The Goal Isn't To Be Busy

The Goal Isn't To Be Busy

The goal is to be purposeful.


I could probably guess it for you; your alarm clock goes off, you run down the list of things that you feel you have to accomplish today, and you hop out of bed holding onto those things, telling yourself that it's going to be a great day.

As the day goes on, you feel every bit of motivation that you had at the beginning of that morning begin to slowly drip away, as each activity goes by.

See, this is the exact moment when I realized that being busy isn't the equivalent of being purposeful.

You can go through the motions each day, checking each goal of the day off of your list, but still feel so empty inside.

I know this because I was there last year, every day.

To me, for the longest time, I thought that if I was constantly keeping busy and shoving in events or other little things in my day, that meant that I was doing something right.

If I didn't have a speck of time for myself at the end of the day, that meant I was doing something right.

It was not until I hit rock bottom that I came to this realization.

Being busy does not equal fulfillment or purpose. While this might be the case at times, it does not always reign true.

With the pressure to always feel like we have to be doing something, it's no wonder we as a society go to bed later, wake up earlier, and sacrifice our mental health in order to prove something to other people, or maybe even ourselves.

It was not until I came to college that I really felt this pressure. It got to a point that I couldn't sit down without feeling guilty about not being up and about doing something.

I filled my days most of the time with things that didn't give me purpose and didn't fill my cup.

It was not until I began to actually do things for myself, and not just do things for the heck of it, that I realized that was where my real purpose was.

Make time for yourself, don't try to do everything at once.

Make goals, yes, but don't get so caught up in them that you begin to lose yourself.

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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Goodbye School, Hello Real World

I'm ready for ya!


It's starting to hit me.

I've been in school, year after year, since kindergarten. Maybe even pre-school!

Now, I'm about to graduate with my bachelors in communication and I couldn't be more proud of myself. I'll say it. I often sugarcoat it or suppress it but d*mn it. I'm going to applaud myself. It was hard work. It took a lot of motivation, determination, (caffeine), and willpower to get to where I am today. I worked my ass off.

That being said, I can't help but think... What is life without due dates? What is life like without scrambling to turn in an assignment that's due at 11:59 PM? What is life like with actual sleep? Sleep? I don't know her.

Like I keep telling my boyfriend and my parents, I don't have it all figured out. At least not right now. But I will, and I'm in no rush to land my dream job right now. If anything, I want to take a year to myself. I want to travel. I want to sleep in if I d*mn well please! I want to read as many books as I want. I want to write till my fingers fall off (OK, maybe not that).

You get the jist.

I'm free. I can do and be whatever I want. And you know what? That's terrifying.

I'm lost. I've followed this structure for so long. Now what?

I don't have all the answers yet. But for now, at least right at this very moment, I'm so thankful to have been able to receive such an amazing education. And to be able to say I'm graduating with my bachelors in communication at 21 is an accomplishment in itself.

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