalactic organic chemistry.

For today, rather than driving towards your destination, I want you to stop all movement. And if you’re feeling REALLY risky, step out of the car you’re driving and take a walk through the empty highway. Today, I want you to spend your day in stillness and inner exploration. And after some time I want you to ask yourself: “Where does my magic lie? At home? In that book I haven’t picked up in two years, but have been thinking about rereading? In my favorite bottle of perfume? In that sweet text from my best friend this morning?”

Scan your surroundings, your mind, and your heart. Come into contact with your bliss. Look around. Inhale deeply. What do you see? What do you smell? What do you taste? And what do you love?

Feel that love and that excitement. That gentle smile and sense of comfort. These are the feelings of gratitude and appreciation. These are the feelings of love and of light. Breathe in the gentle atmosphere that surrounds you.

You see, the destination is only 20%. The other 80 lies in the treasures leading up to it.

Would you want to say that you drove your life at a fast pace? Working endless late nights just to try and get to that 20%? Or would you want to say that you stopped to smell the roses along the way? And got to live in your full 100%?

If you haven’t heard it already, let me to be the first to tell you: we are all meant to live our 100%. In each and every moment.

So for today, I challenge you to live in your 100%. Choose gratitude. Choose insight. Choose light. And choose love. Regardless of where you’ve been, or where you wish to be, move mindfully today, in stillness, in awareness and in peace. For the best things in life may not exactly be what’s in front of you, but instead, are what you’re letting… pass you by.

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Ladies, Strong Is Sexy, But Do It For You And Only You

Do not let anyone stop you or tell you that you can't. Soon, they will be asking you how you did it.

Humans are powerful, amazing creatures. Our bodies are capable of so many things that some may never even think as possible. Both men and women are strong, tenacious, robust organisms, but, I am here to focus on the ladies.

Strong is sexy. Power is admirable. Perseverance is desirable.

Strength should not be a sexual defining characteristic.

While running last week, I got honked at twice within a matter of minutes. After discussing the situation with my fellow classmates, the first question I was asked was, "Well, what were you wearing?" What was I wearing? Why should that have any correlation with sex appeal when working out?

Women are strong, powerful, fierce, and so much more.

We do not deserve to get ogled and drooled over when we are working on ourselves.

Newsflash; we do not work out for others, we work out for ourselves. We focus on our mental and physical fitness for ourselves, and ourselves only. The opinions of others do not matter.

Power comes from within. Over the course of a few months, my body and mind have transformed in ways I never thought I would be able to accomplish. I stronger than ever, both mentally and physically. I did not do this for anyone else, I did this for myself, along with many other women out there.

We do not put time into ourselves because somebody else tells us to.

We put time into ourselves because we are our first priority, and if you cannot put time into yourself, what makes you think you are able to put time into anything else?

You need to be strong for yourself to be strong for others. You need to take care of yourself first before you can take care of others. You need to love yourself before you can love others.

This took me a fair amount of time to comprehend. But, since I started putting more time into my personal strength, mental abilities, faith, and more, everything else in my life is falling into place more effortlessly than ever.

Ladies, do this for you.

When you focus on yourself, everything else in your life will fall into place.

DO NOT focus on the opinions and words of others. Do not listen to the small minded, they cannot comprehend your dreams.

Do not let anyone stop you or tell you that you can't. Soon they will be asking you how you did it.

Accept the support from others, thank the compliments, and listen to advice. Ignore anything that may damper your spirit. You are beautiful and powerful. You can do this.

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Stop Living Your Life With Your Eyes Glued To A Cell Phone Screen

Live life through your eyes, not through a smartphone.

I bet you are probably sitting down reading this article and partially rolling your eyes thinking that I am crazy for writing about social media and technology yet again, but just hear me out. This is not me trying to negatively speak about social media and our smartphones, as I have mentioned before, the technological advances we have today definitely do make things easier and have positive implications. However, I think the majority of us take advantage and begin to develop poor habits with our smartphone and social media usage, myself included.

I am one of those people who always has my phone, of course, but I don't like to stay connected all the time. I bring my phone with me to take pictures because I like to capture fun moments and have those as memories to look back on and I don't think that is a bad thing at all. Take as many pictures as you want, but just remember to enjoy those moments with your eyes instead of focusing on a screen the entire time.

The world you live in and the environment surrounding you are so beautiful and precious, but so many of us neglect the real-world for what we think is amazing on social media and such. It is such a time-waster and you can be so much more productive with your time just by limiting how often you use your smartphone and social media, I guarantee it.

Our phones are meant to help us stay connected with others, but in reality, I think it is causing us to drift further apart from others because no one can hold a conversation anymore in the real-world. People are too caught up in social media that they can't even spend a night out with their friends without posting on Snapchat what is going on every five minutes. How are you even enjoying your time out when you just have your face in a phone all night long?

We have been accustomed so much to the technology that people will text one another when they are in the same room, how sad is that? The worst one I see is when people are out to dinner and everyone is on their phones and not even attempting to have a conversation with those around them. It makes me sad that this is what our world has become and I am by no means innocent when I say all of these things. I recognize I do the same thing, but I have been actively working on it and sharing these thoughts to hopefully help others realize how much time you are wasting on your dumb phone instead of going out and living your life.

Remember that you are not obligated to post your entire life for everyone to see and nor should you feel that way. You don't have to post your every move on Instagram or Snapchat just because everyone else does. You have the right to your privacy and no one needs to know what you are doing at all hours of the day, and no one genuinely cares as much about your life as you may think they do.

I love Instagram just as much as everyone else, but life is much more than your Instagram feed. I try to post quotes that actually mean something to inspire others, or just simply pictures that I enjoy which is usually of the beach because that is my home. Don't post pictures just to get "likes" because you are worth so much more than a double-tap on an Instagram post.

I challenge everyone reading this, including myself, to put away your phone when you are trying to get work done. Put it on do not disturb and place it out of sight and see what a dramatic difference it makes in your daily life. I know when I am at work I have been placing my phone in my purse in a closed drawer so I can't see it and it has drastically improved my work ethic. Stop living your life through your phone screen and soak it what is physically around you. You have one life to live, don't waste it by being on your phone all the time.

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