The Effects Of A Broken Home
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The Effects Of A Broken Home

How people with divorced parents really feel.

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The Effects Of A Broken Home
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Dear friend,

Even though we do not know one another, we have something in common. We both come from broken homes. Individually, we have been hurt indirectly by those we love the most, had to grow up fast, keep our feelings bottled up inside and became trapped in the middle of our parents. The image of a perfect family you always imagined has been crushed and you can never bring it back.

You might think it is your fault, but let me tell you something, it is not your fault, you are merely a victim caught in the crossfire. Your parents' divorce was between them and there isn't anything you could have done to fix it. Looking back, I'm sure you can still remember and feel the pain of finding out your parents are getting divorced. You probably had to start a new life.

As you read this, I want you to know you are strong, a survivor and beautiful. Life threw an unexpected curve ball at you, yet you overcame it. Whenever you think of the pain you went through, try to remember the happy memories you have. If you don't have any happy memories, make new ones and treasure those moments the most.

As you continue to grow, keep in mind not all marriages are destined to fail. Just because you never had an example of a great marriage before your eyes or you saw the good and bad parts to your parents marriage does not mean you cannot have true love and happiness as well. Marriages are never easy from what I can tell, but I want to tell you that you cannot stay upset with your parents. Don't stay angry because all that anger can get in the way of your own happiness. Your parents tried their hardest in their marriage, but it did not work out. Sometimes it is never meant to work out and that is for the best.

I believe certain obstacles are put in our lives for a reason and when you overcome those obstacles, they make you who you are today. You saw what a divorce was like and how it affected you in more ways than one. Now it is your responsibility to make sure that your future kids don't go through what you had to go through as a child or a teen. Do everything in your power to keep your family together and show your children a great example of a loving marriage and family.

I hope you realize you are not alone and are loved by your parents and those who are close to you. You have an amazing journey that awaits you, don't let one barrier stop you from continuing that journey ahead.

Sincerely,

A survivor

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