Marrying into any family can be intimidating, so you can imagine the pressure of marrying into a royal one at that. All the princesses, Diana, Kate, and Meghan, have had to readjust their daily lives and habits to follow the strict guidelines that a hierarchy enforces. From always packing an all-black outfit no matter where they go, in case of a death in the family unit, to no PDA when out-and-about.

And among these rules to follow once you’re actually admitted into the family, there is an abundance of restrictions and guidelines you must follow even before you’re in too!

1. The Queen must approve of the proposal before it even happens

Asking your fiancée’s dad for approval? Try asking the Queen of England.

2. The wedding bouquet has to contain myrtle

Every royal bride since Queen Victoria has followed this tradition, and the myrtle itself comes from Queen Victoria’s 170-year-old garden. Myrtle also signifies an emblem of love an marriage.

3. Traditionally, the Royal Family was not allowed to marry a Roman Catholic

This tradition ended in 2011.

4. The Queen also has to sign off on the wedding dress

Though a designer works with the bride-to-be, the Queen has final say. She signed off on Kate Middleton’s dress from the fashion house of Alexander McQueen, as well as Meghan Markle’s Givenchy dress.

5. No Cleavage

All members of the royal family, by blood or by marriage, are always encouraged to wear conservative clothing, which includes little-to-no cleavage and pantyhose worn at all times. This rule is especially enforced with wedding gowns.

6. Speaking of modesty, all dresses have sleeves

Want a strapless dress for your wedding? Well, you probably won’t be marrying into the Royal Family. These dresses don’t just have sleeves, they have long sleeves. And you can see how Kate bent the rules by making her sleeves lace.

7. Dresses are usually made by a British designer

Elizabeth and David Emmanuel designed Princess Diana’s, Norman Hartnell created Queen Elizabeth’s, Sarah Burton for Alexander McQueen made Kate’s dress, and British-Spanish designer John Galliano for Givenchy designed Meghan’s dress

So if you’re having trouble coinciding with any of these rules, maybe the royal life just isn’t for you, and you’ll have to find your prince elsewhere.